Indawo yokukhangisa i ... Umqondo nezindlela zokukhanga

Ukukhangisa kuyinto (in psychology) umqondo eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ehlukahlukene. Ngamafuphi, inquma ukuzwelana komuntu oyedwa komunye. Ukukhangisa kuyimbumbulu, futhi kuhlangene.

Incazelo yengqondo

Imithombo ehlukene inikeza ukuchazwa okufanayo kulo mqondo, kodwa konke kusho okungenani into efanayo. Ukukhangisa kubonisa ukuzwelana, uhlobo lokuxhumana olunobungane, ukubonakaliswa kwemizwa efudumele nenobungane. Futhi ukuthuthukiswa kokukhangisa kwenzeka, njengomthetho, ngenxa yomzwelo ngokomzwelo nangokwengqayizivele komunye nomunye. Ukuhlolwa kwezinzwa ezivela kulokhu, abahlanganyeli esenzweni sokuxhumana, kudala imizwa eminingi, ukuhlukahluka okukhulu. Kungaba yinoma yini, kusukela ekuthandweni okuvamile komuntu ukuthanda, okuyinto evame ukukhula ngokushesha ibe yothando. Futhi yonke le mizwelo iboniswa ngesimo sengqondo somuntu oyedwa komunye.

Kusukela ekuqalisweni kwengqondo, ochwepheshe kulo mkhakha womsebenzi, kanye nabacwaningi bezenhlalo, baye bafunda isimiso sokwakheka kokunamathiselwe, kanye nemizwa ehlukahlukene phakathi kwabantu. Ngenxa yezifundo ezihlukahlukene, umqondo wokuthi "ukukhanga" nawo uvele, okwathi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi waba umfutho wokuqhubeka nokutadisha abantu. Intshisekelo yangempela nayo ibangelwa izizathu zokubonakala komzwelo, ngakho-ke kwenzeka ngaphansi kweziphi izimo, yikuphi ukude phakathi kwabo, ukuthi yiziphi izikhathi abaphikisi ababonwayo nokunye okuningi.

Ubuntu kuyisici esinqumayo

Kungani umuntu oyedwa ebona abantu abahlukile ngokuhlukile? Omunye angayithanda kakhulu, futhi uzojabula ukuxhumana naye amahora ekugcineni. Omunye umuntu akagcini ukubekezelela umoya namaphupho mayelana nokunyamalala kwalokho okuphila kwakhe. Konke ngokuqondene nomuntu ngamunye. Kodwa hhayi kulokhu kuphela.

Umbono wokuqala nombono, owadalwa emhlabeni, kubaluleke kakhulu. Izazi zengqondo ziye zafakazela ukuthi yisisekelo sokwakha ukuxhumana okulandelayo. Ngemizuzwana embalwa ungaqonda ukuthi kukhona yini ithuba lokuxhumana noma cha. Futhi ezimweni eziningi umbono wokuqala awukhohlisi abantu. Ukubukeka, iphunga le-cologne, ukuzithokozisa, ukuziphatha, izingubo, imikhuba, intonation, bheka - zonke lezi fomu umbono womunye umphikisi ngomunye. Konke lokhu kubonisa lowo muntu njengoba kunjalo. Kukhona okunye okungafihlwa, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukulandela yonke imininingwane. Futhi uma abantu ababili behlangabezana nezindinganiso zomunye nomunye, khona-ke amathuba okuzwelana noma okungenani isifiso sokuxhumana sikhulu.

Igrama

Ngendlela, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ukukhanga nakho kuyindlela ekhonjiswa ngokungabikho kokuxhumana okuhlangene phakathi kwamalungu amabili nesiphakamiso sesiphakamiso. Okungukuthi, icala lokuhlukumeza alikwazanga ukusetshenziswa kanye nendaba. Esinye sezibonelo ezithinta kakhulu yile nkulumo, ezwakala sengathi "ibulawa izinyawo zendlovu". Kuzwakala kungavamile, kodwa ngesikhathi isimiso se-paratactic silawulwa lolu limi, kwakungokwemvelo. Esikhathini sethu lo musho ubonakala kanje - "wabulawa izinyawo zezindlovu". Icala lokuhlukumeza liyabonakala. Lokhu kungokwakheka kokukhanga kwe-syntactic.

Amazinga okukhangisa

Ukukhangisa kunengqondo yezokwelapha ngegama elilandelana kahle, elihlanganisa ezinye ezimbalwa. Kufanelekile ukukhuluma ngamazinga akhe. Kukhona kuphela ukuzwelana, ubuhlobo kanye nothando. Njengoba ubona, amazinga anempilo. Ayikho into enjengokuthi "ayithandi", isibonelo. Kulungile, ngoba ukukhanga kuyimbonakaliso yemizwelo emihle. Kodwa ukuhlolwa ngokomzwelo 'kokuzonda' kuqala ukwakha uma kwenzeka umuntu oyedwa ngesizathu esithile eqala ukucasula omunye. Izimo zihlukile, futhi cishe sonke sizazi.
Izinga ngalinye lizici zalo. Isihawu, isibonelo, ukubonakaliswa kokuthakazelelwa, ukuzithoba, isifiso sokubonisa, ukusiza noma ukuxhumana. Ubuhlobo buyinto ephelele, ebonakala ngokuvela komuntu oyedwa komunye nomunye. Futhi ekugcineni, uthando. Leli lizinga eliphakeme kakhulu lobuhlobo. Kufanele kucatshangelwe ngokuningiliziwe.

Ukukhangisa ebuhlotsheni obuseduze

Kungani kunjalo kanje: lo mfana waziwa ngamantombazane angamakhulu ambalwa, kodwa bonke bawunqabela, kodwa eminyakeni eyisithupha wahlangana nalowo owabonisa ukulangazelela okukhulu kobuhlobo obuseduze naye futhi, ngethuba lucky, waya emigqeni yakhe? Ngoba lihambisana nezindinganiso zalo. Futhi ungowakhe. Uthanda abantu abanjalo. Ngakho wonke amantombazane angaphambilini ayethanda kakhulu. Futhi imibono ehluke ngokuphelele mayelana nobuhlobo bomuntu siqu. Yilapho ukukhanga kuboniswa khona. Lesi yisibonelo esisodwa sezigidi.

Uma sikhuluma ngobuhlobo obuseduze, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi konke kudlala indima lapha. Ukubukeka, umlingiswa, izithakazelo, imibono yokuphila, imigomo. Ukuheha abantu akusiyo nje ukuzwelana. Lokhu kuyisimo sengqondo somphakathi, esakhiwe ngesisekelo sokuhlaziywa kobuntu okukhulumisana ngaso, kanye nakho konke okuhlobene nayo. Vumela abanye abantu bathi ukubonakala noma uhlamvu kuphela kubalulekile kubo - lokhu kuphela okokuqala kubonakala kanjalo. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ngomqondo onjalo, njengokulinganisela. Libhekisela ngokuqondile egameni elithi "ukukhanga". Kuyini lokhu? Ukuhlanganiswa okuhambelanayo kuzo zonke izimfanelo zomuntu siqu nezangaphandle zomuntu. Wonke umuntu unomdla wakhe, kodwa bonke abantu bafuna ukuba nobuhlobo obuseduze nomuntu ozobonakala futhi abukeka omuhle, futhi izithakazelo nemibono zifana, futhi uhlamvu oluhle. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lakhe. Futhi yonke into enjalo isiphelele kumuntu ophupha ngaye ngokungazi lutho. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi empeleni. Ngokuvamile abantu abanjalo bahlala bodwa, ngoba akuvamile ukuthola ithuba elikwazi ukudweba emcabangweni wakho. Abanye, esikhathini eside esidlule bebona ukuthi ukuphelela akunakwenzeka ukuhlangana, kakade ukhohliwe mayelana nalezi zithombe futhi baphile ngokujabula nalowo muntu, mhlawumbe, akapheleli kukho konke, kodwa kwaba naye konke konke kwavela, futhi kuhle.