Ukuziba - yezindlela endala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo. I umbono bengqondo

Ukuziba - lena ngenye yezindlela ethandwa kakhulu ukuvikela ngokwengqondo ezingeni lomuntu noma izimo, kanye indlela ukuze ajezise omunye umuntu. Ngokuvamile zabonakala: "Ukuziba - yezindlela endala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo." Sizobe ukukhuluma okuningi mayelana naleyo.

Lokhu kuhlanganisa nombono ka "indiva"

Okokuqala, indiva - ke (kwengqondo) Ukugwema. Man uyazi emibi, kodwa enquma ukungaqhubeki ziwulalelisise. Uyakhumbula izinkinga ngebukhona zabo, futhi uzama ukuqiniseka ukuthi noma kunjalo awusebenzi liphazamisane izici ongakhulula ulwazi mayelana Kuzitshiwe. Kungenzeka ngenhloso: intombazane "akusho ukuqaphela" insizwa ukhathele usathandana noma into efana naleyo. Kodwa kukhona izimo lapho umuntu ngokungazi uyasuka inkinga.

Kuhle inketho kobuhlungu, noma ukunganakwa - yezindlela endala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo?

Zikhona ongakhetha ezingasiza indiva empilweni izimo, futhi uma wenza okuphambene ngokuphelele. Akubalulekile ukugxila izinkinga ezincane zansuku zonke, okungakwazi kungaholela emiphumeleni engathí sina. Khumbula ukuthi kokuziba - uhlobo lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo uma ingane singcoliswe izingubo emgwaqeni. Yini ngaphezulu - indoda yakho encane noma ezinye uhlobo amanikiniki amanikiniki?

Ukuhlobana indiva

Ngokwesibonelo, umamezala wathi ngandlela-thile luhlaza embuzweni umakoti. It kuyafaneleka ukucabangela ukuthi lokhu ukuziphatha ejwayelekile noma umuntu ekhathele, ethukuthele egan 'futhi kwadingeka ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo. Uma kuwukuzikhohlisa, kungani ukugxila kule akhawunti futhi uphendule ubudlova nokuhlaselwa. Kungaba ukuhlakanipha ukweqa esidlule ezindlebeni luhlaza. Kodwa uma lokhu sivamile eshiwo ngenhla umalokazana futhi yena uyaqaphela ubonisa ukushayisana ke kukhona indawo esimweni eziyinkinga okufanele ixazululwe ukunika amandla zokuxhumana ezijwayelekile. Izinkinga ezibucayi uyakhuthazwa ukuba indiva. Ukudonsa amuke, ngeke ukwazi ukuthola isixazululo, ngakho - izohlala futhi ekugcineni ngeke zithole ezingadingekile, ngisho clog up isimo namaqiniso.

Kungokufanayo umalokazana wakhe, kwabanye isizathu indodakazi ukukhononda, uzoqhubeka esebenzisa isihluku, ingxabano zihlanganisa amanye amalungu emkhayeni, inqobo nje uma umalokazana amabutho idilike ukuza. Ngenxa yalokho - kungamanyala omkhulu, noma, yini nakakhulu, ethule indodakazi wilting funa senkulumo ngqo nokuxazulula umalokazana. Isizathu sokuba singalunaki ngezinkinga ezingathí sina kungenzeka ukwesaba banal: ukwesaba ukwehluleka, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngokokuqala isixazululo kanye nemali.

indiva-matrix

Keane futhi Eric Mellor Sigmund kanye athuthukile iqhinga lokuphamba matrix kutholakale umsuka kanye indiva into. Sicabangele zindlela ezintathu ezahlukene: ezingeni esifundeni, hlobo.

Amazinga indiva kulesi simo kubhekwe ezine. Ziyakwazi:

- ukutholakala amakhono (abantu indiva ukuba khona izinkinga kungenzeka lonke isinqumo);

- okukushoyo (ukuqonda ukuba khona isixazululo, kodwa ekuphikeni ekuqaleni ukusebenza yayo);

- izinguquko ezingenzeka (ukuqonda khona izixazululo, kodwa kuthuthukiswe ngokwehluleka kwakhe ukusebenzisa);

- amakhono ethu siqu (ukungakwazi ukwenza isixazululo kungenzeka ngenxa yobudlelwano siqu ingamukeleki le ndlela).

Zintathu izindawo omubi wokushaya indiva "Mina", abanye, isimo.

Izinhlobo indiva - isisusa, ithuba futhi inselele.

Ngenxa yalezi zindlela ezintathu kuyinto matrix:

Ukusebenzisa le-matrix, kungenzeka ukuthola ezingeni lapho khona akasinaki inkinga, futhi ngokuvumelana nomthelela umuntu ukhuthaze ukufuna isixazululo. Ukucinga "ekhaya" ukuqala kumugqa ophezulu, kwesokunxele esitokisini, futhi phambili phansi idayagonali.

Ukuziba - ke ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo

Yeka ukuthi sikwazisa kanjani wafinyelela kuleso siphetho? Ngokuvamile abantu ngamabomu nomunye ukuze ajezise ngokuntula kwakhe ukunakwa. Ukuze uthole insizwa unecala kuyoba sengqondo kabuhlungu qakala imizamo yakhe yokubuyisana phezu ingxenye intombazane. Shona ungafaka isicelo basebenzisa lezi zindlela ezifanayo inceku, senze iphutha ngokukushalazela imizamo yakhe izimilo. Ngakho, umuntu oyishaya indiva, ekugcineni bangazizwa isikhala esingenalutho noma athukuthela ngaso, uma isikhathi akagcini ukuyigwema. Cabanga ngokuqaphela ngaphambi kokuthi ngendlela ukuze ajezise umakhelwane: Ungabi iyiphi yokubi, futhi kanye. Ukuziba - yezindlela endala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, ukusetshenziswa kuba thukela ezingaphezu kuka umonakalo. Noma yimuphi nzima isimo kumele kubhekwane: ngokusebenzisa ingxoxo, noma wokuqoqa ulwazi, by ezihilela abanye - nakanjani, kodwa ningenzi lutho. Ukuhlaziywa ezanele isimo uyokwenza kucace yini noma cha ukusebenzisa ukuziba yezindlela endala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, noma sebenzisa amasu ezicashile akuyona uthathwa umonakalo psycho-ngokomzwelo umuntu. Cabangela lezi zimo ezimbalwa ezedlulele ukuthi ngingakwazi ukukusiza ukuthi uqondisise ukunganakwa lapho kudingeka khona.

"Ziba" - ayasiza uma ...

Umuntu oyisiphukuphuku ngokweqile. Yebo, akazange adikibale, sanquma ukuthatha isinyathelo, ukuletha agumenti okunengqondo, izincazelo, kodwa abaphikisi ungaphakathi bamane abaqondi. Ingabe uhlushwa inkinga kosuku, kwesonto, kwenyanga, ngokuletha wonke amaqiniso amasha namadala, kodwa akukho imiphumela. Ingabe kuwufanele umzamo ngoba ukuba uchithe isikhathi esiningi nokuzikhandla, noma kangcono ukugcina ungangeneki?

Man sisincane. Uma lokumba okushiwo delirium, ethela emlonyeni Umphikisi, kuba siqu kuphela ingqondo clog yakho futhi bonakalise kwemizwelo. Ugogo, owayengafuni ukushintsha le nsizwa etekisini ngeendaba ukuthi kubukeka umthombo lungafanelekile futhi ngomlomo kwaba njani "ngesikhathi yami" kungenziwa indiva. Njengoba base bethole kungekho Ukusabela kwabantu enkulumweni yakhe eqotho, yena uzolahlekelwa isithakazelo. Emphakathini khulula, wonke umuntu ukubuka okulungile, njengoba ufisa. Ufuna guy waklebhula jeans - ake amabhere, nakuba ongenalwazi isiketi. Kuyinto choice yakhe.

Inkinga iwukuthi ongabalulekile lowo, futhi bakhomba ukunakwa wakhe kungaholela yalokho ezimbi. Ingane wasebenzisa igama elithi "okubi". Okokuqala kufanele indiva, ngoba babone usabela kanjani abazali, ingane ingase nje baphelelwe isithakazelo ngale ndlela. Kodwa uma kwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi, kubalulekile ukuxazulula inkinga nge eziphumulele ingxoxo besebenzisa amasu ehlukene, ngokobudala wengane.

Ungeqisi it. isilinganiso Yonke indawo ebaluleke

Ukuziba - ifomu endala lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, kodwa musa ulethe ku-ke ngisho nabantu abadala "mfowethu" - ukungabi nandaba. Ukuze ukwazi wathumba ukuze kubalekeleni izinkinga ngempela ngeke anakekele. Ngokwesibonelo, ukunganaki, njalo ubaba kwezinkinga zasekhaya - okokuqala ngenxa yokukhathala, bese aphume umkhuba, kodwa banakho futhi abanandaba, "ukuvumela unkosikazi uyaqonda." Yebo, ezizungezile bazokwazi ukuthola isisombululo ngokwabo, hhayi iqiniso lokuthi ngeke ukwanelisa wena. Kodwa kufanele kube namanje.