Kuyini Ukuqeqesha?

Umqondo othi "coaching" waba umkhuba fashion ekuqapheliseni amathuba omuntu, umqondisa endleleni efanele futhi bakhethe ilungelo lokuphila isikhundla. Ukusheshisa kwezinqubo zokuphila, ukufuna ukushintsha esimweni, ukungafuni ukubekezelela impilo yakho kuphoqeleka ukuba uye ezinyathelweni ezimbi futhi ubheke izindlela. Kuyini coaching?

Ukuqeqesha akuyona ingqondo ye-psychotherapy futhi akudingeki ukuba ukudidanisa le mibono. Lena indlela yokwelulekwa nokuqeqeshwa okunganikeza izincomo ezilukhuni, kodwa ufuna izindlela ezihlangene zokuqaphela imigomo ekugcineni nokuxazulula izinkinga. Umqeqeshi akayena ochwepheshe be-psychotherapist futhi ngeke azame ukwenza "amanxeba akho angokomoya" aqine "ngokushesha", akubeke phansi futhi ukhulume ngalokho okufanele ukwenze. Ungaphezu kwakho konke umlingani ophethe ubuchwepheshe, ukholo kumuntu futhi ngokungangabazeki unobuntu bakhe obunjalo.

Ubani ofuna i-coaching? Ukuqeqeshwa kuyadingeka kubaphathi, psychotherapists, psychologists, consultants. Kubo bonke labo ngandlela-thile babe nomthelela emicabangweni. Ukuqeqesha ukuqeqeshwa kuyindaba ebuthakathaka kakhulu futhi ayikwazi ukufundwa ezincwadini noma ezincwadini ze-elektroniki zabaqalayo. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuqeqeshwa kudluliselwa kusuka komuntu kuya komuntu. Isiqubulo esiyinhloko salesi siqondiso singaba: "yenza njengoba ukhona", ngokungafani nokuxoxisana okujwayelekile nathi sonke "yenza njengoba ngenza."

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwezizukulwane zangaphambili nezibonelo zayo ezibuhlungu namaphutha akungabazeki okuhle, kodwa umsebenzi oyinhloko wokuphila coaching ukuthola umuntu ukuthola isinqumo esifanele futhi uthole indlela yokuphuma. Ihloselwe indlela ehlelekile yokufeza umsebenzi, okungukuthi, iholela ekunciphiseni amaphutha esikhathini ngasinye sokulandelela. Yingakho ukuqeqesha ukuqeqeshwa njalo kufikela esakhiweni esilandelayo sokudidiyelwa ku:

• Ukuhlelwa okunembile komgomo ocacile womqeqeshi;
• Sesha izindlela zokuziphatha eziphumelelayo ngokuhlaziywa okuningiliziwe kwalawo modeli nokulungiswa kwe-algorithm yomsebenzi yezenzo ngokusebenzisa i-algorithm ekhona ukuze kufinyelelwe umgomo.

Kungani udinga coaching? Naphezu kokuthandwa kakhudlwana kwalesi simiso, umuntu kufanele ahlole amakhono abo futhi aqonde ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga ethize hhayi wonke umuntu, ngokusekelwe esimweni sengqondo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kochwepheshe kwangaphambilini. Ukuba umqeqeshi ngezinye izikhathi kunzima futhi ngenxa yesimo esiyinhloko somphathi (okungenakudideka ne-egocentrism), okungukuthi, umkhuba wokuzicabangela isikhundla "esiphakeme" ngezinhlelo zakhe eziyinkimbinkimbi nezinhlelo. Kodwa lokhu akusikho konke esikudingayo, ngoba ekwakhiweni okuphumelelayo kwe-coaching, umuntu kufanele acabangele ukuzikhethela, hhayi ukwamukelwa okuvamile.

Okubalulekile ezweni lomqeqeshi yikhono lokubuza imibuzo efanele futhi usebenze nezimpendulo esithola ekuphumeni. Ungafaki imibono yakho kanye nomqondo wakho, ukuthi ungenza kanjani kahle esimweni esithile, kodwa ukusiza umuntu ukuba aphile impilo ephikisayo, hhayi wena.

Ekuphileni kwangempela, umqeqeshi ngumuntu obumbene obhekene nokuphila ekuphileni okuye kwakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga zokuba khona futhi wathola injongo yokuphila futhi manje usekulungele ukwabelana nabanye ngokuphila kwakhe okucebile, ukwenza iklayenti imamathele ezinkingeni zakhe, bakholelwe ukuthi ayibalulekile, Ukuthi angakwazi okuningi, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi kulula ukunqoba.

Umqeqeshi akayona nje isithakazelo, ozinikezele ubuchwepheshe nazo zonke izimfanelo zomuntu ezidingekayo ukuze umfundi aqiniseke futhi abone ukukhanya ekupheleni komhubhe, kodwa kuqala komuntu, ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuqala umsebenzi ophefumulayo endleleni eya ekuthuthukiseni umhlaba Lokhu, kuzomele usebenze ngokwakho, futhi wenze ngokwakho, okusho, psychoanalysis. Ngakho-ke, khumbula ukuthi unesibopho sokuthi umuntu uzomuzwa kanjani emva kokuxhumana (umsebenzi) nawe futhi ungamlimazi, okungenani, ukuziphatha kwakhe.