Indlela yokubhekana nokukhathazeka ezihlukahlukene izimo?

Kwakuyintokozo yodwa kuyinto ayequlekile ngokwengqondo, okubandakanya abantu uma kwenzeka izimo ezihlukahlukene, ngokuvamile uhlanganiswa zeningi futhi konke ukunakwa kwabanye. Ukuze ufunde indlela yokubhekana nokukhathazeka ezimweni ezahlukene, kungatholakala imihlomulo Self-Government kusuka eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezidumile. Nokho, ulwazi olungako, ngoba kukhona namanje okudingekayo futhi ikhono lokulawula isimo sakhe sengqondo.

Ikhono ukulawula ingenye inzima ukwenzeka ngoba umuntu ngamunye, njengoba abantu abaningi kunalokho kunzima ukubhekana ezihlukahlukene zithi ngokomzwelo futhi, ikakhulukazi, ukuzama ukulawula kubo. Kwakuyintokozo yodwa zonke ebonakaliswa ngezindlela ezahlukene, kodwa ngokuvamile umuntu eseqale othi awube, ezandleni nezwi ukuthuthumela livela, kukhona umuzwa amahloni isifiso balahle unganaki kakhulu umuntu wakubo. Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ikhambi ukukhathazeka Namanje hhayi kusungulwe isintu, ngakho umuntu ethola yena zezindlela kodwa aqhubeke ezolile futhi hhayi ukukhombisa isimo esingokomzwelo abanye.

Kukhona izincomo eziningana jikelele, lokhu okulandelayo lapho uzokwazi ukunciphisa umthelela imizwelo yabo ibe mincane wena. Ngakho:

1. Ukubuka umoya wakho. Kuzoba usizo kakhulu ukufunda ezinye amasu yoga ukuthi kuzokuvumela ngaphakathi ubuncane isikhathi ukwenza uchungechunge umzimba ethize kanye ukufinyelela elinokuthula nelilondekile ngisho ukuphefumula. It is kuhlobane ngokuqondile isimo sethu sengqondo, futhi ngaleyo ndlela ngaye ungakwazi donsa ngokwakho ndawonye futhi ngehlise umoya.
2. Autosuggestion nge oda yangaphakathi. Sebenza ukuze amaqembu amaningana ngesimo sengqondo esiqondile, lapho ungenza ukufakwa ngezenzo ezithile. Ukuze uthole ukwaziswa okwengeziwe mayelana nendlela yokubhekana nokukhathazeka ngosizo self-hypnosis kungatholakala ezincwadini eziningi Psychology kwezenhlalo, iseluleko okufanele zisebenzisa.
3. Ukuvivinya umzimba. Lapho injabulo zabantu bengazi sibopha, ngenxa ezinyakazayo yayo kungaba ngake nemvelo. Yima futhi hhayi zinkulu. Kungcono kancane uthanda (uma kungenzeka) futhi zama ukugxila kwezinye izinto, nabakhi bezindawo abanaki imithelela kubantu ababezizungezile. Udinga nje ukucabanga ukuthi akuzona. Nge ukuziqeqesha ngokufanele kwenza kungafundwa.

Inkinga lalivamile phakathi abafundi ukuthi ukuhlolwa (futhi ikakhulukazi phambi kwakhe) ulwazi ukhiphe ngokuphelele kusukela ekhanda ngenxa ngokomzwelo. Lokhu, kuholela ngaphezulu ukucindezeleka sengqondweni ngempela, njengoba abantu bangase unganakile zahlelwa ngokwakho i-ukuhluleka. Kanjani amandla okubhekana injabulo ukuhlolwa noma uyinciphise ubuncani? Ukuze uvimbele lokhu ukuthi kwenzeke, kubalulekile, okokuqala kunakho konke, kusengaphambili ukuze uzinike kakhulu esimweni sengqondo noma yikuphi ukuhlolwa umbuzo, uyokwazi ukunqanda walinganisa ukunikeza impendulo efanele. Akunakusetshenziswa akumele zigxile ukwehluleka.

Cishe ingxenye yabo bonke abantu ukuyaluza iqala ukuba othi awube, ukugcwaliseka kwalesi Compounding inqubo bole ngaphezulu. Ububomvu we izihlathi iyimpendulo engokwemvelo umzimba, okuyinto eyenzeka ngenxa igazi ligeleze isikhumba engenhla. Kuyinto ngenxa yokuthi ukuthi obonakala khulu, abantu abaningi bakhathazeka ngendlela hhayi othi awube ukujabula futhi ukulondoloza ibala zemvelo. Impendulo lapha kulele godu phezu futhi encike ngqo kwi ekutheni kungakanani umuntu uyakwazi ukulawula imizwelo yabo.

Ngeshwa, i iresiphi ngempumelelo jikelele injabulo akekho uye okwamanje yasungulwa, ngakho indlela yokubhekana injabulo bonke uyazinqumela. Abanye abantu bakhetha ukususa ukungezwani ngokwengqondo ngosizo utshwala, kodwa ukwenza kanjalo is hhayi Kunconywa, ngoba kungaba jikisa umlutha.

Ngakho, kufinyeta bonke ngenhla, ungenza esiphethweni main kufanele ukuqapha isimo sabo psycho-ngokomzwelo, ebamba wonke amathuba, kanye ukuze uthole okuhlangenwe nakho njengesikhulumi sasobala. Ekugcineni, ngenkuthalo ngenxa, uyofunda ukuba bazibuse ezihlukahlukene ezimweni.