5 "ababulali" abakhulu bokuthembela

Kunezimfanelo ezizokusiza ukuba uphume esixukwini. Kungokudala umqhele ongabonakali ozungezile, okuvumela ukuba ube nabanye abantu abakuzungezile. Kuphathelene nokwethemba. Lekhwalithi ikuvumela ukuthi uvule kalula umnyango futhi ufeze imigomo yakho. Kodwa abantu abaningi bazithandela ngokuzithandela izimpumelelo ezingenakubalwa, ngokuzethemba "ukubulala" ukuzethemba. Izitha zakho ezinhlanu ezinkulu ziphambi kwakho.

Ukuqhathanisa

Lokhu kufundiswa kuzo zonke izitimela zebhizinisi: kufanele ufunde kusuka kumncintiswaneni wakho, ukukopisha amandla abo. Kodwa kuthiwani uma uzama ukuthola ubuhle, futhi ungafuni ukuba yinkimbinkimbi yomuntu? Indaba yakho yonke yiklamo eyingqayizivele ekhombisa zonke izici zobuntu bakho. Thembeka wena ngokwakho, funda ukwamukela amandla akho nobuthakathaka. Kuphela amandla akho okwenza ube ngcono. Futhi kuwe kuwe ukuthi uzokuthatha umzamo kangakanani ukwenza lokhu. Futhi uma umatasa usebenza ngokwakho, ngeke ube nesikhathi sokuqhathanisa nabanye.

Ukugxila ekuhlulekeni okudlule

Ukwehluleka kufana ne-ballast engakuvumeli ukuba uvuke kwalasha futhi ukhuphukele emhlanganweni omkhulu. Yiba nesibindi sokubona lokhu njengesikhashana esingadingekile ekuphileni kwakho kwangaphambilini, okungekho okubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yanamuhla. Kule ndlela kuphela oyokhipha amahlombe emithwalweni, kuphela usakaze amaphiko angabonakali ngemuva kwakho. UWinston Churchill uthe "ukwehluleka akubulali." Ekugcineni, kunesimo esisodwa kuphela esingenakulungiswa. Kungokufa. Ngakho-ke, akukho lutho oluvimbela ukuba nenkani futhi luqhubeke luqhubeka.

Ukungabi nokulungela

Abahlakaniphile bathi "ukunqoba kuyakuthanda ukulungela." Ukusebenzisa kwakho konke ukuphila, kodwa kubalulekile ukuphatha isikhathi sakho ngokulinganisa. Njalo usuku olusha lunikeza ithuba eliyingqayizivele lokulungiselela izimpumelelo ezintsha. Dala indlela yokuphila yomuntu onqobayo, lapho amandla amakhulu okushayela azoba yingqondo yakho. Ingabe ulungele ukuhamba ngenye indlela noma wenze enye into ebalulekile? Ingabe usukulungele ukuvuka ekuseni nakwephuzile? Ulungele ukwenza lokho abanye abangakwazi okwamanje? Ulungele ukuhlala njengoba ufuna?

Ukwesaba

Kungani abaningi kithi bengalokothi baphumelele amaphupho abo? Sithanda ukungabi nobungozi nokuphila okuthobekile. Emva kwakho konke, uma ubeke konke okusemandleni, ungakwazi ukunqoba, kodwa ngokuphumelela okulinganayo ungalahlekelwa. Akekho ofuna ukulahlekelwa yilokho asebenakho kakade, ngakho abantu bayeka ukuzithanda kwabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umbono wabanye, indlela yabo yokuphila ingcindezi enkulu kuwe. Uma uqhubekela phambili, abagxeki abaningi sebevele behlezi eceleni komgwaqo, abahlukumeza ize. Abafuni ukuqhubeka futhi banelisekile ezincane. Umsebenzi wabo ukuhlwanyela okusanhlamvu kuwe.

Okubi

Indlela yokubhekana nesimo esibi, uma sithelelwa nsuku zonke kuwe? Okokuqala, unqamule kusukela kumapulatifomu wezindaba wezindaba. Okwesibili, yeka yonke imicabango emibi efuna ukuhlala ekhanda lakho. Izinkolelo zabantu ziyimbewu enamandla, lapho izithelo ezivuthiwe noma ezibolile zikhula khona. Uhlobo luni lwesithelo oyithandayo nokuthi yini oyilungele ukwethula emhlabeni?