Indlela yokuphila ngokujabula, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, yizwa. Amathiphu namasu

Khumbula amagama avela eyaziwa kusukela ezinganeni zezingane: "Futhi wamanga uNkosana Cinderella, futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi bahlala ndawonye bejabule njalo"?

Mhlawumbe, kusukela eneminyaka engamashumi amane, ngangizikhathaza ngezikhathi ezithile ngombuzo ofanayo: "Ingabe kufana nokuphila ngokujabula? Kusho ukuthini lokhu? " Yisiphi "eside" futhi "ndawonye" engingawaqonda ngokugcwele futhi ngiyiqaphele, kodwa ngesigaba senjabulo isimo sasiyinkimbinkimbi.

Ngangikhathaza njalo abazali bami, ngizama ukuyiqonda, kodwa impendulo kuphela engangikwazi ukuyithola kubantu abadala: "Uzokhula, futhi uzoqonda konke ngokwakho!"

Yebo, sengikhule kakade. Ungasho ukuthi ngisho nakakhulu, ukhulile kakhulu. Ngiyazi ukuthi ngingaba kanjani mina, kanjani ukuthi ngingashintshi izimiso zami, ukuthi ngingaphumelela kanjani emsebenzini. Mhlawumbe, yisikhathi sokubhekana nesigaba senjabulo.

1. Umqondo wenjabulo.

Ngaphambi kokuphendula umbuzo wokuthi ungaphila ngokujabula, ake sizame ukuchaza leli gama.

I-Encyclopaedic Dictionary ithi ngaphansi kwalesi simo umuntu kufanele aqonde umuzwa wokwaneliseka okungaphakathi kunabo bonke ezingeni ezahlukene zokuphila: empilweni yansuku zonke, emsebenzini, emkhayeni womndeni. Futhi, kuyadingeka ukuba uzizwe kokubili ukugcwala nokuhleleka kokukhona komuntu.

Ngesikhathi sokubhala lesi sihloko, kwadingeka ngifunde inani elikhulu lezincwadi ezifanele. Kwakukhona ukuthi iningi labantu emhlabeni wethu, okungukuthi u-51%, yizifo ezimbi. Yebo. Laba yibo abantu abathi, ngokusho kwengqondo kwengqondo, bazikhumbuza ngokwabo ingcindezi. Ukuzama, njengoba bekusho, ukuziphilisa, banamathuba amaningi okuhlukanisa, bathola umdlavuza, bahlale bangashadile futhi bonke bakhohliwe ekugugeni. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Into yukuthi kuphela imicabango emihle futhi ekhanyayo njalo idala izenzakalo ezijabulisayo.

Yebo. Ngifuna ukusho ukuthi ukucabanga ngokubi nokulindela impumelelo noma injabulo efanayo kuyisimo sokuqala sokungabi nalutho nokungenasisekelo

2. Kusho ukuthini ukujabula?

Ngaphambi kokuba ngiqale ukubhala le ndaba, nganquma ukuqhuba ucwaningo oluncane lwezenhlalo. Kwesinye sezokuxhumana, ngangibuza umbuzo ongenhla. Ngiyavuma, umphumela wangenza ngacabanga.

Okokuqala, abaphendulayo babeka ukwaneliseka ngokuphila ngokuvamile, inhlanhla yesibili - inhlanhla, kanti okwesithathu noyesine bathola okuhlangenwe nakho okunamandla futhi okujabulisayo futhi banesibusiso esiphezulu kakhulu.

Mhlawumbe, ngizohlela konke ngokuhlukile kancane. Nakuba ngiphawula ukuthi bonke abaphendulile bebaningi abantu beqembu elifanayo kanye nesimo senhlalakahle, ngakho-ke idatha etholakalayo ingabhekwa kahle kakhulu.

3. Ngingaphila ngenjabulo futhi ngingafunda lokhu?

Izazi ze-Psychologists zithi labo abafuna ukufeza leli zwe badinga kuphela ukuthola imithetho embalwa yokuphila.

• Smile kaningi. Ubani? Abangane, abajwayele, izihlobo, abadlula ngokungahleliwe-ngokubheka, esibukweni.
• Nsuku zonke ukunikeza umphelelisi. Ngisho noma udabukile kakhulu, thola amandla okungenani ukuthatha ifoni bese uyacela igama lomusa, uthi, umngane noma ugogo othandekayo.
• Yiba lula. Yebo, le recipe, yebo, iyoba usizo kakhulu kumantombazane. Zama ukudayisa izinwele zakho, sebenzisa ukwakheka okucacile, ugqoke kancane ngokungcolile kunokujwayelekile.
• Zijabulise ngisho nasezintweni ezincane.
• Ukukhumbula izikhathi zenjabulo nokuphila, kulindeleke inhlanhla nokuhle.
• Zizungeze ngemibala ekhanyayo izingubo nasendlini.
• Ukuzwa into entsha, ukufunda okuthile. Thuthukisa, thola okuzilibazisa, ngoba emhlabeni kukhona izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo.
• Ukubeka izinto ngendlela efanele ekamelweni nakudeskithophu ehhovisi. Ngokwezengqondo zengqondo, izinto ezihlelwe kahle zidala umuzwa wokuzethemba ekufinyeleleni imigomo.
• Ukukhuluma kaningi kunokubhala. Njengoba kunjalo, abantu abajabulayo bavulekile kakhulu ekukhulumisaneni, kuyilapho abantu abathukuthele bevame ukuphonsa imisho embalwa kuphela.

Eqinisweni, thina, mhlawumbe, siphendule umbuzo owawusekuqaleni kwalesi sihloko mayelana nendlela yokuphila ngokujabula. Ingabe kunzima? Kubonakala kimi, cha. Kuvela ukuthi ukuze inhlanhla ihambe, udinga nje ukuthatha isinyathelo kuyo. Yenza futhi umomotheka ngobuqotho.