Yimiphi imibuzo ekhona?

Wonke umuntu okungenani kanye empilweni yakhe wayekhathazekile. Ngokuqinisekile wonke umuntu uhlushwa imibuzo ekhona yangempela. Kuyini? Ukwesaba okungunaphakade, okubangelwa ukucabangela okudabukisayo kokubola kokuba, ukwesaba ukufa kwangaphambi kwesikhathi ... Wonke umuntu ubhekene nalokhu kuhlupheka: omunye umuntu, nakancane. Ingxenye yengonyama yokuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo, ngokusho kochwepheshe (izazi ze-psychologists kanye ne-psychotherapists), iya kubantu asetshenziselwa ukudlula ngaphambi kokuhlupheka ubunzima, okungekho ofundisayo ukuvikela amalungelo abo nokuveza imizwelo. Lesi sigaba sihlanganisa izintandane ezizungezile noma labo abashiywe ngaphandle kwabazali ekuqaleni.

Okubalulekile kokukhona kwezinto

Umuntu uthola incazelo yokuba khona, akholelwa ekukholweni kukaNkulunkulu. Omunye uthola indlela ehlukile yokuzitholela ngaphesheya kwemicabango nezimo ezibophezelayo. Enye yezindlela zokunciphisa ukuhlupheka kwabantu yi-psychotherapy.

Imibuzo ekhona, ngokubheka ochwepheshe abasebenza emkhakheni we-psychotherapy, ukuze babe khona ngabanye ngenkinga yabo, umuntu ucabanga ukuthi: "Ngingazisiza kanjani?". Ukuze uthole izimpendulo, izindlela ezifunwa ngabanye futhi zathola izindlela zokugcwalisa impilo yakhe ngencazelo: wayesebenze ngobuciko, enakekelwa abanye, wazidela emzabalazweni walokho ayekubheka njengokubalulekile, efunde ukuthanda nokuthandwa.

Umsebenzi we-psychotherapy akufanele ukwaneliswe ngokucaphuna imibono nemigomo yezwe elikhulu. Inhloso yalesi siyalo ukusiza umuntu ukuba aqonde imithetho eyisisekelo yokuxhumana nokwakha ubuhlobo namanye amalunga omphakathi.

I-Epicurus yeSamos

Ukuziqhenya ngokuzifuna izimpendulo zemibuzo ekhona kukhona isihloko esivumayo hhayi ochwepheshe besikhashana kuphela. Ngokwesibonelo, isazi sefilosofi esingumGreki u-Epicurus, sasikholelwa ukuthi ukwesaba okukhulu okwesaba abantu kwakuwukumesaba ukufa. Kwakuyihloko esizinikezele kakhulu emsebenzini wakhe, ukuphishekela umgomo omuhle: ukusiza abantu abavamile ukuba basinde ukwesaba okukhulu.

Umsebenzi wakhe wabonwa ngu-Epicurus waseSamos ekusizeni omakhelwane bakhe, ezama ukufeza umgomo omkhulu wokuphila-ukuba ujabule. Uma sicabanga ngesimo esiyinhloko sokuthola injabulo yokuthola injabulo, isazi sefilosofi esikhulu sasendulo senza lo mqondo incazelo engavumelani nhlobo kumuntu wanamuhla. Injabulo ekuqondeni i-Epicurus ukungabikho kokuhlupheka komzimba nangokwengqondo, okungukuthi, akuhlangene nobudlova, ukugcwala nokwaneliseka kwezifiso.

Umsebenzi we-psychologist okhona

Umuntu ovamile akanakwenzeka ukuba aqale ukucabanga ukuthi yiziphi imibuzo ezikhona zokuphila kwabantu. Kodwa-ke, njengoba ezwa ukuthi impilo yakhe, ngokuyisimangaliso, "igeleza esiteshini esiphambene", "imile" noma "iqhuma phambili", iyazibuza yona. Eyesaba ngenxa yokungabikho kwemicimbi, umuntu, okuxhumanisa lokhu okungenalutho nokukhona kwemikhuba yakhe emibi noma ukuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo zakhe ezithile, ukhuluma nombuzo ofanelekile kumuntu wezokwelapha okhona. Emehlweni akhe, isazi sengqondo sezobuchwepheshe singumuntu ongashintsha ukuphila kwakhe, kumsize athole ingxenye entsha, ezithakazelisayo zokuphila.

Ukuqonda ukuthi izenzakalo ezigcwalisa impilo - kungumfanekiso wendlela yabo yokuphila futhi hhayi ezihlobene nezimfanelo zomuntu siqu, azifiki ngokushesha. Ngakho-ke, imibuzo ekhona ihlobene nokuphila komuntu, hhayi izimfanelo zakhe. I-psychologist ye-existential ayifuni i-"I" eyingqayizivele futhi yangempela yiklayenti, kodwa unikeza lo mkhakha wokugcina ukunakekelwa kwenkinga yokuphila okudalwe futhi wenze konke okusemandleni ukuze uphume esimweni esinzima ngokulahlekelwa okungenani.

Izinkinga zokuphila zingokwemvelo

Izinkinga zokuphila ziyinto engokwemvelo, futhi umuntu ongakwazi ukubona izinkinga eziphonsa impilo yakhe, amathuba amasha, "uyakhubeka lapho," engazi ukuthi iyiphi indlela yokuhamba. Ukuzizwa komuntu siqu kanye nomqondo wenkululeko yokuzikhethela kuza ngokuqaphela ukuthi wonke umuntu ungumakhi wokuphila kwakhe. Umsebenzi wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo - ucabangela imibuzo ekhona yomuntu obhekene nenye inhlekelele yokuphila, umsize ukuba asondele lapho eqaphela ukuthi izenzakalo zamanje ziwumphumela wezenzo ezenziwe esikhathini esidlule.

Ngokusho kukaprofesa, udokotela wezokwelapha kanye nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo ekhona u-Emmy Van Dortzen, umuntu ngamunye kufanele azikhethele ukuthi kufanele ashintshe nokuthi kufanele azizwe ejabule futhi ekhululekile kangakanani. Usosayensi wesifazane uyavuma ukuthi abanye abantu abaye bazizwa ukubaluleka kokuphila kwabo bangase babe nesifiso sokushiya izinguquko, futhi bayokwenza okulungile, ngoba lokhu kuyisinqumo sabo.

Umsekeli we- psychotherapy yeqembu u-Irvin David Yalom, njengabo osebenza nabo, wabonisa ukuqiniseka ukuthi izimo zokuphila umuntu azibandakanye ngazo, ngokuvamile zibonisa ubunzima bakhe. Akunakwenzeka ukuthola izimpendulo zemibuzo ekhona, kanye nezinkinga ezibalulekile ezihlobene nokuzalwa nokufa, ukukhetha okukhululekile nesidingo, isizungu kanye nokuthembela, okushoyo nokungabi nalutho. Kodwa ngenxa yokuthi umuntu akakwazi ukuzwa ukugcwala kokuphila aze eze esiphethweni esifanele esifanele, ukhokha ngokukhethekile ekutadisheni imibuzo yomuntu wonke jikelele ngezingqondo zengqondo ezingekho.

Ungasusa kanjani imizwa yokungabi nalutho?

Izingqikithi ezikhona zikhona ubuntu obunenkinga ngezikhathi zonke. Okusabalalisa kakhulu kubo kuzwakala cishe kanje: "Ungabhubhisa kanjani ukungabi nalutho kokuphila komhlaba?". Ukuvakashela ihhovisi le-psychotherapist, okokuqala, ukuhlaziywa kokuhlangenwe nakho kokudlulela esikhathini esidlule, okwesibili, ingxoxo ngesimo samanje sezindaba futhi, okwesithathu, izingxoxo mayelana nekusasa elifisa futhi elizayo.

Ukuqaphela ukubaluleka kokuhlangenwe nakho okwenziwe esikhathini esidlule kuqinisa umuzwa wokugcwele, ukuxoxwa kwesimo samanje kuvumela umuntu ukuba abuke impilo yakhe njengento yokubaluleka, nokuhlonza imiphumela nokufuna amathuba amasha kukwandisa umuzwa wenkululeko yokuzikhethela.

Umsebenzi wezobuchwepheshe

Imibuzo ekhona yithuba, usebenzisa umuntu ukuthi uyazi ukuthi yini azama ukuyenza empilweni yakhe, lokho okuzibekayo kanye nendlela ayinqoba ngayo. Inhloso ye-psychotherapist ekhona ibhekwa njengeyogcwaliseka uma iklayenti ngokwakhe izozizwa inzuzo yalomabhizinisi lapho, lapho ehlaziya ngokucophelela empilweni yakhe, uzothola amathuba amasha okusebenzisana nezwe elikuzungezile futhi, ngokufaka izimiso zakhe, uzothola ugqozi.