Ukudumazeka - Ukukhokha Ukuhlela

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Ayikho imilingo, akukho ukudumazeka.

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Ukudumazeka njengemfanelo yomuntu kuyisimo sokukhathazeka ngokulindela okungapheli, ithemba, amaphupho nokuwa kwekholo kumuntu noma into.

Ukudumazeka kuyinto ukunambitheka okubabazayo ukuqubuka idealizations. Ukuphila kwesiwula kuyisiqoqo sokudumazeka. Kubonakala sengathi kukhona ubuso obungenakubalwa nemibala emkhosini wokuphila, kodwa i-algorithm yokukhungatheka empilweni iyinhloko. Umuntu uzibeka umgomo oyinhloko oyinhloko noma into enhle kakhulu. Ngokudela nokungazinaki izinto eziningi, uya emgomweni wakhe noma ovuthayo, ufisa ngesifiso sokuthola into yokucabanga, amathemba kuye, alindele okuthile okuhle nokukhanya okuvela kuye, akholelwa kuye. Esikhathini sokuqala, sibona udoti olungenangqondo lwesikhathi, amandla kanye nemicabango yengqondo ekuhambeni kokuthile okungeke kumjabulise. Okwesibini, yini engathandeki kakhulu yimithetho yendawo yonke ukuphulwa kombuso we-equilibrium. Noma yikuphi ukuphambuka, ukugqithisa nokuphambene kunomthelela amandla okulingana, futhi bajezisa umuntu ngenxa yezimiso ezihleli engqondweni yakhe.

Ukudumazeka yizinto ezimnandi zengqondo, engqondweni. Ukulula akudabukisi. Uma abantu benamathisela ukubaluleka ngokweqile kokudla, ubulili, imali, izimpahla ezibonakalayo, amandla okulingana avame ukuyibuyisela esimweni somlinganiso. Ubungane obuhle - buzokhonjiswa ngabangane, ubulili obuhle - bukhombise amandla, imoto idalwe, indawo yokuhlala, imali - akukho nkinga, ikhona, kodwa ngaphandle kwempilo futhi yedwa. Ukuxoshwa kwempahla kuthatha umuntu. Lapho esemncane, umuntu ongenangqondo ulandela ukucindezeleka. Wagcwalisa ama-cones, waphulukisa ukuhlukumezeka futhi waqala ukufuna i-rake efanayo. U-Igor Guberman waphawula ngokunembile: "Ngenxa yenjabulo yemizwa yothando lapho sekubuhlungu obukhulu, sesaba kakhulu izinto zokuzilibazisa esisha ukuthi sigqoke ikhondomu emphefumulweni." Eminyakeni ekhulile, lapho kungenakwenzeka ukushintsha isimo, ukudumazeka kuba yikhwalithi yobuntu obonakalayo.

Ukudumazeka okukhulu kunakho konke umuntu akuthola kulokho akunamathele kakhulu. Umkhaya omncane ungingenisa indodana yakhe eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, futhi umama uthi: "Lapho nje indodana izalwa, ukuphila kwethu kwaphela. Manje siphila kuphela ngenxa yakhe. " Ingane iyayizwa, futhi engqondweni yakhe umcabango ugcwele engqondweni yakhe: "Ngingowona oyinhloko emndenini. Ukuphila kwami kubaluleke kakhulu. " Njengoba ekhula, uqinisekisa ukuthi uyisikhungo somhlaba wonke, ukuthi ilanga alingeke livuke ekuseni, noma nini lapho ngikhona. Ukukhula i-egoist kabili engasetshenziselwa ukucabanga nokukhathalela umuntu. Kufika isikhathi lapho edala umndeni wakhe. Umama owazinikela impilo yakhe ukholelwa ukuthi uma ehlala ngenxa yendodana yakhe, kungaba kuhle uma ehlala kuye noma, okungenani, uyamnakekela. Kodwa le ndodana ayinayo ngisho nalokho okushiwo imicabango engafanele. Ngcono kakhulu, ngizokuhalalisela ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa nangomhla ka-8 kuNdasa. Umama ubhekene nokudumazeka okukhulu, awela ekucindezelekeni. Ukudumazeka manje kuba uphawu lwabuntu bakhe. Abesifazane abanjengobuhlungu abaneminyaka engamashumi amane kukhona izigidi.

Ngokuvamile baqonda isizathu sokukhungatheka kwabo ngokuphila, kodwa akukho lutho olungahle lubekwe. Ukuphila kubhaliwe emnyama, iminyaka ihamba, ikhanda elidala kanye namahlombe amancane. Futhi yayiyini imbangela yokudumala? Yebo, kuvela, ingane akudingeki ithandwe? Kuyadingeka, njengoba kudingekile. Kodwa ngomongo wokukhuliswa kwezingane, umgomo oyinhloko ukubeka hhayi izinto, kepha imigomo engokomoya. Injabulo ingokomoya. Thola okungokomoya ngokwalo, kunjengokuthi kunomhlaba ethembeni lokuthola insimbi yenyama. Umgomo womntwana wengane uyimpilo, imfundo, inhlalakahle yempahla kanye nomlingani omuhle. Owesifazane esimweni sakhe uhlala ehlala izingane, unakekele. Kodwa ukukhuliswa akugcini nje ukudla, ukuphuza nokulala. Imfundo - yiyona intuthuko emntwaneni wezimfanelo, okungukuthi, izimfanelo ezinhle zomuntu ngamunye, lokhu kuyikhono lokunikeza ukunambitheka okuningi ngokomoya ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze kube nenjabulo. Indodana kumele iqonde ukunambitheka kwenjabulo ekumomotheka okuthandayo komuntu othandekayo ngokunakekelwa okuboniswe kuye.

Esikhundleni sokumemezela ukuthi uyinkaba yomhlaba, umuntu kumele afundise umfana umthwalo wemfanelo nokukhathalela abanye. Ngokwesibonelo, umama uthi eneminyaka emihlanu ubudala: "Ngihlale ngikhohlwa ukugeza izandla emva kokuhamba. Ungangikhumbuza uma sibuyela ekhaya ukuthi sidinga ukugeza amapeni? "Ingane lokhu kuyimidlalo futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, imfundo yomthwalo wemfanelo nokukhathalela - imfanelo emibili engafaneleki yomuntu. Kancane kancane ukukhulisa inhlonipho yendodana yakhe ngezintshisekelo zakhe, izinkathazo nokukhathazeka, umama uzokukhulula ekuphileni hhayi umuntu othanda ukuzethemba, othanda ukuzimela, kodwa othembekile, onokwethenjelwa, onakekelayo ongasoze ashiya unina.

Umkhankaso ongafiki emgomweni wayo nawo ugcwele ukudumala okunonya. Cha, ukubeka umgomo ongokomoya kithi-ukuhlakulela umusa, ukuthobeka noma ukuzithiba, lo muntu ubheka ukwakhiwa kwendlu njengenjongo esemqoka yokuphila. Usebenza iminyaka eminingi, njengesigqila esikhwameni, futhi, ekugcineni, uqedela indlu. Ukuphila okuqhubekayo ukuyihlomisa, bese unikeza ifenisha. Ukwakha indlu, wazama ukuzibonakalisa yena kanye nabanye ukubaluleka nokubaluleka kwakhe. Umgomo womunye uvela ngaphandle - ngaphansi kwethonya lokungaboni, izinkolelo zamanga, izinkolelo kanye nomthelela wabanye. Indlu ikhona, kodwa kwakungekho nhlobo injabulo futhi ngeke ibe khona. Abantu bakhe amacebo amakhulu, baphupha, benza ama-ideals engqondweni yabo, bese sebefinyelele emgomweni "oyifunayo," bayaqonda ukuthi bathole inkohliso, ukuxoshwa kwalokho ababekuphuphile. Baqala ukubona ukuthi umzamo wawungafaneleki isikhathi namandla. Njengoba usonakalise impilo kule ndawo yokulungiswa nokukhathazeka njalo, umuntu ekupheleni kokuphila uzodumazeka.