Ngingathola eshadile kodwa engenabantwana yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa? amasiko enkolo

Kaningi ungezwa kusuka umakoti nomkhwenyana mbuzo obuhlungu: "Ingabe thina ushade ngaphandle yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa" Ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze aphendule: akukho. Njalo is ipendulo efitjhani. Kodwa kunokuningi okungakhulunywanga ezingavamile. Kuzoxoxwa ngani kwezinye izingxenye zale athikili. Ingabe uthembele kuphela imithetho sesonto, abapristi imikhandlu, ukuchaza nakho abahlala umshado amashumi eminyaka. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi kungani abantu Ngokubuza lo mbuzo ngokucindezela, phindela esidlulileko, okungukuthi ukuqala 1900s, eRussia tsarist.

Uhambo ekuqaleni kwekhulu lamashumi amabili

Masikhumbule indaba. Mhlawumbe kothile omkhulu-ugogo nomkhulu batshelwa okufanele kwaba Russia kuze 1917. Ongazange sathola ithuba ulalele, uqinisekise ukuthi ufunda. Kuyathandeka.

Ngaphambi Okthoba Revolution, abasebancane musa wake wazibuza ukuthi sikwazi ukushada ngaphandle ukubhaliswa, ngoba ukwehlukana State neBandla wayengekho. Yonke imibhangqwana eshadile ezindongeni isonto. Kulokhu, lo mbhangqwana waba nomkhaya agcwele hhayi kuphela kuNkulunkulu kodwa futhi nokuzibonakalisa esimweni.

Ngaphambi kokufika eSoviet Union, cishe bonke abantu ayekholwa. Akekho abashadayo akacabangi, sebeshadile noma cha. It ngempoqo wonke. Amahhovisi Registry akazange okushodayo ekudleni ngaleso sikhathi. Kodwa kusukela 1917-1918, kwaqala ukuvela okukhethekile nemizimba ukubhalisa izakhamuzi. abantu Isonto baye bathuthela ngemuva, noma akanalo nhlobo.

engu-80 zagcina ukushushiswa iBandla, abantu baqala ukubuyisela amathempeli, izigodlo zezindela. Othile kukhona ukholo kuNkulunkulu. Imibhangqwana noma umyeni esizayo futhi unkosikazi ufuna angcwelise umshado. Futhi ngaqala ukubuza ukuthi kungenzeka ukuba ushade ngaphandle yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa? Ekuqaleni ezihlalweni zobukhosi bethwele nemiqhele abangashadile. Kodwa ngemva kwesikhathi, balindeleke ukuba bakwazi ukukhombisa isitifiketi somshado. Kungani?

Wedding - wemfanelo omkhulu

Akuwona wonke pair isinyathelo ngenxa kanembeza, ongcwelisayo umshado wabo. Ukuhlanganyela okuvalelisa emva komshado. Njengoba Bathi abefundisi abaningi, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi abantu ungazizwa akabangeli nje kuphela nomunye, kodwa futhi kuNkulunkulu. Phela, lapho abancane beze kumbhalisi, bayaqonda ukuthi ngokomthetho manje kukhona indoda nomfazi, umkhaya wangempela, umthwalo livela. Futhi abantu Church kungenzeka okokuqala, kababoni uNkulunkulu, khona emshadweni bangabonisa waqonda njengendlela lutho lutho isiko. Futhi scary. Ngingathola eshadile kodwa engenabantwana umbhalisi kulesi simo? Lutho neze. Ngaphambi kokuba uNkulunkulu, impendulo Bayothwala ngumnikelo wesono esibi kangaka, njengoba ekuhlakazekeni komshado.

Ngeke kubhekwe kusimo ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi ngaphandle isitembu passport ungashadile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kusukela ngo-kuhoxiswe esonweni pair zokunganaki. Okwamanje, in ezifundeni eziningi abapristi ukuqhuba izingxoxo imibhangqwana abaye yanquma ukuhamba phansi indawo yezinto. Lapho bayohlabela khona ukuphendula, ungakwazi ushade ngaphandle yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa noma cha. Lokhu kungenxa kakhulu kulabo ubona uyise okokuqala. izono wakhe uyazi, futhi uma becabanga ukuthi yikuphi ixazululwe ne ekhethekile interview nabo, kungenzeka ubambe.

Ukubhalisa futhi lomshado ngosuku olulodwa

Okwamanje, ungakwazi ngokuvamile ubone umakoti e ingubo emhlophe kuyinto Chic esontweni ku ingalo nesoka lakhe. Nginabazali wabo, izihlobo, abangane. Zonke nenhle, bejabule. Thina ngokushesha ubone ukuthi abasha kushada nje. Noma ubani angakwazi ukuqagela, ngisho abantu yezwe ukuthi isiko uyavumelana kusengaphambili, ngokukhetha usuku. Uma umakoti iza kuphela nge brand new isitifiketi somshado ethempelini, kusho ukuthi ungathola eshadile kodwa engenabantwana yokubhalisa? Cha Udaba Kungenzeka ukuthi ubaba uyazi besonto lakhe nalabo Kuhlekuhle ukuthi yafaka isicelo kuMbhalisi. Uma umpristi engazazi ambalwa? Lutho kuvimbela ukukhansela emcimbini wedding uma abasha musa ngeke ukupenda yilolu suku.

Ingabe zonke ebekiwe umqhele?

Awukwazi ukuya ngokumelene canons of the Church. Hhayi ethwele labo are izihlobo ngezinga wesine kukonke. Ngokwesibonelo:

• izihlobo, abazala, nabazala lesibili, umfowethu nodadewethu izingane kathathu umalume kususwe noma anti;
• Umalume nomshana;
• izingane komunye umzali (isigamu-abafowabo nodadewabo).

Kunokuba uhlu oluphelele. Kukhona imingcele lomshado phakathi Kum (labo babe godson jikelele) kanye phakathi godparents futhi godchildren nezingane zabo. Hhayi washada futhi ngokokuqala lesine.

ISonto akababusisi imibhangqwana eshadile nge umehluko eneminyaka engu-iminyaka engu-15, ngoba imishado enjalo zintekenteke futhi ayengakwazi ukuphula up ngasiphi isikhathi emphakathini wanamuhla. Ngingathola eshadile kodwa engenabantwana yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa? Lo magazini angawa ngawodwana, yebo, bheka, umpristi uzokuphendula - akukho. Kodwa umbhalisi ungaya noma iyiphi pair ngombandela wokuthi akukho zithiyo zomthetho (hhayi wakhipha isehlukaniso, isibonelo, noma ubudala esingaphansi engu-18), kuyoba akekho ukubuza, ubani kubani futhi ubani okumele minyaka eminingi kangaka.

Ukuze enze okuhlukile?

Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, ethempelini ukubuza ukushada kungenzeka, kodwa badinga kuphela ukwethula isitifiketi somshado futhi uqiniseke ukuthi akukho ndlela kuyinto isihlobo: none ngokwenyama, awawona umoya. Kodwa ungakwazi ushade ngaphandle yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa?

Mhlawumbe isimo esinzima empilweni, isibonelo, omunye abathandi ogula kakhulu. Kodwa kokubili bethandana. Umpristi ungakhuluma kubo mayelana lomshado, ukuthi avume icala. Ngokuvamile, salezi zinkinga ongaxazulula umbhishobhi elibusayo. Ungubani wena? Ngokuvamile umbhishobhi. Ngomqondo zezwe, "umbusi ibandla esifundeni." yena kuphela ongasinika imvume ukuphendula, ayatjhada ngaphandle kokubhalisa e ehhovisi lokubhalisa umbhangqwana.

Kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi wemfanelo ongokomoya ayixhomekile nje owakwakhe, kodwa futhi kumpristi. Phela, umshado, Nokho, ngoba ubhapathizo esingathi sína kakhulu.

Ushadile manje imfashini

BaseRussia Modern ngemvume ehhovisi lokubhalisa, ezisheshayo ukushada. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abashadile ngokushesha aye ethempelini. It kuyabonakala ngaphansi imiqhele engcwele efana abashadayo umbhangqwana osukhulile. Lesi sakamuva kungenzeka ukuba siqonde incazelo yomshado kwabanye izimo zokuphila. Kodwa ushintshe lomshado isikhundla. Mayelana nokubeletha is abathandazi, isibonelo. Kodwa abancane abe umpristi wemfanelo uhlale ku ingxoxo catechetical. Mhlawumbe ubaba uyakungiphatha ukweluleka ukuhlehlisa lomshado kuze izikhathi ezingcono. Siyini isizathu? Hhayi bakulungele ngokomoya, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho ngesineke.

Ungakwenza kanjani ukushada ngaphandle komshado, uma kuba umthwalo ngisho likhulu kuno yokudweba? Bungaba khona kanjani izaba ngokumelene Registrar? Phela, kukhona cishe awekho anamahlazo, akukho duty isitembu isitembu in passport mkhulu kangaka hhayi ukuya khona. Ukuze umshado kwamanye amasonto athathe izikhathi eziningi kakhulu, futhi endaweni ethile yezinto ezibonakalayo njengesihluthulelo umnikelo.

Futhi sesineminyaka sishadile

Uma kukhona akukho zithiyo engamukelwa, lo mbhangqwana osukhulile waba sashada. Okuqakathekileko ukuletha isitifiketi somshado uma umpristi akazi wena. Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, isiko lomshado mufushane kuka kwabasha.

Ungavumeli ukushada labo abasesikhundleni civil union, noma kunalokho kuhlalisana yolahleko. Asikwazi ukubiza nomunye nomfazi, ngisho noma lo mbhangqwana bekipitile 10. Okokuqala, ukubhalisa ubuhlobo ke ukhululeke ukuya e-altare. Ngakho impendulo, ungakwazi yini ushade ngaphandle yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa.

Ingabe ikhona "debunking"?

Ngeshwa, kusukela epilweni yangamalanga yesimodeni - lokhu ukungazinzi. imishado ezingavamile zigcinwa kuze kube phakade. Ngisho nakulabo abashadile ngesikhathi, ayikwazi insured wokulwa isehlukaniso. Kungani lokhu kwakwenzeka? Abantu sebekhohliwe indlela ukuthanda, ukubekezelela futhi uthethelele. Phela, kwaba lapho uvuma kumpristi, indoda nomkayo bangakwazi ukuthi abampofu musa: ukubheka intombazane enhle, kwase Wabiza umyeni wakhe, edelelwa nomunye, njalo njalo. Uma abangane bomshado bafuna ukuqeda izono futhi wamukele nomunye, isehlukaniso akayikungilandela.

Ake ukuxoxa ngokwahlukana kwabo. Ngaphambi kokuba nishade, ikhanda lami ukuphotha: Ingabe kungenzeka ukuba ushade ngaphandle imidwebo? Ngesikhathi isehlukaniso ucela ukuba debunk esontweni? Akukho isiko elinjalo.

Ukuze rite wawuphumelela

Kubalulekile ukuthandaza kuNkulunkulu sicele ukungcweliswa nomndeni wakho ngesikhathi somkhosi lomshado. Kungcono sikulalelisise lokho okushiwo iNkosi icela umpristi, wasiphinda yena. Hhayi ukunyakaza ezibalulekile, imininingwane, uyakhothama kahle futhi imithandazo eqotho bobabili abashadile.

Saxoxa kanjani uma angikwazi ukushada ngaphandle yokubhalisa ehhovisi lokubhalisa. Hlandla amaphuzu amaningi. Noma yimuphi umehluko wemisindo nemiqondo yamagama kungenziwa kuphela ukuxazululwa kumpristi, ukubuza imibuzo, cela iseluleko nezibusiso.