Kungani ingane kuyenze? Izizathu ukuziphatha, izincomo abazali

Omunye izidingo zabantu eziyisisekelo - nesidingo sokuba zokuxhumana kanye nokuqashelwa. Sidinga ukuxhumana Umuntu shy siyingozi nezinkinga ezithile. Yimaphi amanye ngokwemvelo iba nenkinga ngaye. Kungelula ukucela usizo, ukusungula oxhumana nabo abantu abasha, ingazizwa a ukuqina enamandla futhi ngiphoxekile yokuba umphakathi. Isilinganiso namahloni kukhona kokubili abadala kanye nezingane. Ubudala isici ingane kwezinye izimo iphenduka ibe isici esitebeleni.

Kungani ingane kuyenze?

Kwezinye izinkathi ukukhula nokuthuthuka zonke izingane banamahloni, nakuba degree of ukubonakaliswa lokhu impahla abahluke. Ngokwesibonelo, amantombazane aba maningi amathuba okuba ube namahloni kunentsha. Lokhu kungenxa ubulili nemfundo izici zabo. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane outgrow u- "shy" yobudala kanye nesimo ayiguquki. Preschooler esabe nokuphakamisela amehlo akhe kuya omdala noma ukucela okuthile mina. Yesikole ibe manqikanqika ukuzama isandla sakhe eklasini, ibhungu akusho alinge ukuhlangabezana nontanga wobulili obuhlukile, ukwesaba ukwehluleka. Abazali nabangane kudingeka wazi ukuthi kungani ingane enamahloni kakhulu, futhi ungabasiza kanjani kuye.

izici yobudala

Ngezinye kwezingu-8 ubudala, izingane ziqala ukuzwa "kuwukwesaba lezihambi" okungukuthi nasengqondweni kulingane nokuvuthwa esiteji. Kwezihlobo nabajwayelene nabo ubani izingane ngaphambi ngomoya ophansi ehamba phezu izandla, avame sidangele. Ungakhathazeki, futhi nomsindo we-alamu - akusiyo amahloni. Ngakho ingane ikhula, ukuzizwa ukuzimela yabo.

Kusukela ngonyaka eminyakeni emithathu ingane okwethembayo close futhi ajwayelekile. Lezihambi kumenze ukukhathazeka namahloni. Umbuzo othi kungani ingane enamahloni, akanandaba abazali ingane. Umama nobaba bamfundisa ukufunda futhi ngizama ukuzijwayeza ngokwabo ukuba indawo yabo entsha, wokugxilisa uyamethemba chips nobukhona bakhe nokusekelwa.

Eminyakeni emithathu noma ngakho kamuva, izingane eziningi usezoqala ukuya enkulisa. Ezinye encane ngomoya ophansi ukujwayela isimo, ezinye kancane ekuqaleni ukushintsha into ezimpilweni zabo. Kukhona abafana namantombazane abanakekela luhlobo ngenxa izici of uhlamvu yabo nemfundo kuze ngokuphelele contraindicated. Ukuze ingane enamahloni isimo esisha - ukucindezeleka. Kanjani ukuze sicele usizo, ukuveza izidingo zabo, uma uthisha othile (noma emibili), kanye nezingane eziningi?

A imvuthuluka yamuva uthome esikolweni? Yilokho okokuqala uhlala etafuleni lakhe, bese iba ingane esikoleni esiphakeme. ukuzibamba kakhulu esobala kokungabaza kulonyaka kusikisela ukuthi ingane iyahlupheka. Kunzima ukwenza izinto ngesikhathi osithandayo nomsebenzi, jwayelana nabanye abantwana. Nzima uthi "cha" noma ukugcizelela kwakhe. Isidingo ukuzivumelanisa izethulo abanye abantu futhi uncike ukuhlolwa kwabo intuthuko yamakhono amakhono abo siqu kanye search for ubizo siqu.

imibuzo ekhathazayo

Yini okumele uyenze uma ingane enamahloni kakhulu mayelana nokuthi yini ukukhuluma ukungaqiniseki bakhe nokwesaba, indlela abazali abangasiza ngayo indodana noma indodakazi ukuba akwazi ukunqoba izingqinamba isenzakalo esingajabulisi evimbela umoya kakhulu yami? Ingabe ngidinga ukuzama "kabusha" izinyane uma yena unamahloni ngokwemvelo? Lezi imibuzo bebelokhu abazali abakhathalelayo njalo. Impendulo kubo itholakala izici ngamunye emincane: uhlamvu, ubuntu, indlela abantu abakhuliswe ngayo, imvelo, umoya endlini nokunye. Ukusiza a Daze ngangokunokwenzeka, kodwa abazali kufanele baqonde Into esemqoka: inhlalakahle yengane ixhomeke kubo.

"Ngokwabo kukhona ..."

Ukwakhiwa ukuzethemba kwangaphakathi kuncike ezintweni eziningi. Isizotha nokuhluzeka amahloni kungenzeka ibonakalisa Ubumnene esingokwemvelo noma kunqunywa ithonya isimo sokuphila komkhaya lapho uhlala indoda kancane. abazali unamahloni dream of a indodana ngamandla futhi abanonya, futhi ingane enamahloni ikhula. Izizathu amahloni sobala, kwakungenzeka kanjani ukuba ubuthe imvuthu ukuzimisela, uma abazali besaba futhi angazi kanjani ukumelela ngokwabo?

Control noma ukuyekelela

abazali Ukulawula ngokuvamile ukuhumusha eqinile ngokweqile futhi indlela kobushiqela lemfundo. Ingane lizungezwe ukunakwa esilawulayo nokunakekela, isinyathelo sakhe njalo uyahlolwa. abazali Proud yalolu hlobo futhi kuthambekele at kokuhlaziywa zangaphandle. ingane yabo ibe engcono, nezwe lakhe kwangempela kwangaphakathi abantu abadala akanandaba. Esikhundleni uzwela - ukugxekwa kanye nokuhlola. Esikhundleni isithakazelo esiqotho - izinkomba inqubekelaphambili nokwengamela ukuqhutshwa ikhono nezinye izingane.

I uhlangothi control ukuzitika ngokweqile. I Ukuntuleka kwemingcele ecacile nokuntuleka ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo - izici zako ezisemqoka. Waba yini umphumela wesibindi "imfundo" enjalo kufana kakhulu imiphumela sokuprakthiza ngaphansi kokulawulwa oqavile. Kid ubona yena ababuthakathaka futhi ongabalulekile, uhlushwa imizwa yecala. abazali Ukulawula kanye nabantu abadala kanye pandering umzali isitayela okungenzeka akhathazeke umbuzo wokuthi kungani ingane enamahloni kodwa, ngeshwa, akuvamile bayaqaphela ukuthi imbangela ungaphakathi ngokwabo.

"Futhi nanka, izimo ..."

Kufanele futhi ukugqamisa umthelela emndenini enezinkinga. Mhlawumbe, endaweni enjalo ahlobene kukhona udlame, noma abazali uhlushwa etshwaleni. Izinketho eziningi. Izingane ezivela emikhayeni enjalo bayakholelwa ukuthi leli zwe akuphephile futhi awufanelwe ubuhlobo obuhle. Ukuphoxeka umndeni wakhe ushevu ukuphila kwabo futhi kwenza oluhlehlela ngamahloni. Futhi, ukwakheka isakhiwo enempilo we "Mina" usengozini labangakhoni bashonelwa abazali babo noma baye bahlukaniswa nonina wakhe ekuseni khulu.

Uma ingane yakho namahloni ... Amathiphu abazali

Sidinga ukushintsha indlela ingane. Siza eduze futhi ubuhlobo obufudumele. Kufanele ufunde ukusebenzisa amasu ingxoxo ka ukulalelisisa kanye "Mina-izitatimende." Akubalulekile ubunyoninco ingane nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kodwa thina ngempela, impumelelo ngisho encane kufanele sidumise. Kuyasiza ukuphathisa ibhizinisi wemfanelo sibonge futhi ukuqaliswa yabo. Udinga sikhulume ngenhlonipho, ngisho noma ngabe omdala siphambi kid. Awukwazi uphakamise izwi lakho kuze kube ingane bese uqhathanisa nabanye abantwana. Kubo ukuze siqiniseke ukuthi ebalulekile ngokwayo, ezifana ngayo-ke ukuzethemba akhe liqala ukuqinisa.

ngokuvamile Oyise baningi ngisho nangaphezu kwezinwele omama sikhathazeke ngokuthi ingane yabo ikhula namahloni. "Yini okufanele ngiyenze?" - they buza, ikakhulukazi uma sikhuluma umfana. Ababalekayo amadodana kudingeka baqonde ukuthi isibindi nokuzimisela ngeke uvele ngesicelo noma omdala ngeke. Ukuze ukwakheka izakhiwo ezinjalo imvelo, ingane idinga ukusekelwa sabazali. Ubaba kumele njalo kube ohlangothini ingane yakho, musa ukumthethisa kuye ngoba wobugwala, nokuvikela, ukuze ube ukwesekwa. Khona-ke umntwana ukuhlula iinhloni yabo nasesikhathini esizayo kuyoba nesibindi, efana nobaba.

ubuntu lomuntu ngamunye uhlukile. Izingane bayajabula. Abazali benza amaphutha, singachithi isikhathi namandla ukuze "ukwenza" ndoda omncane. Akasoze ncamashi okulindelwe efanayo, ngoba indlela yakhe. Abazali abahlakaniphile musa singalazisa iphupho encane enhle, zingabantu unake izingane zabo ngempela, bayazi izidingo zabo futhi ukophula uma uludinga. Ziyazi ukuthi kungani ingane banamahloni noma ngokweqile asebenzayo, njengoba isabela nezici zayo. ngisho lamaluba avulekileyo emkhathini ubungane nokwethembana, ngakho iseluleko main ukuba abadala - libhekisela izingane sina nangenhlonipho. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi injabulo yabo nokuzizwa inhlalakahle ezandleni zakho.