Indlela yokubhekana nomhawu wakhe? Izimpawu nezimbangela zomhawu wesifazane

Ukubukeka okuphawulekayo ekuqondeni kwentombazane edlula, ukumomotheka okuhloniphekayo okubhekiswe kumuntu omuhle kakhulu, isikhalazo esithokozile esivela ezindebeni zakhe lapho ebona ubuhle obubulalayo, futhi ... intombazane ilaka. Amehlo aqhaqhaqhazelayo, akuhlambalaza ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka, uhlela amahloni amakhulu futhi ahlambalaza, akhala, bese engakhulumi amasonto. Ukubamba ikhanda, uhlangabezana nesimo esidabukisayo se-"deja vu", ukulalela isikhukhula esingenakwenzeka, nokuzama ukuzama ukuthola indlela yokubhekana nomhawu wakhe nokuqeda "ukuphikisana" njalo.

Kuyini umhawu?

Intukuthelo ichazwa izazi ze-psychologist njengengqondo enemibala engokwenyama yengqondo, evela ngokuphathelene nomuntu othandekayo, umngane, othandekayo. Lokhu kungabikho kokukhathazeka komuntu, uthando, ukukhathazeka ngengxenye yento yomhawu, okusolakala ukuthi uyayinika abanye. Ukuzwa kuphazamisa umphefumulo, unganiki ukuphumula, uphakamise ekujuleni komphefumulo ukugeleza kwemizwelo emibi kakhulu (intukuthelo, inzondo, ukuthobeka, ukuhlukunyezwa). Ngezinye izikhathi ubuhlungu bomhawu buyakwazi ukubulala umphefumulo womuntu wesifazane, ukuthi kuxazululwe yizenzo ezingenangqondo ezingasongela ukuphila komuntu othandekayo, izenzo zakhe ezintsha (noma ezingqondweni).

Ukuba nomona ezimweni eziningi kuba yisizathu esikhulu sokuhlukaniswa kwamabili. Abesifazane bakhululekile kakhulu ngesigamu esinomhawu, kuyilapho amadoda engakubekezeli lokhu kuziphatha komthandi wabo.

Ama-Catalysts

Umhawu uvela, njengomthetho, ngenxa yenkimbinkimbi ekhona. Omunye uhlazeka ngokubukeka kwawo, othile - isikhundla somphakathi, ubuchwepheshe, azicabange njengabangane abangenakufanelekayo kumlingani ophumelelayo noma omuhle kakhulu. Lo mzwa ungumphumela oqondile wokuzethemba okuphansi, ukuziphendulela, imikhuba yokuqeda ukwehluleka nokuphutha kwabo. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane onjalo uhlale esaba ukuthi othandekayo angamshiya nganoma isiphi isikhathi ukuze afunde ngokufanelekile. Kwezinye izimo, umhawu wesifazane ungenxa yobugovu bakhe obuningi nokudabuka, umqondo wobunikazi obuzwakalayo. Umuntu onomlingiswa ofanayo, ojwayele ukwamukela konke futhi nge-whim yokuqala, ubheka umuntu njengento okufanele abe yowakhe kuphela kuye. Noma yikuphi ukuzama ukuhlukanisa okungenani ukukhanya phakathi komunye wesifazane kuyasuswa kakhulu, kuphethwe ngengozi enkulu. Abesifazane abanjalo, ngokushiywa, ngokuvamile bavame futhi bayingozi, futhi balungele ukubhekana nokucindezela okukhulu "into" ephunyukile.

Ukubonakaliswa

Umbuzo othi "Ungabhekana kanjani nomhawu wakhe?" Kubaluleke kakhulu, uma owesifazane wakho obumnene nangomusa kancane kancane ephenduka "u-Holmes ngesiketi." Usuku ngalunye uhlela ukuhlolwa kwempahla yakho siqu, ubheka imiyalezo kanye nelogi lokushaya, uhlela ukuphenywa nokulutha. Ngesibindi uphendula emazwini abesifazane ngemuva uma wenza amakholi wefoni futhi engahambisani nawe kuzo zonke "izitolo", kuze kube yimibuthano enkampanini yamadoda kuphela. Futhi ukubonakaliswa okuncane kakhulu kokunganeliseki kusongela wena ngokufutheka kwayo okubi, ukukhala kwezinyembezi nokujeziswa ngendlela yezimbiza ezingenalutho kanye nesigebe samahhashi angcolile. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kungabizwa ngokuthi yi-paranoia futhi ucabange ngokujulile ngendlela yokunqoba umhawu womthandi ngaphandle kokuyekethisa ubuhlobo bakho nempilo yakho.

Kuyini umona oyingozi

Umona oshisayo awusho njalo uthando olujulile nolunamandla. Kungenzeka ukuthi kuyindlela yokuzivikela yomuntu, okuhlosiwe ukugcina lokho okwakungokwesokudla noma okubangelwa ukwesaba owesifazane ukuba ahlale yedwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo semvelo sinjalo okudingeka ngaso sonke isikhathi siqinisekise imizwa yomlingani, izingcingo ezivamile kanye ne-SMS, ukungaqapheli nokukhathalela.

Ngokusho kwengqondo, izibonakaliso ezincane zomhawu ebuhlotsheni kufanele zihlale zikhona. Awuwona umthwalo wabalingani bobabili futhi ngisho amnandi, enezela imizwa ethile ye-saturation, injabulo nokunambitha. Kodwa-ke, ungasebenzisi kabi umhawu, kungenjalo kuyoba yinkinga yokuzizwa komzwelo, okwazi ukungcolisa noma yimuphi ubuhlobo.
Okubi nakakhulu, ukuthi, ukubulala imizwa yendoda eyodwa, owesifazane uvame ukuqhubeka nomona omkhulu nomlingani omusha aze aqaphele ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuba ashintshe umlingiswa wakhe. Kodwa lokhu akuwona wonke wesifazane ongasusa lo mzwelo owonayo. Umsebenzi wakho ukumsiza ngangokunokwenzeka ngalokhu.

Indlela yokubhekana nomhawu wakhe?

Ngaphambi kokumangalela owesifazane wakho womhawu owedlulele, cabanga ngokuziphatha kwakho bese uzama ukuzibeka endaweni yayo. Mhlawumbe ukwesaba kwakhe akusizi ngalutho? Uma:

• Kuze kube sekwephuzile kusihlwa ulahlekile emsebenzini, ukhohlwa ukumxwayisa mayelana nokuphumula ukudla;
• Ngezici eziningi ungamethembi;
• Khokha kancane;
• Ngemuva kokubuya emsebenzini, thula ngesidlo bese ushaya phezu kwefa, eduze kwe-TV, ukhohlwa ukubuza othandekayo wakho ukuthi usuku lwakhe luhamba kanjani;
• Bheka amantombazane amahle;
• Unganiki izimbali nezipho;
• Ungabhali i-SMS ethandekayo futhi ungabizi izikhathi eziningana phakathi nosuku;

Kodwa-ke, ngenxa yezenzo zakho ezingalungile nokungabikho kwengqondo, usamthanda - izizathu zomhawu womthandi wakho ziqondile kuwe kanye nokuziphatha kwakho okungavamile.

Ukunakekelwa nokunakekelwa okwengeziwe

Uma ugcwele ukuzimisela ukulondoloza ubuhlobo kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakho kunomhawu kakhulu noma ngabe isizathu sakho konke, into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukuzungezela intombi yakho, umkakho ukhathazekile kakhulu, uthinte ukunakekelwa, uhambe phezu kokuvimbela kanye nemigomo yakho. Bhala imilayezo yakhe bese ubiza okungenani kathathu ngosuku, ngoba lokhu kuyadingeka ukuthula kwakhe kwengqondo, ngakho-ke kungokwakho. Mnike izimbali, evame ukuncoma ukuthi, uveza ukuthi uhlukile futhi uhlukile. Eqiniswa uthando lwakho, kancane kancane ukhohlwe ngokukwesaba ukwesaba kwakhe bese ehluma phambi kwamehlo akhe.

Ukubuka okuncane ezinhlangothini

Zifundise ukuthi ungaboni ubuhle ngezinyawo zakho kusuka ezindlebeni phambi kobukhwele bakho obunomhawu. Ungacabangela ngokuzithoba izintelezi zesifazane, uwedwa noma unabangane. Futhi kunoma yikuphi okwenzayo ungabonisi ngothando nabangane bakhe. Umngane, ngokombono wesifazane, ungowokuqala ophethe uhlu lwamakhosikazi angaba khona omlingani wakhe. Abangane, naphezu kobuhlobo besifazane obudumile , emphefumulweni. Bahlala njalo, ngisho nangaphandle kokungazi, zama ukubonakaliswa ukuphakama kwabo ezintweni ezifana nokubukeka, isimo sezenhlalakahle, ukuziqhenya nokuphila komuntu siqu.

Ukuhawukela umngane ezimweni eziningi kulungile. Ukuncintisana phakathi kobulili obuhle emacaleni angavamile kungadlulela kangangokuthi omunye wabo, ezama ukufakazela ukuthi ungcono, uhle kakhulu futhi unecala kunomngane, uba yindlovukazi yomyeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke, egameni lokuthula, kungcono ukugcina kubangani bomdanso wakho onomhawu ngangokunokwenzeka.

Khuluma ngokuqondile

Ukuqedwa komhawu kuvame ukwenziwa izingxoxo ezingenangqondo neziyimfihlo phakathi kwabalingani. Yabelana ngolwazi lwakhe oluningi mayelana nawe kanye nezindaba zakho, cela iseluleko, uthathe isithakazelo empilweni yakhe. Zama ukuqinisa owesifazane wakho ngemizwa yakhe nokuthembeka kwakhe. Mqinisekise ukuthi ayikho isizathu somhawu. Zama ukungamkhohlisi, ngoba ngisho namanga amanga angashaya umlilo wokungazethembi. Yethula othandekayo wakho nabo bonke abangane bakho futhi usebenze nabo osebenza nabo, ubonise ukuthi awunazo ukufihla kuye.

Okungafanele ukwenze

• Awudingi ukumemeza futhi umsole ngokusola.
• Yeka izingcingo kanye ne-SMS.
• Ikakhulukazi uhlale emsebenzini ukuze umcasule.
• Hlola ngenye indlela abanye besifazane futhi nithandane nabo.
• Ukujezisa ubanda nokuthula.
• Dumisani umngane wakhe nomlingani wakhe.
• Ukuhlambalaza nokuveza izingqinamba zayo kanye nokungaphumeleli.

Ngaphambi kokuba ubheke izindlela eziphumelelayo, indlela yokubhekana nomhawu wakhe, hlola ngokucophelela ukuziphatha kwakho. Uma ungenasono, futhi unesihawu kakhulu, thatha isikhathi sokubheka indawo eyanele. Kungcono ukuzama ukuqeda lo mzwelo owonayo kusukela emphefumulweni womthandi futhi ugcine ubuhlobo bakho.