Kungani abantu ziyashintsha labo ziyazithanda?

Singasho kugcwale umlomo ukuthi ngamunye wethu ngesikhathi esithile ekuphileni ziye zafunda ukuthi umbuso. Ekuqaleni, ungase ucabange: "Angiyena ngakho" noma "Angisoze ngakwenza lokho!" Kodwa, ngaphezu ukukopela wenyama, ukhona ukungethembeki ngokomzwelo. Ngaphansi ukukhashelwa lapha siqonde yokucashela umlingani yamaphaphu, ize phambili senzo kanye nezinye izimfihlo.

Dream noma isenzo real?

Mhlawumbe ngolunye usuku owalinika isikhathi yini ukuba udlale ngothando kuye ejimini. Kade ukunakwa elihle ingxenye ungumfokazi, noma ungumfokazi, futhi ngenxa yalokho ukwandisa yabo ukuzethemba. Abanye abantu baqonde ukuthi Prank kancane ungakwazi kalula ukufihla, hamba nakakhulu. Bona ngasese esibambisene ukuthumela izithombe zabo uthembeke ku-intanethi, ukwenza omjwayele nokuthi mhlawumbe nabo obuseduze ohlangothini. Njengoba sazi, ubudlelwano zakhelwe ithemba, kodwa iningi lethu okungenani kanye empilweni yami ngiphupha omunye. Ezinye zazo abasekhona bahlala amaphupho, futhi abanye baze benze isenzo langempela. Kodwa kungani sifunani ukuqhuma imizwa ohlangothini, Indalo wasenza abalingani abangaphelele ngempela?

Ukukhethwa phakathi mbono eziningi

Kunemibono eminingana ngokuphathelene nokuthi kungani abantu ukushintsha ophathina babo bezothando. Liyisisekelo sako konke ucwaningo lwesayensi Kuwumgomo eyodwa elula: ukucacisa elingakanani abantu esithenjini noma monogamous. Khona-ke ungakwazi ukufunda ezinye izinkolelo-mbono bese uzinqumela ukuthi iyiphi kuneqiniso ngaphezulu.

Lokho isilwane yethu imisuka liyakhuluma ngokuphela nomfazi oyedwa?

Man - isidalwa esiyingqayizivele, kodwa, noma kunjalo, lokho kungase kube akhiwa imizwelo yabo kwezinye izilwane. Umbono wokuthi isithembu has kwaqala endle, akuyona into entsha. Sekuyisikhathi eside ososayensi abaningi babekholelwa ukuthi indoda, njengabafowabo zethu ezincane, ungakwazi futhi ukulawula imizwelo engokwemvelo lasekuqaleni. Ake sibheke lo mkhuba emhlabeni isilwane futhi ukudweba okunye ukufana okukhona. Uma thina uqhubeke kusukela mbono, amathuba yokuba nomfazi oyedwa yaphinde akuyona okusezingeni eliphezulu. Emvelweni, kunezinguqulo ezingaba ngu-5000 zezilwane ezincelisayo, futhi amaphesenti angu-3-5 kuphela wabo ukuphila bahlobanisa umlingani oyedwa kuphela. Phakathi kwezilwane "iqiniso" avele nezimpisi, ama-beaver, imithini namanye zilwane. Kodwa phakathi "abazalwane" kumelwe ibe nomfazi oyedwa hlobo lwezinkawu kuvamile amaphesenti 6 kuphela.

Kusukela umbono wokuziphendukela kwemvelo

Isi- ethandwa emshadweni kungaba kubhekwe futhi imfundiso yokuziphendukela kwemvelo. zokusebenza kwengqondo eziningi ziye babecabanga ukuthi amadoda bavame ukuba izindaba ezingesizo somshado ngenxa isifiso angamaduna ukuzala. Kusukela umbono wokuziphendukela kwemvelo, abesilisa nabesifazane bavame ukukhetha abalingani ekahle ukuze ukunikeza inzalo eqinile nenempilo. Ekugcineni, lawo izinhlobo zabantu ezahlukaniselwa uye savela, futhi wagxila "Abesilisa" ukubheka umlingani ezikhangayo wahlala. Manje abantu abaye bamukela ngokusemthethweni lomshado, nokuntula ukholo - it is kuphela ukunkenketha inqubo zomlando.

Obaba zinengxenye izingane

Lawo izinhlobo zabantu ezahlukaniselwa uhlukile ukuze, ngaphezu omama, obaba futhi bazibandakanye ekukhuliseni izingane. Ngokwezinga elikhulu kuyindaba of esizukulwaneni esisha of ukusekelwa ngokwezimali, kodwa uxhumano ngokomzwelo ukhona. Uma uqhathaniswa nezinye wezinkawu, utshalomali womuntu zoyise usukela ngokwezinga elikhulu. Ngokusho sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezenhlalo kanye kwemvelo, umsebenzi we-University of Michigan Deniela Kryugera, abantu ikakhulukazi maqondana okunamathiselwe izingane zabo siqu. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo abantu, kanye iningi, elezinye izilwane ezincelisayo hhayi ethembekile komunye umlingani. Lesi sici lingachazwa ngokuthi ifomu 'soft' isithembu, lapho iningi abesilisa ndawonye ezingaphezu kweyodwa zesifazane.

Lapho umuntu esebunzimeni umjikelezo omubi isimo sabo siqu

ithiyori Landelayo kunalokho iphathelene psychoanalysts. Futhi lokhu mqondo awumusha. Cishe usuke wezwa ukuthi ubuhlobo besikhathi eside ambalwa blunts imizwa phakathi abathandi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, notorious elahlekile inhlansi ezingaba bokhela uthando abalingani. Abantu abaningi ukushada noma ukushada futhi kungabi ngenxa yothando. Vele endaweni ethile ekujuleni izingqondo kuxazululwe umbono wokuthi yena lo muntu ngeke wenze ukuphila kwakho "okungcono", yena uyindoda umndeni omuhle, wokumba (Omuny) futhi izoba ngobaba (umama).

Nokho, inkinga efanayo kungabonwa ekuphishekeleni okuphakade zabantu izimoto ehlonishwayo futhi izinto uphawu. Futhi ihembe entsha, futhi ulwandle iholide Ungase futhi ujabule. Uma lokhu kuyinto konjane you, wena ababanjwe umjikelezo omubi okungabanga bikho kuso ophumayo emehlweni. Ayikho into eyodwa awukwazi ukwanelisa zeze lakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lemoto kanye smartphone eminyakeni embalwa usuphelelwe yisikhathi futhi ayisekho kubonise isimo sakho. Yingakho uya ukuthenga ezintsha. Kungokufanayo kungabonakala nakulokho ku isifiso abanye abantu ukuba bathole abalingani ezintsha, ezincane kanye ikhange nakakhulu.

Ngugobe njengoba ngomzamo ekubalekeleni

Imfundiso yokuziphendukela okulandelayo kuchaza ugqozi for ucansi ohlangothini njengenye yezindlela ukugcwalisa i uyize ngokomzwelo. Kulokhu ukungathembeki kungenziwa labizwa ukuba esigabeni esifanayo njengoba umlutha wotshwala, izidakamizwa, ugwayi, ukugembula, isiminzi, adle futhi yezitolo nogqozi. Ukungabi nasimilo ngendlela efanayo ikhishwe sinemizwa enganakile self-yisikhohlwa. Zakha ukuncika ukunakwa nokwamukelwa wobulili obuhlukile. Ngakho, sikhala kwangaphakathi ligcwele, futhi abathandi eminingi noma kuqedwe lover wedwa. Nokho, ngokuvamile le umuzwa luyakhohlisa.

Kuthathwa ngokuthi kuleli cala awanelisekile kuphela nabantu babo bomshado ukuya enkohlisweni. Nokho, ngisho namandla, nobuhlobo obuhle eyakhelwe uthando, ungase ufune ukuya ocansini nomunye umuntu. Mhlawumbe, kungashiwo exhunywe wokuphika lokuphelelwa yisikhathi we lomshado ngokwalo. Uma umuntu uyazinqumela ukuthi ubuhlobo besikhathi eside nomunye umlingani - akulutho ngaphezu esifuze esidlule, izoshintsha.

Amathrendi okusha nomphakathi

Kuleli shumi leminyaka elidlule oboné yokwanda yangempela yezenhlalakahle okukhuthaza isithembu njengengxenye yokuxazulula izinkinga eziningi emshadweni. Abantu obala ayisekho ukwamukela evamile imodeli puritanical of ubudlelwano, esekelwe zokuxhumana nomunye uzakwethu. It wayevela ngesikhathi mkhuba jikelele bekhalaza zomphakathi ngokumelene umqondo zakudala ngomshado. Abantu abaningi nangayiphi indlela yilabo nethemba nje siphile ukuphila ndawonye nomuntu oyedwa, kodwa abaningi - futhi kakhulu nethemba sekukudala.

Abafana namantombazane konke ngemuva kokuthola oshadile, bakhetha zokuxhumana yesikhathi esifushane ngaphandle kwesibopho. Bengafuni ukwenza indima, ungafuni kungancika ekutholakaleni nguzakwethu noma uthole abasuke bengene shí ezindabeni yasekhaya. Abaningi abafuni sibe nohlelo lokusebenzisa imali langempela, futhi abesifazane abafuna yokwakha ama-career, kunokuba ukuba babelethe futhi bakhulisa izingane. Wonke umuntu ufuna bephila ngokunethezeka uma beqhathaniswa, ngaphandle mona bhongo, akekho ofuna ukwenza umsebenzi wena ubuhlobo obuqinile. Kulula kakhulu ukuvula isikhundla isithembu zabo, futhi ngokushesha walala nawe zonke izibopho.

Kusukela iphuzu Ngenxa nokuziphatha

Lapho umbhangqwana ushada, basinikeza nomunye nezifungo zithembiso. Nokho, eqinisweni, la mazwi amahle ayikwazi sisekelwe eenkambisweni zokuziphatha. Akekho ilungelo ubunikazi komunye. Asikwazi ukwenza izithembiso ukuhlala nomuntu phakade. Ikakhulukazi njengoba umkhuba imibukiso, e kwesigamu amacala, lezi zithembiso angagcwaliseki. Asikwazi ebizela othile umuntu ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze futhi yini akuyona. Yingakho umbono ukubeka isignesha on idokhumenti bese ukubeka umlingani wakho phezu ring umunwe kuphambene isimo sethu esingokwemvelo enkululeko. Yingakho sibona inani lezahlukaniso uphakeme kakhulu.

isiphetho

Amandla ngokocansi indoda udonsa ugqozi, lokusungula nangamandla. Ukusondelana ukunweba amakhono ukuzazi futhi sijulise lobuhlobo. Ukuthembeka oyedwa ivumela ukuba sijulise ukuboniswa uthando. Trust phezu isikhathi eside kudala silondekile futhi ukunika ithuba lokuzizwela amazinga aphezulu of isimo ukwazi. Nokho, kwezinye ngazimbili izikhala zidalwe emhlabeni kubo kungaba ukuqhuma njengezimvaba ibhamuza insipho. Futhi ngenxa yalesi akekho iphephile.