Farewell umbhangqwana: yini sithi

lomshado ngamunye ngamunye kanye okwenzeka ngaphansi iskripthi. Othile uzama ukuba banamathele bonke emikhosini ezingokwesiko, kuyilapho abanye sizigweme. Kodwa kunento eyodwa ebaluleke kakhulu, kuba yokuvalelisa lo mbhangqwana abazali nabathandekayo babo.

On the incazelo

Kukhona labo abathi, 'Kungani sinale emkhubeni ubudala? Manje ilahlekelwe ngokuhlathulula ukusebenza kwawo "Mhlawumbe kunjalo, kodwa yokuvalelisa umbhangqwana - lokhu akulona nje isiko, kungcono uhlobo ngokuhlakanipha, amathiphu kusuka siqu okuhlangenwe nakho ekuphileni kwami ukuthi abazali afuna ukudlulisela ezizukulwaneni abasebasha. Inkulumo ngokwayo ngeke cishe aqukethe iseluleko ezincane, kodwa esisebenzayo sendlela ukwenza umkhaya oqinile ngokomoya futhi sijabule.

Kwifomu

Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi kungenziwa wakhipha yokuvalelisa ambalwa njengoba evesini, futhi temibhalo yephrozi netindzaba abavamile. Nokho, incazelo yala mazwi kufanele kucace, futhi - ziqonde. Prevarication namacebo kule samuntu kuyoba nje okungalungile.

Yini ukusho: umakoti

Kuwufanele kafushane lokho abazali abangase bathi emazwini akhe okuvalelisa, ukuyivala umakoti. Ngakho, into yokuqala ungakwazi ukusho - wukuthi njalo indoda nomndeni - inhloko kanti owesifazane - Intamo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kuphela intokazi ukubukela le umndeni, kunikeza ukuphila, uhlobo umoya kwendlu yakhe. Owesifazane enquma zonke izindaba ezinkulu ezithinta ukuphila komkhaya. Ngakho-ke, umakoti kudingeka sihlale sikulungele ngokugcwele kule. yokuvalelisa Landelayo abashadayo lokho kungase kubangele ukuba owesifazane, akufanele njalo "wabona" umyeni wakhe, wamzalela amahlazo nokumangalelwa. unkosikazi Clever uzokwenza konke ukuze umuntu ngokwakhe waqaphela iphutha lakhe futhi isilungisiwe yena.

Abazali futhi kungenzeka kancane isu ukuthi kuhle uma indodakazi uthanda futhi ehlonipha umukhwe umthetho wakhe, ngoba lokhu kuhle futhi kumnandi ukuba umyeni wakhe. Eziningana namuhla ilahlekelwe okushiwo iziqondiso ezilandelayo atshele owesifazane ukuthi kufanele benze umsebenzi wabo ekhaya. namaqiniso okuphila kwanamuhla liyasho ukuthi imithwalo yemfanelo yomkhaya kufanele ihlukaniswe ngokulinganayo, ngoba bobabili abashadile ukusebenza. Ngakho uma abazali endala umakoti uzonikhumbuza ngakho ncisheka cha phikisana ungene izincazelo. Kungcono uvele uthule nje, bese kuba ngu-do konke yedwa. Umbhali wayevame ukunezela lokhu: Ukuvalelisa umbhangqwana ovela abazali ivela leli phuzu, njengoba isizukulwane esizayo, abazali ie ufuna ukutshela izingane ezincane - .. Lona injabulo, futhi kulapho wabo ngcono. Nokho, yini enye engakusiza ukutshela? Akubalulekile ukuhlakaza ngemva ukuxabana, nishise amabhuloho. Zonke izinkinga Kufanele sizimisele esigcawini sokubonisana, bebonke futhi ngaphandle amahlazo. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho ngeke ukuvumelana umndeni nokuzola.

Yini ukusho: I-umkhwenyana

abasanda kushada amazwi okuvalelisa kuyolungiswa, futhi umkhwenyana. Yini abazali abangayifunda kuye? Yiqiniso, into esemqoka - kungcono kuzo ukusekelwa ngezinto ezibonakalayo omndeni wakhe ngamadoda. nje Abazali kufanele sizikhumbuze lokhu. Elinye iphuzu elibalulekile ukuthi umuntu omuhle ugcina oda endlini yakhe - yena akaze aphule izitulo noma amakhabethe evulekile. Umkhwenyana kungenzeka uyakhumbula ukuthi abangane - kuhle, kodwa manje yinto esemqoka ekuphileni kwakhe - umndeni. Futhi-ke, lapho umyeni wami manje umvikeli umqaphi unkosikazi nezesikhathi esizayo izingane zakhe, ngoba ubani kufanele ume entabeni.