Imicabango ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abahlakaniphile ngokuphila

Umqondo wokuhlakanipha njengalokhu ucatshangwa kusukela ekubukeni kwansuku zonke, nakwefilosofi, ngisho nasenkolo. Iningi lezincazelo ziyavuma ukuthi lokhu kuyizinga lokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo elivumela umuntu ukuba enze ngendlela engcono kakhulu ezimweni ezithile. Leli thuba elijabulisayo linikeza umuntu amandla okusebenzisa isipiliyoni sakhe kanye nabanye abantu, uma ngingase ngisho kanjalo, ukuya endaweni.

Okucacile ukuhlakanipha kwabesifazane

Ngokusobala, ukuba khona kokuhlakanipha kubonisa ukuba khona kwengqondo, kodwa hhayi ngokuphambene nalokho (abantu abaningi abahlakaniphile abahlakaniphile nhlobo). Imfundo enjalo ayinandaba, futhi isimo asikho emphakathini. Kuyadingeka kuphela ukuba khona kokuphila okuhlangenwe nakho, ngakho-ke isithombe se-sage sivame ukuhlobanisa nabadala abanobugovu.

Ngokuqondene nesigaba esithile, njengokuhlakanipha kwabesifazane, ngokuvamile kuvame ukuxhumela ikhono lobulili obuhle kakhulu ukuba luhlangane nabanamandla. Empeleni, akukho lutho olumangalisayo kulokhu: sekuyisikhathi eside siphila ezweni "lesilisa", futhi kufanele sicabange nalokhu. Esizweni saseSwitzerland seningi yentando yeningi, imicabango ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abahlakaniphile ayinandaba nhlobo kunoma ubani kuze kube maduzane: lapha abesifazane banelungelo lokubamba iqhaza ekhethweni ngo-1971, hhayi kuzo zonke izilinganiso. Lo wesithathu, u-Appenzell, "wanikezwa" ngo-1991 kuphela!

Umdlalo wokupha

Lesi simo sezindaba kusukela esikhathini esidlule sakha ukuphendula okuhlukile. Ngesikhathi abesifazane besilwela kakhulu ukulingana, uphawu lwezocansi ngaso sonke isikhathi, uMarilyn Monroe uthe uyavuma ukuhlala ezweni lamadoda, uma nje evunyelwe ukuba abe ngowesifazane kuwo.

Isiphi isikhundla esingcono futhi esilungile, wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena - futhi ngeke kube khona impendulo eyodwa engafanele wonke umuntu.

Esikhathini sefilimu "Kuban Cossacks" kunomzuzu ojabulisayo: umlingisi oyinhloko, uGalina Yermolaevna, ukuwina umncintiswano ku-briks, ngomzuzwana wokugcina ugcina amahhashi - futhi emgqeni umlingani wakhe ufika kuqala. Lesi simo sinamahloni futhi siyadabukisa, ngoba ukuqinisekiswa okungaqondile ukuthi imibono ehlakaniphile yabesifazane ngamadoda, njengombuso, ubilise phansi ukuthi ukuzithanda komuntu wesigamu esiqinile kufanele kusindiswe. Kungenjalo, ngokusobala, hhayi ukubona injabulo yomuntu siqu.

UWirginia Woolf, owaziwa ngemibono yakhe, wabhala ukuthi lo wesifazane wamakhulu eminyaka wayekhonza njengesibuko, okwakufanele kubonakalise isibalo sabantu besilisa kabili njengoba sikhulu.

Ukubukeka kwesifazane

Akubona bonke abakhuluma njalo, kodwa ukuthi amadoda angabantwana abakhulu, kufanele uzwe njalo emphakathini wabesifazane.

Ema-aphorisms amaningi adumile aphakanyiswa njengengqondo ehlakaniphile yowesifazane ohlakaniphile ngamadoda, ukuhleka usulu kwezinsipho eziqine kakhulu zobulili: UDietrich wakhuluma nge "ithoyizi eliyintandokazi yabafana abadala", okuyinto imoto, uChanel wahleka ukuthi ukuze athande amadoda, abesifazane badinga ubuwula .

Ngokuvamile sizwa ukuthi amadoda angathandi abesifazane abahlakaniphile nabanelisekile abaye bazuza impumelelo enkulu emisebenzini yabo. Isimo, esihlasela umlingisi oyinhloko wefilimu "UMoscow akakholelwa izinyembezi," ukhunjulwa kahle yilowo nalowo. Futhi awukwazi ukusho ukuthi le ndaba ayibalulekile.

Grey Cardinal

Ngesikhathi esifanayo, enikeza indima ebaluleke kakhulu engxenyeni eqinile, abesifazane abaningi bacabanga ukuthi empeleni izwe lilawulwa ipenethi ebuthakathaka, ebuthakathaka. Baqoqa ngokucophelela imicabango ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abakhulu, ngokusho ukuthi abantu banikezwa ithuba lokubusa umhlaba kuphela ukuze bakhulume kubathandekayo babo, ikakhulukazi ebhokisini lesipho elinomnsalo obomvu oboshwe. Izimpawu ezingenakuqhathaniswa nendoda eyaziwa kakhulu "yangempela", ohlala ekhumbula usuku lokuzalwa kwalowo wesifazane futhi engakaze - cishe ubudala bakhe, ngisho neFaina Ranevskaya evelele.

Eqinisweni, konke lokho kuyiqiniso kuphela engxenyeni yehlaya. Njengoba u-Agatha Christie esho, akusekho ukukhohlisa okuphakade kunomqondo wokuthi owesifazane uyakwazi ukufundisa umshayeli endleleni yobuhle. U-Nina Berberova wakhuluma ngokubhekisisa kakhulu, ethi yizo zonke izinkanuko abantu abathandana nazo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukulangazelela udumo, amandla, izidakamizwa, abesifazane basendaweni yokugcina.

Ukuhlakanipha - ku-Afrika ...

Eqinisweni, imicabango ehlakaniphile yowesifazane ohlakaniphile ngokuphila ayihluke kakhulu kubantu. Ukuhlukumezeka okuhlukahlukene kwezinguquko mayelana nokuthi ukuphela kwesimiso sokucabanga sesifazane yi-endocrine, akufanelekile ukunakekelwa. Konke umehluko ongaboniswa ngemicabango ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abahlakaniphile akuchazwiswanga kalula yizici ezicacile zengqondo yabesifazane, kodwa ngemithwalo ebalulekile ehluke kakhulu.

Umuntu wakhiwa emgumbini wezimpikiswano ezihlukahlukene, nokuthi yikuphi umuntu ozovela khona, ukubukwa kwakhe kwezwe kuncike, nokuningi okuningi. Ukuhlakanipha kwabesifazane kaningi kuqukethe ngokuqondile ekuqaliseni ubuthakathaka bomuntu siqu. Kanti futhi ikhono lokuhlukanisa, lapho ungasebenzisa khona isikhundla sakho, nalapho ulalele khona indlela engavinjelwe yezenzakalo.

Izigaxa zomuntu siqu

Okuhlangenwe nakho komunye umuntu ekuzuzeni ukuhlakanipha akusizi ngalutho futhi kungadlala indima ebalulekile. Ngamunye wethu ukhona esimweni esithile, ngoba imicabango ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abahlakaniphile enkabeni yeYurophu ayikho neze ezimweni zase-Asia Ephakathi. Izwi elihle ngalokhu yisisho esithi "isiRashiya sihle, iJalimane ifile."

Ngaphezu kwalokho, umzila wokuziphatha komuntu ngamunye uncike kuphela kwimvelo, kodwa nakwezimpawu zomuntu ngamunye. Ngomunye umuntu ohlakaniphile, uCoco Chanel, owathola impumelelo enkulu emisebenzini futhi waba ngumlando wezwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, konke lokhu akusho lutho, futhi ubheka njengendlela oyisibonelo imibono ecacile yowesifazane ohlakaniphile uMama Teresa, owathi into ebaluleke kakhulu isintu uthando. Futhi ubuhle, inkazimulo, amadoda, injabulo yezwe yizinto ezingelutho.

Akunakwenzeka ukubona ukuthi yikuphi okuhlakaniphile. Ukuphila komninindlu nomninindlukazi wezindlu zethempeli yizizwe ezimbili ezahlukene ezingafani neze.

Isicelo esiwusizo

Kuyathakazelisa kakhulu umbuzo wokuthi kungani abantu bedinga ukuhlakanipha nhlobo. Ulwazi olungenalutho? Ukufeza i-nirvana? Ukuze ujabule? Ukuze ukwazi ukusinda zonke izinsizi nokuhluleka kokuphila ngesithunzi? Ayikho imibono ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abahlakaniphile (namadoda, futhi) abanikezi impendulo engavamile. Mhlawumbe, ngoba nje akakho.

Ulwazi ngenxa yenqubo yilokho okushiwo abambalwa, futhi ukuhlakanipha ngokwayo akukwazi ukuletha injabulo. Kunabantu abangafuni neze - bayathanda ukuzidela ngokuphelele, isibonelo, imali-yokugaya. Noma ukuzinikela impilo yakhe ekuphishekeleni injabulo.

Ukuhlakanipha kuyisipho esithile sokuphila ngokuvumelana nezwe elizungezile, ikhwalithi evumela ukuthi wena uyamukele njengoba kunjalo, futhi uhambise isiphetho, uma uthanda. Futhi injabulo izoletha imicabango ehlakaniphile yabesifazane abahlakaniphile noma izinsizi eziningi, kuxhomeke kumuntu othize, ngoba ingilazi ihlale ingenalutho futhi ingxenye igcwele ngesikhathi esisodwa.