Ama-workaholics abesilisa abhekene nokukhathazeka nempilo embi?

Ukuba ngumondli emndenini kuhloniphekile, akunjalo? Uthola imali eyengeziwe, okukunika amandla amaningi ngokuzenzekelayo. Cishe wenze izinqumo eziningi futhi wenze umsebenzi omncane nxazonke zendlu. Yini enye ongayiphupha ngayo?

Imali engaphezulu, ukwehlisa ukuzethemba?

Kodwa, ngokusho kocwaningo olusha lwezenhlalo, kunesimo esijwayelekile esimangalisayo: lapho umuntu engumnumzane emndenini, lokhu kuyathinta impilo yakhe yengqondo. Njengoba kwenzeka, labo abathola okuningi banokuzihlonipha okungenakuqhathaniswa nokwenyuka kwezinga lokukhathazeka. Ngakho isiphetho sokuthi izigqila ziwela esigabeni sengozi ngemingcele eminingana. Ngaphezu kokuthi bangengozini yokunciphisa impilo yabo engokwenyama, baqala ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokungabi nenhlalakahle yengqondo. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?

Ukukhathazeka ngesimo somndeni

Yilokho abalobi besifundo bathi: "Uma uwukuphela kokudla, isimo somndeni wakho sincike ngokugcwele ezingeni lakho lemali engenayo. Ngisho noma oshade naye esebenza, kodwa uneholo elincane, yonke imithwalo yemfanelo ikhona emahlombe akho. Uqala ukukhathazeka ngalokho umndeni oyodinga, futhi ulungele ukuthatha noma yimuphi umsebenzi wesikhathi esengeziwe. " Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi emindenini lapho abanikazi bokudla bebesifazane, isithombe esibhekene nendawo evelele kakhulu sibonakala. Kwababamele iqhaza elihle lomuntu, izinga eliphakeme lemali engenayo engenayo kanye nenhlalakahle ephakeme ngokomzwelo.

Kungani abesifazane abacindezelekayo bezwa ngcono?

Kwabesilisa, ukuba nomthwalo wempilo enhlalakahle yomndeni akuhloniphekile, kodwa kunalokho, kujwayelekile. Akekho ozomdumisa ngenxa yokwenza imali eningi. Akekho oyozijabulisa izinsizakalo zakhe. Kodwa kuyamkhokhela ukuthi alahlekelwe yingxenye yomholo, ngoba ngokushesha uqhuma imicibisholo ebalulekile. Endabeni yabanikazi bezinsikazi, izinto zihlukile. Ekuqaleni abameleli besifazane obuthakathaka ekuqaleni abalindeli lutho olungaphezu kwemvelo. Kodwa kufanelekile ukuba umkami akhuphuke izinga lezemisebenzi, ezungezile zizoqala ukubonga impumelelo yakhe. Ukudumisa emphakathini kuyashukumisela, futhi owesifazane wamukelwa ukuba asebenze ngamandla aphindwe kathathu. Futhi ngisho noma elahlekelwa yimali engenayo, akekho ozoyihlambalaza ngakho.

Ukubukeka okusha emisebenzini yobulili yendabuko

Esicwaningweni esenziwa nguChristine Münch nabafundi abaqeqeshwe uMathem. Rogers noJessica Yorks, sichaza indima yendabuko emphakathini waseNtshonalanga. Yilokho abacwaningi bezenhlalakahle abakwazi ukuthola. Kuze kube manje, i-gap yokukhokha isaphila, kanti abesifazane bathola amaphesenti angu-79 kuphela emali amadoda abathola ngayo. Kodwa-ke, imodeli ekahle yobudlelwane bomndeni ngasekupheleni kwekhulu lama-20 ngethemba lokulahlekelwa phansi. Manje imindeni embalwa, lapho indoda eyinhloko yokudla, isebenza kusukela ekuseni kuze kuhlwe, kanti umkakhe uhlala ekhaya nezingane futhi uhlangana ne-getter emnyango ngendlovu esiphundu. Ngakho-ke, ngo-1967, cishe amaphesenti angu-50 abesifazane abashadile babengabesifazana. Njengamanje, inani labesifazane abangasebenzi abesehla kwezingamaphesenti angu-20. Kunenye iqiniso eliqakathekileko: emaphesenti angu-38 wamacala, abesifazane besimanje baseMelika bathola okungaphezu kwalabo abashade nabo.

Idatha itholakala ekufundeni okumele kube khona

Ucwaningo lwakhe, uDkt. Münsh wasebenzisa isifundo sommeleli, okwaholela ekukhethweni kwabangaphezu kuka-3 000 abaphenduliwe. Abahlanganyeli bahlola ngokuzimela isimo sempilo yabo engokwenyama, inhlalakahle yengqondo, kanye nenzuzo uma kuqhathaniswa nemali engenayo yowakwakho. Abacwaningi baphatha ukulawula iminyaka yobudala, imfundo, inzuzo engenayo kanye nokutholakala kwezingane.

Umbono womlobi wesifundo

Ngokuvamile, amadoda abika imali engenayo kanye namahora amaningi okusebenza ngesonto. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, amadoda abonisa ukwaneliseka okungenakho ngokuphila kwabo kwengqondo nangokomzimba. Umlobi wocwaningo wachaza umkhuba wamanje: "Umthengi uzama ukuthola okuningi nokunikeza izimo ezidingekayo zomndeni ukuba aphile, isibonelo, indlu yezwe noma indlu ephethe izinyathelo ezinkulu. Kodwa uma umuntu eqala ukuthola okuningi, kunzima kakhulu ukuba athathe isinyathelo emuva, anqabe ukusebenza isikhathi esengeziwe futhi asebenzise isikhathi esiningi nomndeni wakhe. Ngisho noma elambile lokhu, uhlale ekhulile engqondweni yakhe ngomthwalo wemfanelo. Lesi simo singabangela ukuthi yiziphi izazi zengqondo ezibiza ngokuthi "i-cell cell syndrome". Uma wenza imali eningi, kunzima kakhulu ukushintshela ekwenzeni izinto ezimnandi ezingangenisi imali. "