Uyini unembeza?

"Awunawo unembeza," "Unembeza ngabe bayodlwengulwa," "Unembeza - isilawuli engcono". "Izikhova Ukudla got ezinye." Lezi kanye nezinye izinkulumo eziningi mayelana nonembeza asikwazi nje kanye noma kabili wezwa empilweni yami. Ngakho-ke yini ngonembeza? Kungani siyidinga? Ngazi kanjani ukuthi unathi noma cha, nokuthi hhayi ukulahlekelwa?

Unembeza uhlobo ukulawula nasebuhlotsheni bethu nabanye. Kulokhu, umlamuli kuwo wonke umuntu. Unembeza womuntu - kuyinto nomqondo zomuntu siqu, akusiyo esezingeni, akunakwenzeka ukukala, ngithi: "Unembeza wami ingaphezu yakho". Konke kuncike kanjani umuntu uyakwazi ezilawula ukuziphatha kwayo siqu esimisweni sokuhle nokubi, izinkambiso okuyinto wonke umuntu uhlukile futhi kuncike imfundo, ezenhlalo imvelo, izici zobuntu, nakho ekuphileni. Ezingeni izinzwa unembeza kusisiza ukuba siqonde ubuze besimo ukwethembeka noma izenzo noma izenzo.

Uyini unembeza: unembeza izibonelo zokuphila

Unembeza inethonya elinamandla ekuphileni kwethu futhi kungaholela yokuhlushwa ngokwengqondo nge (ngabanye ngokomzwelo ikakhulukazi futhi ebucayi) sina ngenxa ukwenza isenzo esibi noma okungalungile maqondana nomunye umuntu. Ngokwesibonelo, singathola ezimbi e tekutfutsa bagibeli ngenxa yokucasuka yayo noma ukuntuleka kwemfundo. Okubizwa ngokuthi indoda "esisekelwe kunembeza" waxolisa ngayekwenzile okungalungile ngokushesha futhi uyozizwa "ukuzisola" isikhathi eside, futhi "abonakele" ukuba luhlaza - lena kuyindlela yakhona, akukho lutho ongalwenza ngakho. Singaba ashaqisayo abazali abangafuni usukhathele kithi ukufundisa ukuphila, kodwa ke uyaqaphela ukuthi babekhuluma iphutha, ngoba kusukela ebuntwaneni sifundiswa ukuthi ukuba bangahloniphi abadala - kungcono embi. Ezimweni eziningi thina nsuku zonke, ivikela unembeza, lixwayisa uthatha izinyathelo ukuthi ozozisola ngakho kamuva, njengokungathi ukusuthisa wenhlabamkhosi ngephutha, ayilungile noma ngenye indlela ka isenzo esithile.

Uyini unembeza: Unembeza imithombo

Kubaluleka unembeza wabeka abazali kithi esemncane (iminyaka 3-5), kanti futhi le nqubo lasungulwa ibizwa ngokuthi imfundo. Kulokhu, indima ebaluleke kunazo zonke lapha eyadlalwa kungekho izindaba ngamazwi mayelana okubi okuhle, futhi ukuziphatha okubonakalayo abazali abasabela ngayo izenzo nezenzo ingane. Ukuze uveze unembeza kwengane, kudingeka umsebenzi okuningi. Ngakho, uma uthi ulala - kukubi, bese bona ngokwabo iqiniso, yini okufanele uyilindele kulokho ingane okholelwa ukuthi bonke izenzo abazali - indinganiso Ukuziphatha kwakhe? Uma ukufundisa inhlonipho ingane ngoba abantu asebebadala, bese ahlahlele nomunye noma abanye, kungakhathaliseki kuyokunikeza ezinhle izithelo iziqalo unembeza? Uma izinyane akwenzele okuthile okungalungile, ungenawo ngokushesha zazimemeza zithi: "Awukwazi ukwenza lokho!" Futhi ukuze amjezise for icala lakhe, ngokwenani. Chaza itholakala, kungani zingalisebenzisi lokho kungaba nemiphumela engemihle ( "Uma uthinta ESHISAYO ebusweni, bese ashise iminwe yakho, kuyoba yinto ebuhlungu kakhulu, awukwazi ukudlala imidlalo, ukudweba", "Uma ungenalo aphakamise amathoyizi phansi Awukwazi oluzobhekelela, umuntu sondela them futhi luyoqala, "njll).

Shame, amahloni futhi unembeza

Lapho senza asilahle othile, singasho thina baba namahloni umuntu ezama ukuvusa unembeza wakhe. Ihlazo kube inkomba yokuthi ukuziphatha zokuziphatha. Kukholakala ukuthi ukhona emagama lafanako, njengoba kwaba ihlazo. Lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Shame ngempela - kuba isimo esithile umphefumulo, self-ukulahlwa. Shame okufanayo - it is evimbela thina by isimo sengqondo, singasho, a ukucasuka. Thina edelelwa othile, sakhuluma ngokuthi umlando bangakhethi futhi babe sesiwathethe sebezinqumela, sizizwa ahlaza (futhi akunandaba, ukukhuluma iqiniso noma ezisunguliwe). Futhi Ngokungazelelwe, saphumela namahloni. Shame gnaws ngesikhathi umuntu kakhulu ukwedlula unembeza.

Uyini unembeza: zinhlobo futhi izinhlobo ngonembeza

Isayensi zokuziphatha, unembeza, ngokukhethekile, okukhulunywe izimiso zokuhle. Yokuziphatha libabiza unembeza:

1. Okuqukethwe (Original, esisemthethweni).

2. Ifomu ukubonakaliswa (ngabanye, ngokuhlanganyela).

3. Amandla (Ukuhlupheka, ithulisiwe, esebenzayo).

amafomu Unembeza emelwe uhla sasivumela ububanzi ukubonakaliswa: ke ophikayo, futhi ukuzisola, futhi kokungabaza ubuhlungu, nehlazo, nokuvuma isono, futhi amahloni, futhi self-indida, nabanye.