Kuyini ubuhlobo uthando

Wonke umuntu okungenani kanye empilweni yakho ezibuza "kanjani ukuqeda uthando ibe imilutha." Kuthathwa ngokuthi kuyisici sobuntu ngaphezulu ucansi buthaka, kodwa akunjalo. Vele amadoda futhi bayanqikaza kakhulu futhi njalo ukuveza ngokucacile imicabango yabo mayelana nalezi zinkinga. Ubuhlobo Uthando ezingabantu kunomthelela omkhulu kwi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke kanye abesifazane. A nakuba isimo: wonke umuntu ithuba ukuthenga cishe kunoma iyiphi okukhethekile, uthole imfundo ezimbili ngisho ezintathu ephakeme, kodwa ezintweni ezibaluleke kakhudlwana, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso, ngokushesha, uma wonke umuntu ukhohliwe. Ngenxa yalokho, umuntu eqeda esikoleni, ekolishi, uyazi okuningi mayelana nokwakheka kwendawo yonke, kodwa ukuphila kwakhe siqu nezenhlalo yakhiwe, sithembele okwengeziwe umuzwa. Nakuba kuvisisa izenzo zabo - ke kuyisisekelo, okuyinto ukukhiqiza kuholela ebuhlotsheni obuhlala nabanye, yakha umphakathi omuhle.

Kuyini ubuhlobo uthando, lapho abanye bayafuna ngakho ukuqeda? Ngaphandle kokuya butholakala enqubweni eyinkimbinkimbi yokuthela psychoanalysis, leli gama libhekisela esifisweni somuntu sokuba ukuxhumana nabobulili obuhlukile. Futhi ngokomzimba nje kuphela, kodwa kunalokho ezingokomoya. Thanda ukulutheka ngokuthi ukubonakaliswa ngomunye wemigomo engokomoya, ngoba incazelo salo awanakufundwa nengqondo. Izimpikiswano ihlonishwe Freud kudala kuthiwa ngemibuzo futhi awukwazi ukuchaza ukuthi kwenzekani kuya ngokugcwele.

Kungani omunye umuntu angaphila ngokuphepha wedwa ngaphandle kokuzizwa bancishwa lutho, kuyilapho omunye ufuna ukuba njalo ukuxhumana omunye umuntu? Lena ubuhlobo uthando. Kakade-ke akuyona imfihlo ukuthi abesilisa nabesifazane banomthwalo amandla ezahlukene. izimfundiso Iningi esoteric unalowo mbono. Lokhu kulula kakhulu ukuze uqiniseke: lwanele ngeso lengqondo izimo futhi sihlaziye indlela esisabela ngayo kubo. Futhi, ningadakwa kahle ukusizakala ukuphila nakho kanye logic.

Ngokwesibonelo, abaningi imibhangqwana abaqondi lapho Luhambo bungasekho, sibonga ngalo kwanqunywa ukwakha umndeni. Muva nje, kwaba konke kulungile, kepha ngemva kweminyaka embalwa (ubude besikhathi kuncike Ubumnene) umuntu abasondelene iba ezikude nakakhulu kunangaphambili amaziyo. Ukushintsha ukubonakala, okuyinto evame kusolwa izinguquko imizwa, akuyona njalo imbangela yangempela. Kunengqondo ukuphetha ngokuthi abantu efanayo, futhi akukho isifiso khona, wawungasekho phakade. Lokhu kungenxa aphelele bamandla alo ithonya lomunye umuntu. Empeleni, isithakazelo buphela. Kodwa njengoba wazi, e kungenzeki ubunjalo wokulahlekelwa, ukuze abantu baqale ukubheka into entsha uthando futhi ngokuvamile uthola. Ucala isigaba esisha amandla exchange, sichaza igama elithi 'uthando'. Kuthatha isikhathi khona ... nayo yonke into iyaphindwa. wabonakaliswa Ngakho ubuhlobo uthando. Umuntu akakwazi ukuphila ukuphila okuvamile, kusenzima wedwa. Ingabe lo omubi? Akukho impendulo eyodwa alikho. Kusukela umbono zokuziphatha futhi izindinganiso zomphakathi - kukubi. Kodwa ubunjalo le ndoda, "kusho" lokwehlukile.

Imindeni lapho umuntu akancikile ngokweqile ku uthando ubudlelwano, singakwazi ukukhuthaza ukufunda ukuze Sublimation - esikhundleni okudonsa ekuqaleni zokudala. Ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane ezingavamile ungacabanga uthando olusha, kuyilapho ukuphila ngokuphelele: ojikelezayo, ngihambela nokucwala boutiques, ukusebenza nabantwana nomyeni wakhe, eseneminyaka benaka (amandla). Vele amadoda: uthando Luhambo kungaba uzoguqulelwa isakhiwo amakhaya, ukwakhiwa lokuhlala, into umsebenzi ozithandayo (ukudoba, motor ezemidlalo). Futhi indlela okubaluleke kakhulu - ukusebenzisa ngosizo onguchwepheshe. ukwelashwa Ngokuvamile ethandwa futhi ngempumelelo kakhulu iqembu ithemba. Kodwa kulokhu kuzofuneka ukuthi obala bavuma yokuntuleka ukuncika ukuthi kungaxazululwa akubona bonke.