Self-kulinywe, Psychology
Kungani Abafana ungabhali wokuqala? Kufanele ngiloba guy lokuqala?
Mhlawumbe njalo intombazane ujwayelene umuzwa uthando lapho umfana sasisihle khona kangangokuba wena njalo ucabange ngakho, ufuna ukuhlangana, iphupho. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, yena akhohlwe konke, ingqondo yakhe matasa imicabango abakhethiwe inhliziyo eyodwa, njalo ukhuluma kuphela ngaye. Kwakuthinta kule nkathi wobulili fair babé sengozini, izwele. Ngivakashela kubo ngokuvamile singabaze: "Mina engithanda", "kungani ababiza ngokuthi", "kungani le nsizwa akusho ukubhala." Sonke abajwayele, ukuthi isinyathelo sokuqala ngokuvamile ukwenza indoda, ngakho-ke uma umfana is made kakhulu kwaba buthule, kungcono elishaqisayo. Kanjani ukuqonda kungase Esimweni esinjalo, yini okufanele uyenze, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, uthule ukuthula kwengqondo?
Ukubhala ngokwalo noma cha?
Owesifazane angaba uhlupho mcabango: - uma engazihlanzi ucingo noma ukubhala okungenani usuku olulodwa "Ukubhala guy kuqala khona?". Noma ngemva komhlangano wokuqala. ukungabaza eziphikelelayo nokukhathazeka ngokuthi yini okungenzeka ukuthi kukhona okungalungile, glozhat Owesifazane. Futhi yena kwakuyoba sijabule ukuba athathe isinyathelo ngokwayo, kodwa uma kubhekwa isimo yokuziqhenya wentombazane akwenzeki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwenza kanjalo. Nanguya esabe ukugconwa, uthole esimweni esiyinkinga. Angathaba kungcono ukuhlupheka, ukuhlukumeza imicabango edabukisayo kodwa ngeke liphinde onikezwe umfana uma naye engaqiniseki ukuthi uzwelana acabange ukuthi izinga akuthanda. Ngokuvamile embuzweni yabesifazane: "Kungani guys ungabhali ngowokuqala" - kuyinto impendulo isobala, ukuthi bonke abantu abafani, kuhlanganise nabameleli wobulili namandla. Nabo futhi, besaba inyumbazane, may aphansi namahloni, bakhathazeka ngokuthi uyobheka iwubuphukuphuku. Ngokuvamile, abafana banelungelo ukuzwa yonke imizwa efanayo amantombazane, kodwa umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwabo itholakala lokuthi ukuthi ngemva zonke guys kufanele athathe isinyathelo kuqala.
Kungani Abafana ungabhali ngemva komhlangano wokuqala?
Izizathu kungaba isixuku esikhulu, ngakho intombazane Akubalulekile ngokushesha akhathazeke futhi nakakhulu ahlupheke ngenxa yalesi. Isimo kungaba ngempela banal - guy imatasa esikoleni noma emsebenzini, uyakhathala futhi akabange esaba naso isikhathi ukubiza le ntombazane. Umehluko omkhulu phakathi guys kusukela amantombazane - ngeke ukuchitha isikhathi on the yeningi eyisigamu sehora. Ngokuvamile, amadoda uncamela wokuqala ukuqedela izinto zabo ezibalulekile, bese ucabanga ngale ntombazane, ikakhulukazi uma usanda wahlangana. Sicabanga ngalokho yena indoda, ngakho ungacabangi ngalokho okudingekayo ukuze ushayele njalo ngemva kwamahora ambalwa intombazane ukuthi muva waphuma ngosuku.
Zikhona ezinye izizatho
Omunye umfana awukwazi ukuzishayela wayephelelwe inombolo yefoni komngane entsha, ikakhulukazi lokhu kungenzeka uma Lalotshwa ezintweni iqabunga, kanye inkumbulo ongahlabeki. Futhi, angalahlekelwa ekhadini le-SIM. Kuyinto isimo kubalulekile.
Kuvele Ukubusa ebaluleke
amantombazane Sawubona, khumbula lo mthetho ezibalula inani, uma umfana umxhwele onjengaye, uyaqiniseka ukuthi ucingo noma ukubhala, uma yena ulahlekelwe Room - ukuthola enye indlela ngikuhlangabeze. Uma akazange baxhumane nawe, ungenaso uhlobo intombazane Kufana naye, ubuye indoda futhi unelungelo lokukhetha. Lokhu akusho ukuthi uku into embi, kukhona nje umuntu ezimbili eziqondile nomunye is ingafinyeleleki. Futhi akukho lutho olungalungile, ukuba zihlale kubo lokhu akudingekile, futhi okuhlangenwe nakho - nakakhulu. Qiniseka ukuthola enye insizwa ababengeke baqagela ukuthi kungani le nsizwa Kufute ubhale kuqala, kodwa kwenze.
Kunganjani guy uthi, uma eside ajwayelekile?
Uma eside abangane isikhathi umfana, nonke nina waya phezulu ukuba nobuhlobo obungathi sina ngokungazelelwe evele wayeka ngokubhala futhi bebiza, kuhle ukucabangela. Lokhu kungaba iyashaqisa insimbi mayelana nezinguquko esizayo empilweni yakho. Kungani Abafana ungabhali wokuqala? Nazi ezinye izizathu:
- wahlangana nomunye intombi; njalo yona umxhwele kuye;
- kwenzekeni kuye into embi;
- khona nawe okuthile wacasula kakhulu.
Iphuzu lokugcina kungaba ngisho touch up kancane. Akukona ubuhlungu, futhi uthukuthele noma abangajabule. Vumelana nalelo engqondweni kuyaqabukela lokho guys ngeke wenze ukubiza. Ngokuvamile, le ntombazane okwamanje uqala usola lover wakhe lokungakholwa, ukuntula uthando, okuyinto kwandzisa isimo.
Bhala noma cha?
Kufanele ngiloba guy lokuqala? Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukuba asolwe futhi uyena okufanele axolise - qiniseka ukuthi uyabhala futhi ushayele. Ngakho, wena nje kuphela ukulondoloza ubuhlobo bakho, kodwa ukunikeza guy baqonde ukuthi akayena ongenandaba kuwe, futhi uzizwa kuye uthando. Musa zibuze umbuzo wokuthi kungani guys akuzona ngowokuqala uthi. Zenze isinyathelo sokuqala. Believe me, ulinde ukuxolisa kwakho futhi nginithandile kakhulu ngendlela une it. Uma ungafuni ukuba ushayele, bhala umyalezo engosini yokuxhumana nabantu noma i-SMS. Ngakho ungaqiniseka ukuthi wayebathulisile ulifunde. Khona-ke, uma kungekho ukuphendula, bese uthatha isinyathelo kabusha kangcono hhayi. Akufanele ahambe umfana ne imibuzo lapho ayekhona ngalokho ayekwenzela naso sonke lesi sikhathi. It okucasulayo. Kungcono ukuzama ukuxabana ngemva ubuhlobo bakho uye waqina nokuningi ithenda. Futhi-ke, sengathi by the way, uthole ukuthi yini le nsizwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Ambalwa nje izizathu "ukuthula" guys
Ngezinye izikhathi abanye abafana ikakhulukazi uma nithandana abesifazane ngamabomu ungabhali ke njengendlela usihlole. Uma intombazane iqala kuyisidina futhi ukubiza noma ukubhala, akathandi ukuhlangabezana nale wavele ngeke.
Abanye abantu abasha nje musa luhambisane, uncamela umhlangano wangempela. Nansi impendulo yombuzo othi mayelana nokuthi kungani guys ungabhali kuqala. Uma ngandlela-thile ungathandi ke, ngeke kudingeke ulwe nale ngobuqili babo njengabesifazane nento ukusebenzisa amanye amaqhinga. Ingabe umtshela ukuthi anakekele kuye, ukukhathazeka futhi miss ukusho ukuthi umyalezo wakhe kuwe isenzakalo esibaluleke kakhulu ngosuku. Kufanele ngiloba guy lokuqala? Worth ke!
amathiphu amantombazane
Ayikho icala umfana uma ubhala kuwe imisho monosyllabic, uma kwenzeka nje. Yileyondlela logic komuntu, kuba lula kakhulu ukubhala "Zonke ok" kuka ukupenda, njengazo zonke ezinhle. Yilokhu guys bengafani amantombazane. Ungakhathazeki, sicela uthintane kuqala uma nithandana. Intsha eningi bavame ukucabanga ukuthi ukuxhumana - Saze sadlala ngesikhathi, futhi kungcono ukuchitha ke nentombazane empilweni yangempela, kunokuba ukuxhumana cishe.
Nazi sezizathu ezinkulu zokuthi kungani guys akuzona ngowokuqala uthi. Inhlanhla othandana naye!
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