Kanjani ukukhuluma kahle: Amathiphu

Sonke bazama ukwenza abanye abantu babe nombono omuhle ngabo, kodwa wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi kwakhiwa nokuhlolwa umuntu nge yezingxenye ezine? Lezi zihlanganisa ukubukeka, izenzo, futhi, eqinisweni, lokho esikushoyo. Kulokhu, lokho okubalulekile akukhona nje lokho esikushoyo, kodwa nendlela siwenza.

Funda ukukhuluma kahle

Kanti anizazeli yini okungenani oyedwa umuntu kunzima ukukhuluma. Iqiniso lokuthi kudingeka wazi hhayi kuphela indlela ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba, kodwa futhi ngokuphumelelayo baveze umbono wabo.

Asizame ukukhuluma mayelana amaphuzu ayinhloko enkulumweni yethu, ngoba akekho ifundiswa ukukhuluma, futhi ngenxa yalokho, ezinye izincomo kuyoba usizo kakhulu.

Okokuqala, kufanele silinake ngokungathí lamagama. Udinga ukuze ufunde kabanzi, ngoba ngezinye izikhathi nje abanalo amazwi, ukuze bahlanganise imibono yabo. Esikushoyo kungaba kubophane ulimi, kungase ukuhlangabezana okuthiwa izwi-ukhula nezinye kwamaphutha.

Manje kuwufanele ukunaka ukucindezeleka ozenza amazwi. Ukuze-ke wayephumelela njengombusi, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi kahle ukuphimisa amagama. Kulokhu, isichazamazwi kuzokusiza indlela efanele yokubiza amagama, ukufunda amagama ezivame kakhulu, kodwa uma ungabaza njengoba ukugcizelela kangcono esikhundleni salo igama elifanayo, noma ngisho miss.

Isikhathi esining impela lapho sikhuluma sithanda ukusebenzisa amagama extra ukuthi musa baphathe nencazelo ekhethekile. Ngokwesibonelo: "Ngokuvamile, ngasayina amaphepha konke," "Hhayi-ke, ngingabeka phandle lapho, hlobo luni isitaki samaphepha". Kuphela amasonto amabili yokubandula, nokuhlela lokho okushoyo kuyothakazelisa kangakanani "wezindlu" futhi zithole ubuhle etemibhalo.

Ukucabanga ukuthi ukukhuluma kahle, akufanele sikhohlwe mayelana ithoni, esithinta umbono jikelele lokho obekushiwo. Okuphuma ulula: ungakwazi qopha izwi lakho on tape bese sihlaziye, kungenziwa exhunywe le nqubo, amaqabane, ukuthi ukusho ukuthi bengakuthandi e ingxoxo yakho.

Ngezinye izikhathi sisebenzisa inkulumo yethu nzima ukuqonda amazwi abanye. Khumbula eminyakeni ekolishi, uma ngempela abakwazi ukuqonda inkulumo uprofesa, kodwa-ke kuye kwakubonakala sengathi ukhuluma impela ezingabizi. Iqiniso liwukuthi bonke singasho ngolimi olulula, liqondwe wonke umuntu ngokukhetha amagama. Zama ukugcina inkulumo yakho akazange liqukathe amagama engaqondakali kumngane wakho, bese konke uyowela endaweni.

Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi ukukhuluma, kufanele ukhohlwe ngokuphelele mayelana nokusetshenziswa inhlamba, isitsotsi lomkhakha. Ngokungangabazeki, umngane wakho kanjalo uyokuqonda kahle uma uthi kuye: "Kwakungenxa Soul Plane Party, ngakho obuningi kakhulu kwaba Ukunyakaza on the dance floor!". Kodwa-ke akudingekile ngomoya ofanayo ukutshela umuntu omdala ukuthi kanjani NgeSonto kusihlwa yakho. Une ukuhlunga inkulumo yakho futhi ukucabanga ngalokho okushoyo nokuthi bayinikela kubani.

Muva nje, athandwa kakhulu phakathi kwabantu abakhuluma olunye ulimi, kwaba ukusetshenziswa enkulumweni yakhe, emagama angaphandle. Ukuxuba izilimi okuhle ngeke kuholele, akusiyo kuphela ugly, kodwa akucaci ukuthi abanye abantu, ngisho noma bazi ulimi kuyiphi udla lawo mazwi.

Mhlawumbe ukhona kancane bamangale, kodwa ukwazi ukuthi ukukhuluma, kumele wazi ukuthi kulalelwa kanjani. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzoba onekhono elihle lokuxoxa, uma udamane uphazamisa ingxoxo isitha sakho futhi ningathuli ngaye lokuveza umbono waKhe.

Kulokhu, engakutholi kakhulu ngenkuthalo ukubuza imibuzo, kungenjalo inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho ngeke bathanda ukukhuluma, kodwa okunye kokuphenywa kwakhe kwangempela.

Kuwufanele ukukhumbula umthetho osemqoka we onekhono elihle lokuxoxa: Ungaphazamisi. Ikhono ukunikeza izwi ngikwazisa kakhulu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lapho sekuyithuba lakho lokukhuluma, awudingi a "egcwele amagwebu emlonyeni" ukufakazela ukuthi akanacala. Ingxoxo akufanele liyafana mpikiswano zezombusazwe, lapho wonke umuntu efuna ukuvikela ngombono wakhe futhi bathethelele izenzo zabo. Kufanele bakwazi ujike ingxoxo yakho engxoxweni emnandi ezikhululekile.