Izinkinga zomndeni wanamuhla noma Yini esilindele kusasa?

Umndeni uyisigaba sezenhlalo esisekelwe emshadweni noma ebuhlotsheni begazi, amalungu awo ahlangene ngokuphila ngokuhlanganyela kanye nokulima, kanye nezibopho ezingokomzwelo nomthwalo wemfanelo komunye nomunye.

Njengoba umndeni uyinto encane kunazo zonke emphakathini, ibonisa zonke izinkinga ezikhona zendalo ehlukile. Izinkinga zomndeni wamanje ziningi kakhulu, futhi izimpande zawo zijulile kangangokuthi ngezinye izikhathi akunakwenzeka ukuzixazulula ngaphandle kosizo lochwepheshe.

Noma yimuphi ingane iyayidinga, ngoba ayikho izinhlangano zomphakathi, izintandane nezinsimu zezithelo ezikwazi ukuyibeka esikhundleni.

Ngokwezibalo zengqondo kanye nabacwaningi, umphakathi wanamuhla unesimo sokuphikisana okuqhubekayo, ngakho-ke lokhu kusebenza nasezinhlakeni ezincane kakhulu. Ake sibheke ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga zomndeni wanamuhla, ukuze uthole indlela enengqondo yokuphuma kwimeko evelile.

Okokuqala, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi inani labantu abakulo liba lincane futhi lincane. Isibonelo, uma ngaphambili kwakunabantwana abayishumi nambili, kwakungokwemvelo ukuzala abathathu, kodwa manje ngaphezulu kwalabo abashadile abahlala emntwaneni munye. Futhi lesi simo sezindaba asihlali ngaso sonke isikhathi ngoba abazali abafuni ukuthola ingane yesibili ngenxa yezingcingo zabo. Ngokuvamile imbangela yimo simo sezezimali, ukwesaba ikusasa lomntwana, kanye nezinkinga eziningi zezempilo ezingabhekana kokubili indoda nowesifazane. Izinkinga ezinjalo zomndeni wanamuhla zihlanganisa ukuguga kwesizwe, ngoba ukufa isikhathi eside kudlula izinga lokuzalwa.

Isimo esibucayi esilandelayo yisigaba sokukhula phakathi kwabazali nezingane, ngoba kukhona igebe phakathi kwabo, ngokusekelwe ekuhlukeni kwezinhlelo zokukhulisa. Umama nobaba bakhuliswa ngezinye izindinganiso zokuziphatha, futhi izingane sezivele zibona ezinye izimpawu: ukushada ngempumelelo, ukubheka umhlaba kalula, ukungacabangi ngezinkinga zabanye abantu nokunye. Yiqiniso, izinkinga zenhlalo ezinjalo zomndeni wanamuhla azikwazi ukuthi zibe nesisekelo: konke kubeka emphakathini wanamuhla. Kubuye futhi kungenakuphikwa ukuthi ukubukwa kwabazali kwakungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa ukufakwa kwakuhlale kuhle futhi kulungile. Uma umgomo ubukhulu, okungenani umphumela wesilinganiso uzofezwa. Uma uhlaka lokuhle nokubi lufiphala, kukhona ukubhuka, izingane ziyakuzwa ngokushesha futhi zilandele indlela yokunciphisa okungenani.

Phakathi kwezinkinga ezikhulayo ezikhulayo futhi ukuthuthukiswa kwesimo sengqondo esibi ngabafundisi besikole, ukungabihloniphi. Yiqiniso, ikhwalithi yabasebenzi bezemfundo incishisiwe, kanti isikole sibhekene nenkinga ethile. Akekho ozophikisana nalokhu. Nokho, lezi zinkinga zomphakathi zomndeni azikhiqizi nje kuphela izici eziyinhloso, kodwa futhi ngabazali ngokwabo. Ngokuvamile kakhulu ebuhlotsheni nabothisha, ubudlelwano bemali yezimpahla buqala ukuqala. Umphakathi uthinteka ekuxhumaneni okukhohlakele ukuthi ngisho esikoleni bazama ukuyisebenzisa. Ngezindlela eziningi, abazali kufanele babekwe icala ngalokhu. Baqala ukucasula othisha abasebevele bephuthelwa yiholo (njengoba abantu abaningi becabanga). Kodwa uthisha, uma engathandi into ethile, angathola ukhetho olwengeziwe kunombono wokukhokha. Futhi abamele imindeni yabafundi akufanele baqothule.

Ngokungangabazeki, izinkinga zomndeni wamanje zisezingeni eliphezulu lokuthuthukiswa kwazo. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kule selula yomphakathi kubalulekile ukubeka isiphambano. Imindeni eminingi ingakwazi ukusabalalisa isabelomali esincane, ngenkathi ingafuni izingane zokunakekelwa noma zothando. Kufanele unikeze ukubeka okulungile empilweni yengane yakho ukuze akwazi ukuhlukanisa okuhle nokubi futhi alandele indlela efanele. Uma ubudlelwane emndenini buhle, konke ukuhlupheka kuyothumela ekuthandeni okuqinile kanye nengqondo eqinile.