Amathiphu ambalwa sendlela ukubuyela guy ngemva sokuvalelisa

Ukuhlukana ne othandekayo - kungcono njalo ubuhlungu nentukuthelo, okuyinto okunzima kakhulu ukuzinqoba. Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi ukuphila yaphela, kodwa eqinisweni - ungoyedwa wonke amakhasi alo amaningi. Kodwa njengoba ungafuni ukuba Pheqa, ngoba akekho owaziyo ukuthi Uyoletha esilandelayo. Akulula kanjalo ukumisa ngothando uze ukhohlwe umuntu oyedwa namanje umchilo komphefumulo wakho, onginike inhliziyo yakho. Ngingathanda ukuthola usizo, kwaba njengakuqala. Kodwa ungakwenza kanjani na? Kanjani ukubuyela guy ngemva okuvalelisa?

Okokuqala kudingeka unqume, nokuthi uludinga? Akumangalisi bethi ezimbili ningangeni umfula, ukuthi umbani kabili ishaya endaweni efanayo. Futhi nakhu ithuba step on the hala efanayo uzibonakalisé umkhulu kakhulu. Uma usukulungele lesi sinyathelo futhi ufuna okungenani uzame ukwenza kube up lover wakhe, khona-ke, okokuqala kunakho konke, awudingi ukuba netwetwe, ubekezele nokuzola cabanga yonke imininingwane yakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe. Khumbula, ngokuba lowo muntu beningithanda? Futhi wena unawo? Manje cabanga, kangaki futhi lokho isikhathi ngokuvamile ziyaphikisana? Ngubani okwenzile umqalisi? Ngokuqinisekile zikhona ezinye izinto kancane ukuthi yini ukucasulwa nomunye, kodwa ayizange izame ngisho nokuzama ukuba amicably ukuxoxisana. Futhi ukuzonda ngesizathu esihle. Liye lazibonakalisa practice ukuthi amadoda ngokuphindaphindiwe - hhayi telepaths, namacebo abaqondi. Futhi bethanda isisa nothando. Ngakho-ke, yayo kungenzeka ukufeza ngokubuza kuye ngento ngqo, kodwa ngesisa. Futhi ngokushesha nje lapho isicelo senziwa, kubalulekile ukuba sidumise indoda. Nokho, lokhu kuyinto nje isikhumbuzo yini eyayingenziwa ukuze kuqinisekiswe ukuthi akwenzekanga lezi, ezingemnandi, izingxabano ezincane yasekhaya. Manje, wena namanje akuzona ndawonye, kodwa ngempela ufuna ukukulungisa. Ngakho-ke, uma ubuza umbuzo "kanjani ukuba uthole umfana?", I amathiphu kudingeka stroke wena. Yiqiniso, amaphesenti ayikhulu sokuthi uzoba ufuna ukuba abuyele nawe, cha, kodwa ungazama ukwenza kanjalo:

1) Kudingeka siqaphele ukuthi empeleni akukho endaweni yonke nhlekelele awenzekanga. Zama ukuhlola isimo kahle: ndawo ezisemagumbini akuyona ibekwe amasokisi ezingcolile, okuyinto oyenze atholakala kuphela nephunga; kungekho ezintabeni likabhiya amathini kanye namabhodlela emhlabeni ikani likadoti; akekho sekuqalile kusukela uchungechunge on ibhola; akekho eshiya polkotlety enesizungu imbala, kodwa musa ukugeza ungcwecwe; akekho oyekayo ukuhlangabezana abangani hang out nabo kwaze kwaba sekuseni; Akekho snoring endlebeni yakho futhi alihlangani ne embhedeni ... Qhubeka? Uma ngemva kwalokhu usakhathazekile mayelana umbuzo kanjani ukubuyela guy ngemva sokuvalelisa, bese ufunda le ndima elandelayo;

2) ungalindeli ukuthi uzozama ukuvumelanisa yena nawe, kodwa wena akufanele ayokubeka phezu kwayo hysterically, edwengula ifoni futhi scribbling sms anezingxoxo engapheli kanye nemiyalezo ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi. Yiba nesineke futhi sibe nokuziqhenya ngobuzwe, ungavumeli ngokwakho ukubheka ungowosizi, ecindezelekile 'broshenkoy ". Yebo, ukudonsa ngokwami ndawonye kunzima kakhulu, kodwa akudingekile. Ningaphendukeli ku ngokwabo futhi wenze into efanayo, yini okufanele uyenze ngaphambi bahlangana indoda yakhe. Emva ahlezi ngaphandle kwalo? Futhi unga manje;

3) Isinyathelo esilandelayo kuyi "indlela ukubuyela guy?" Ingabe ukukhonza njengoba ucingo lwakho kuye (ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile uthule ephelele) kanye sipho ukuhlangabezana insimu hlangothi. Akunakusetshenziswa ningahoxi noma nikhale. Vele izwi ezolile ibuze umhlangano. Uma namanje uyakuthanda, yena uzovuma;

4) emhlanganweni ubambe friendly onokuthula, hhayi zingena out phezu kwakhe imizwa zeziyaluyalu futhi, kungaba kuhle noma kube kubi. Qhubeka fushane profile futhi nje umazise ukuthi wena ngimkhumbula: ungakwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwawo, kodwa akenqenanga ukubuyela "ezinsukwini ezimnandi zakudala." Uma ngandlela-thile senqabe ukuvuselela ubuhlobo, nje niguquke futhi uhambe. Ngaphandle hysterics nezinyembezi. Hysteria bekukhalela futhi bayokhala ekhaya futhi ngaphandle ofakazi;

5) Kungenzeka, ngisho nangemva kokuba "cha" zonke elahlekile: Linda ngesonto, mhlawumbe sekuyisikhathi sokuba ukuhlolwa nizithibe ngaphezulu isimo futhi agucule umcondvo wakhe. Usebenzise emzamweni wakhe njengoba umfana emuva ngemva sokuvalelisa wabonisa isithakazelo sabo kulo nokuzimisela bakwethembe. Uma uyakuthanda ngempela, futhi akulona isiwula, ngeke epha you another potsho futhi qiniseka ukubiza. Uma esikhathini esingaphansi kwesonto, okungenani ezimbili, ngakho ayizange ilandelwe iyiphi "ukuthinta" - kahle, zithobeni awudingi wambona futhi, ngakho ungavula ngokuphepha ikhasi yokuphila kwakhe izenzakalo ezinhle esilandelayo, mnandi futhi egcwele.

Sethemba, lezi zincomo nesizotha sendlela ukubuyela guy ngemva sokuvalelisa ziyokusiza ekuhleleni ukuphila kwakho ngendlela ofuna ukukwenza.