Ukufaneleka? Lokho thina ungadluli!

"Ubuqotho" - yigama ezijwayele sonke kahle, futhi ezimweni eziningi kusho okuthile isidina. Aint it? Vele kubonakala "nerd" izibuko, okuyinto uhumusha izintokazi ubudala ezingaphesheya komgwaqo, yadedela kwezithuthi zomphakathi kanye nezindawo zonke ngokheshi, futhi kusihlwa kususa amakati ezihlahleni. Angikholwa ukuthi umuntu ugibele yamaphoyisa kanye oluphethe izwe, kungaba ehloniphekile. Noma akunjalo? Noma yini le njabulo? Ake sixoxe ngakho kule post.

Ubuhle manje ayisekho vogue

In fashion, futhi emfashinini akuyona izingubo kuphela noma izitayela umculo, kodwa nesokuthi zonke izimfanelo ezithile zokuziphatha. Njengoba iningi lethu abazalwa kwamaSoviet (futhi amanye aze ngisho nelungelo zikhula futhi uthole imfundo ngalesi sikhathi), asazi mathupha ngubani "timurovtsi". Kwakuyisikhathi "mkhuba", ngolimi lwanamuhla, intsha wazama ukuba sithembeke, isabela, womuntu. Igama elithi "ukuhlonipheka" yingaleso zonke ajwayelekile kanye ahlonishwe.

Lapho Lensimbi usikhombisa ke yimfashini ukuba naughty. Beatniks, abaphikisi bombuso - intsha bavame ukuphikisa uhlelo, indlela ngisho noma cha ngempela ngokwethembeka. Yini fashion namuhla? Kwangathi kungelokothe kube njalo Ukukhathalela! Ake ke akufundiswa ekilasini esikoleni, kodwa imfashini namuhla alwele eziphakeme, ukuthola ingcebo nodumo. Ukufaneleka? Lena into engase ithiye futhi ngingafune kufeza lutho. Ngokuhamba amazwi afana "Chutzpah - injabulo yesibili", "Wonke umuntu yena", futhi kuba "nokwaphuka 'ukuziphatha it is tacitly evunywe umphakathi.

Nobuqotho

Empeleni, abekho abantu noma uhulumeni isistimu ingakwazi anqume ngawe kanjani ukuba abantu. Khumbula ukuthi umama babelokhu bethi kithi ingane ngoba oyisiphukuphuku umbono wakhe ukuziphatha? "Uma beya bagxume besuka phansi lwesishiyagalombili, khona-ke nabo futhi baya?" Ase manje "imfashini" ukuba umuntu onjalo abangalaleli ngaphandle imigomo kanye nemithetho, kodwa kukhona futhi leli zwi elingaphakathi, ibutho banamandla ngaphezu izwi kohlelo lomphakathi.

Ngamunye wethu uyalizwa izwi owanibiza unembeza, umphefumulo, ingqondo noma izwi inhliziyo. Ukufaneleka - lokhu ingenye ekhombisa bethu abakhulu. Yini kubonakaliswa?

Buyini ubuqotho?

1. Umahluko phakathi "okuhle" futhi "okubi." Akuyona indaba yokuthi amaphethini yomphakathi, umuzwa ongaphakathi kwakho. Ngaphandle izimiso zenkolo kanye nekhodi lokujeziswa ingabe uyazi ukuthi kuyinto enhle hhayi kakhulu.
2. Ukungafuni ukwenza izenzo "okubi". ubuqotho Yangaphakathi liletha kithi umuzwa ihlazo endabeni ukwenza izenzo zokuziphatha okubi. Qaphela ukuthi akukho kokucindezelwa - thina ukunquma ukuthi benzeni. Futhi ngisho uma ukhetha into "akulungile" (ngombono wethu), singahlala ungajeziswa nhlobo, futhi kuphela ngemva kokuba unembeza wethu uyohlupha.
3. Isifiso ukwenza izenzo ezinhle. I ukufaneleka kwangaphakathi "avumela" isifiso sethu sokuthobela abanye "okuhle" futhi umuzwa nomvuzo omkhulu wokwaneliseka.

Okwenza ukwethembeka lomuntu?

Kungase kubonakale kungavamile, kodwa abantu abaningi babo bancamela sinqatshwe isipho esinjalo bemvelo okungabazekayo kanjani ukufaneleka. Kuqakatheke ngani? Ukugxambukela ukukhula siqu, intuthuko, sitfutfukise lwati kubafundzi?

Nokho, njengoba umkhuba nesipiliyoni ezigidi zabantu, bonke "amathoyizi" efana imali, udumo, igunya ongaqhubeki ukwaneliseka okukhulu zokuziphatha (Yiqiniso, kunzima ukukholelwa, kodwa hhayi "ngamabomu" banayo amaningi). Abantu nokujaha wonke amavolumu enkulu la impumelelo, kodwa ukuze uthole kubo ukuzwa ukukhungatheka umuzwa into okucindezelayo eshaweni. Kodwa zama ukuhlala ngokufaneleyo! Ngeke sithole lutho ezibonakalayo, kodwa umphefumulo ngeke kujabula izitho zonke kanye nokucula. Eqinisweni sendaba ukuthi izinto ezibonakalayo njenge inkohliso Christmas amathoyizi - "kungakhuthazi." Ngesikhathi esifanayo ke ivumela ukufaneleka ukuzizwa onke futhi cishe phezu kwezwe, ngisho noma ungumfundi abampofu.

Ukufaneleka - awukona ngempela izinga. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuziphatha "okuhle", ngokuvumelana eyeqisayo yesimanje yezenhlalakahle ukuvimbela umuntu becabanga. Kodwa lokhu kuphela uma siqonda ngu "ukuqaliswa" ngokwabo ngokuphishekela izinto ezifana nokuthuthukiswa kwemisebenzi, imali, izinto ezintsha uphawu. Uma ufuna ukuba nje ujabule, ukuze siphile ngokuvumelana nawe ngokwakho ke ungatholi zingafanele ehloniphekile.