Ngokuvamile, ukuphikisana izihlobo, esikuzwayo esasimangalelwe ikheli yobugovu icala elifanayo ngokumelene ngokwabo - abazali, izingane, umyeni, unkosikazi. Phakathi nengxabano umuntu angenakho ucabange indlela amazwi zakhe ziyiqiniso - engqondweni ukuzikisa imizwa. Futhi uma ukuqonda inkinga yamakhaza, abazithibayo?
Umqondo ezazizozuzisa
Leli gama lisuselwa impande ukuzazisa Latin, t. E. "Mina". Ngakho-ke, uma umuntu enomuzwa kangcono, umngane uyakufanelekela - ke sithuthuke ubugovu. Uma kudinga yena izinzuzo eziningi, ukunakekelwa, ukunakekela, uthando, amalungelo - ukuziphatha okunjalo kubonisa khona lezi zimfanelo ubuntu bakhe. UMfoweth 'akafuni ukwabelana nodadewethu amnandi, indoda engafuni asize umkakhe endlini - liphinde zobugovu. Kusukela esikoleni, siyazi ukuthi uwukwenziwa samuntu Larra, iqhawe kwendaba Maksima Gorkogo "Old Isergil". Yini wazakhela idumela lokuba ongakhethi?
Kusukela Larry ukuze Danko
Khumbula zabuna! Larra, indodana ethile yowesifazane yasemhlabeni nokhozi, Inkosi Izinyoni, wayemuhle kokuvamile, uyaziqhenya ukuzikhukhumeza, futhi wayekholelwa ukuthi angenza konke: thatha wena amantombazane amahle kakhulu isizwe, bantshontshe izinkomo, abadala yokweyisa clan kanye ukubulala izizwe uma abazange Abafuni ukuqaphela ukuphakama kwakhe . Lokhu ubugovu, akunjalo? Abantu efanayo ukumkhokhela zokudebeselela imithetho jikelele? Hhayi bokuhlukaniswa ukuphila, akukho - ukuxoshwa! Ngisho nomhlaba ngokwawo engathandi ukwamukela ukufa kwakhe uthole round. Larra kwabonakala sengathi ngeke bakwazi ukuba ukungafi nesizungu. Ekuqaleni, lo hero wajabula ngisho ne eziyimbangela yalokhu: ke ubugovu yakhuluma naye. Kodwa emakhulwini eminyaka baye badlula, futhi ukuba nesizungu kwamane waqala nesisindo uhlamvu Gorky sika. Nokho sebyalyubtsem akekho ofuna ukuba zibe nezindaba - okungukuthi iqiniso! Futhi uhluke ngokuphelele Larry - kwenye handsome, Danko. Abantu wayemthanda ezingaphezu kuka ngokwami, ukwedlula ukuphila kwakhe siqu. Futhi ngisho kwenhliziyo eshayayo waklebhula esifubeni sakhe ngabo. Bobabili izinhlamvu ihlanganise e ifomu kanzulu ngefomu okumsulwa kanye sokukhathalela zobugovu - amafomu amabili okuphambene komuntu.
Funa umehluko
Bawenza kanjani iyaphikisana? Abaningi! izimpilo zobugovu, benza into ngenxa yalo. Futhi ngisho noma usiza abanye, it is hhayi esingenandaba. bazizuzise - eliqondisa zonke izenzo zakhe. Kuyinto Axiom kalula, ngeke kushintshe lutho. Ngenxa sokukhathalela nobugovu - antonymous imiqondo. Ukuzidela, ukuqashelwa kwamalungelo kanye nezithakazelo nezinye, isifiso sokwenza into enhle noma ewusizo kumuntu othile, kodwa alimaze ngokwabo - abantu abazokwazi efana Danko, "ilanga usegazini," njengoba ekhuluma ngokuphela iqhawe ukuhluzwa kwemibhalo.
Kusukela Dictionary of Life ukuvula izikhala
Kungcono ukukusiza uqonde ukuthi iyiphi ubugovu, imiqondofana izwi. Okokuqala, lokhu Narcissism (isb. E. Ukuzithanda), ubugovu (cishe okufanayo), kanye ezazizozuzisa yena. Zokusebenza kwengqondo ngokuvamile bathi umuntu wanamuhla ingabe siswele self-uthando. bona isinxusa ukuba nobugovu? Lutho neze! Siyinikezela isikhathi esiningi ukusebenza, ukuxazulula izinkinga zansuku zonke noma ngesikhathi esifushane, emahlombe UBANI umkhaya, futhi zonke lezi nje awunaso isikhathi ukwenza okuthile okuhle kuwe. Bese thina akhononde impilo ukukhathala zokuziphatha, ukungabi ukuphila omuhle. Yisiphi isiphetho kulandela kulokhu? Thanda wena - hhayi ngempela into embi. Into esemqoka ukuthi akazange athathe amafomu hypertrophied! Kodwa ubugovu - a mkhuba ohlelweni oluhlukile, futhi kufanele kunqotshwe ngokwabo. Nakuba debatable!
inkemba esika nhlangothi zombili
Iyini inkinga eyinhloko ubugovu, okuyinto esingase sibhekane nabo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke? I webumbacambili yobuntu bakhe. Lapho sicabanga omunye sebyalyubtsem? Uma lokhu "nezinye" nenqaba ukuhlanganyela nathi amafa abo - siqu isikhathi, imizwa nemizwelo, ulwazi, imali, njll Umbuzo zomthetho .. Futhi uma othile udela inzuzo yakhe siqu pha, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso, kunalowo uqondiswa? Odokotela bengqondo akholelwa ukuthi ukuba abe nesifiso sokujabulisa, ukuze kunganikeza umbono omuhle. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi wayenomuzwa umuphi (onikelayo) akukuniki uqobo kulo mbiko. It kuvela ukuthi isisusa esiyinhloko wezenzo ezinhle, ngokuvamile, yisifiso abheke emehlweni abanye ungcono ngempela? Uma "Luhambo yokuphana nelinye 'kungaveli, kusho ukuthi singazi promotivirovali ke akuzange kumenze izifiso abafanele. Lokho akuyona nje "sobugovu;" kubi, kodwa asilona izingelosi? Vumelana nale isikhundla kunzima kumuntu ovamile, ngoba ekujuleni kwenhliziyo, wonke umuntu ucabanga yena ukuba "kuhle kakhulu". Futhi lo muzwa - omunye zokubonisa Narcissism! dialectic okuqhubekayo!
"Mina" + "Mina" noma "Thina"
Njengoba evinces ngokwayo nobugovu uhlobano phakathi indoda nowesifazane? Umbuzo ithakazelisa kakhulu. Ngamafuphi, impendulo kungenziwa zavela kanjalo: "Uhlala mina, nami ngizonitshela ukuthi ukuphila ngokwakho." Okungukuthi, sokujabulela konke uzakwethu anganika, futhi zokungazimiseli nawe usabele ngendlela efanayo. Kuwo wonke amazinga co-khona yebhangqa enjalo siyenzeka wokwehlayo: uzithanda - omunye evumela yena ukuthanda. Lapha ngeke ibe khona ukulingana, ukulingana. Othile njalo avumelane uzakwethu, kungakhathaliseki kumayelana ntandokazi ngokobulili, ukukhethwa izitsha kwasekuseni, kwasemini kanye dinner, ukusatshalaliswa yemfanelo yasendlini, ukuthenga izinto nezinto, izinto, izinto ... Ngakho, ebuhlotsheni yalolu hlobo akwenzeki esikhundleni umuntu "ngi" asebenzise isivumelwano jikelele "thina". Uma kungenzeka, ngaphansi kombandela owodwa: omunye abalingani emshadweni ngokuphelele negates ngokwayo, chaza ubuntu babo, izidingo zabo, uzolahlekelwa ubuntu bakhe. umphumela odabukisayo! Akukho ndawo bayezwana, lokhu alinganayo futhi, kuphakamisa uthando womuntu, akukho injabulo. Futhi esikhathini esizayo, eqinisweni, lezi zithandani noma.
Umkhaya kanye emakethe ubudlelwane
Futhi kwenzekani uma isiphetho ubhekana egoists ezimbili? Ngohlelo okunjalo noma asihole sifo okuthiwa nawofezela lapho omunye "abathandi" umane udle enye, noma ubuhlobo babo kuyoba uhlobo Analogue of emakethe umndeni. Kulokhu, ukuma kokungathathi-indoda nomfazi zizoshintsha kancane. Nakuba ngaphambili isimiso evelele kwaba: "Ngifuna ukwenza (a) ayingijabulisi, kodwa (a) ungafuni" - kodwa manje ikhodi nemindeni yabo umsindo ezahlukene. Okungukuthi: "Uma nginitshela uzokwenza okufunayo, isiphi isinyathelo okungaba isinyathelo sakho emuva?" Noma, "Ngizobuye ngikwenze uma uyifeze." Bese abeke phambili izimo cishe okulingana. Kunezibonelo ezifanayo zobugovu Kuvame kakhulu emshadweni ka lula, kanye nemihlahlandlela sokuphathana esizayo ebekiwe inkontileka umshado. Yebo, umshado, futhi enkulu, okusikhumbuza ishibhile.
Lapho kochwepheshe bawo ezihambelayo
Kwezamabhizinisi, imiqondo ebalulekile ezifana ibhizinisi ubuqotho, ithemba, ukwethembeka, ubambiswano. Uma iyathwalwa ezingeni lomndeni, zonke zingase zingabi kubi njengoba kubonakala efika kuqala. Yebo, indoda nomfazi kungaba okuningi ukuxoxisana kusengaphambili. Kungaholela emnothweni jikelele njengoba ubambisane. Basizane ezimweni ezinzima, t. Ukuze. Ukuchuma (kuzo zonke izindawo!) Omunye nomunye inzuzo. Encwadini Ngohlelo ezinjalo abantu baze baqale niphathane imizwa zokubungazana. Yiqiniso, uma akashintshi kakhulu le ukuhlonipha, zazo sakhuluma.
Ngempela zobugovu nababonelelayo
Esikhathini izincwadi Russian kwekhulu XIX sihlangana ezifana imiqondo ezithakazelisayo ngokuthi "zobugovu willy-nilly" futhi "Egoism okunengqondo". Umbhali wokuqala - umhlaziyi talantlivayshy VG Belinsky. Yilokho wachaza indlela Evgeniya Onegina futhi UGrigory Pechorin - Heroes amanoveli ka Pushkin futhi Lermontov. Kuyini Belinsky ayekusho? elithi yakhe, wachaza, indoda zobugovu engazalwanga. Ngenxa yalokho-ke kuba kuthonywa izimo zemvelo. Ngokuvamile kuba umphakathi ukuthi unesibopho yokuthi umlingisi kothile kwaba esontekile ngokuphelele, wayonakalisiwe futhi ubhujiswe ukudalelwa. Khona-ke uvule umthetho boomerang - kanye umuntu eba ngumbhubhisi isiphetho zabanye abantu. Isimo siba esihlukile uma Egoism okunengqondo ifakiwe. Lo mqondo wethulwa uquqaba umbhali-entandweni yeningi futhi nomphakathi isishoshovu N. G. Chernyshevskim futhi kuyafaneleka noveli "ukwenzani na?" Kuyini essence yayo: ukucabanga kakhulu ngokwabo, eminye, disadvantageous ngenxa yobugovu kakhulu. Its ungakuthandi asikafiki ukusiza, akazange ancike ubani. Ngiyavuma, kungcono Kuwubuwula uzibeka eyimbuka sikhundla! Ngenxa ubudlelwano nabanye kufanele yakhiwe ngendlela ezifana hhayi iphikisana ne nezithakazelo Ngomuntu oyedwa, ngokwengxenye enkulu, kwabanye abantu. Ngokwesibonelo, uma wena weza cafe, ngaphambilini ukudla, ukujabulela iphunga elimnandi kanye ukunambitheka izitsha, futhi eduze ngamunye ubeka emlonyeni wakhe athi ngibonwa yini escorts ube umuntu evshy, kwasemini ngeke uhambe kuwe esikhathini esizayo. Kodwa njengoba esuke esekhululekile iphathwa abampofu, futhi ngeke ukondla abahluphekile futhi akusho konakalisa ukudla. Kunengqondo, akunjalo?
Njengoba usulibonile, ubugovu Egoism ngokufanayo. Futhi njalo kuba lokususa!