Ubudlelwane Culture: lokho kusho wahlanganyela?

Sokuqomisana, ukubandakanyeka kanye lomshado - emangalisayo, emikhosini enhle ukuthi beza kithi kusukela kudala. Zonke izizwe, bangabakaNkulunkulu uhlamvu lwakho. Nokho, kukhona into nobabili.

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Ngakho lokho kusho - wahlanganyela? Lapho umbhangqwana sikhangwe enquma ukuthi zivumelane ngokuphelele ezifaneleke nomunye, futhi ngaleyo ndlela nihlela ubuhlobo esisemthethweni, bona batshele abangani babo, izihlobo, abangane. Noma - njengoba kwakunjalo ngekhulu le-19 - insizwa ubuza abazali isandla indodakazi yabo, futhi kwemvume. Lokhu kumenyezelwe intombazane, uma akanandaba ukuthola ambalwa umakoti nomkhwenyana. Nakhu ukuthi kusho ukuthini "wahlanganyela" isiko kanye namasiko abantu Russian. Engagement ezingase zenzeke endaweni yakini ngaphakathi emkhayeni ewumngcingo, kodwa angahlubula ibe enkulu, iholide bajabule. Le ndoda, kusukela manje uthathwa ngokusemthethweni njengoba umyeni esizayo, ukuthola ukufinyelela zokuxhumana khulula nge okhethiweyo wakhe. Wayengase ngokukhululekile ahambe naye sishaywe, ukuba ahambe enkundleni yemidlalo.

Ukuze "usole" guy touted indandatho ozithandayo nabanye itshana-talisman. Yena otdarivalas ephendula, kanye lokushintshisana mutual kokubili esasiyoba isibonakaliso abanye ngemizwa yabo. Ngemva lo mkhosi abantu abasha wemfanelo esengeziwe somunye nomunye futhi esivaliwe ngaphezulu baziphathe nge indawo ayijwayele. Phela, lokho kusho wahlanganyela? Lokhu kusho ukuthi manje le ntokazi ayifanele Ungadlali ngothando futhi ngothando nezinye Madoda, ukuze ahlale usuku lonke at nezintombi. Futhi umkhwenyana, kunokuba kulethele ekhethekile basisize bangaphandle ubuhle kufanele uchithe isikhathi esiningi kanye nengoduso yakhe.

Yiqiniso, manje isikhathi ushintsho olukhulu, isimilo babe nenkululeko ethe xaxa, futhi abantu - ophucuzekile. Futhi njalo abashadayo esizayo ngaphambi komshado nethuba seduze, hhayi zonke mbhangqwana, ongaziwa kungase kuzwakale, kudinga ukunamathela ukwethembeka mutual. Nokho, nje indoda nowesifazane bethathekile futhi (lokho kusho - wahlanganyela), ngakho bancika komunye nomunye, babona nomunye umngane, umoya ezihlotsheni, umlingani wezocansi, othandekayo, umzali ezingaba izingane zabo. By the way, eWest cishe imibhangqwana eyingoduso babebhekwa njengabangakufanelekeli nomfazi!

Izivumelwano nezinkontilaki

On ukubandakanyeka ngokuvamile kuye kwaxoxwa ngakho ezingxenyeni ezicashile nini futhi kuphi ukuba ngiqhube lomshado, indlela izivakashi eziningi ukubiza, yini izipho ukwabelana, lapho ukuphila abasha, nabanye abaningi. Okuningi esikhathini esingangeminyaka eyikhulu nengxenye edlule ngesikhathi usole okuxoxwe ngaye ukukhetha abazali posazhonnymi, usayizi ngentengo umakoti ilobolo, lapho i-nomkhwenyana wakhe uzothola.

Lokho kusho ukwenza, babezizwa ngokushesha kakhulu, ngoba yedwa tisavunyelwa kutsi "ukuzijabulisa" noma ngantombi umbhejazane yokuzijabulisa, kodwa zaphoqeleka ukuba ahlale izinsuku inaliti da ayindilinga. Umakoti kwadingeka ukuba abe supply ezisindayo izingubo, amathawula, zokudla kuhlanzekile yini, zokulala nezinye izimpahla, futhi wenze konke ayenakho ingxenye enkulu ngesandla. Nokho, okwamanje laba abashadayo umsebenzi kungekho lula. Ngisho lisizwa lezihlobo ku emshadweni wabo, igqoka, njll banayo sokuzenza. Yiqiniso, uma zingekho izingane kubo bonke abantu abayizinjinga. Futhi ukuzibandakanya yesimanje futhi saxoxa imininingwane yesivumelwano umshado, uma ikhona, bayahamba ukuphetha. Kodwa iningi labantu namuhla bayajabula lapho kuzalwa lomndeni elisha.

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Nokho, wazi kanjani ukuthi waba wahlanganyela noma cha? elula kakhulu: yebo, uma wenza i sipho. Cha, uma igama eliwumlingo yena ongakabi wezwa, noma ukuphila nesoka lakhe nezinyanga eziyisithupha, ngemva konyaka noma emibili. Nokho, usole akuyona njalo ngempela isikhathi esisukela kumhla zi ubudlelwane. Ngokuvamile phakathi ukubandakanyeka kanye lomshado kumele kube isikhathi intsha bezimisa emizweni yabo noma ubukeza kubo. Akumangalisi, ngemuva kokuhambisa isicelo emshadweni ebhukwini ihhovisi kufanele kube ngenyanga eyodwa nje. Ngokuvamile, intsha ungabheka nomunye isikhathi eside, ngisho iminyaka. Nokho, ezimweni ezinjalo, uthando okusongelayo ukuwohloka baba ubungane, ubambiswano, noma ancibilikise ngokuphelele.

Yilokho ngokwezifiso ezithakazelisayo ngakho kokuzibandakanya futhi konke esihlobene naso!