Ngokuvamile ubona obumnandi elele? Funda indlela ayibulale

Ngokungafani amaphupho amabi, amaphupho okuphazamisayo ungenzi uvuka phakathi nobusuku izithukuthuku ebandayo. Noma kunjalo nabo ezingemnandi ukubhekana nazo. Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma uvula amehlo akho ekuseni, wena ungashiyi umqondo wokuthi amaphupho anencazelo imfihlo. Kodwa asaba amaphupho amabi, ngempela? Ake ngizame ukukuchazela lesi simanga kusukela umbono kwengqondo.

Amaphupho - ewindini ku enganakile yethu

Kukholakala ukuthi amaphupho ethu ibonisa enganakile. Kungenjalo, indlela tie ndawonye imicabango yethu yangempela futhi izifiso imfihlo? I share amaphupho okuphazamisayo futhi obumnandi bawela angaphatha yinqwaba udoti udoti esiye zanqwabelana engqondweni. Zonke lezi izinkumbulo kanye nokwaziswa ezingadingekile ukuthi akasoze abe wusizo, kumele ukufinyelela ngaphandle. Ngakho, amaphupho lingalingani futhi okwesabisayo kukhona izinto zokuhlanza eyinqaba, yehlela ku enganakile ezijulile futhi kuthatha nalo zonke engadingekile. Kuyaphawuleka ukuthi amaphupho bebelokhu imfihlakalo kubantu ngaso sonke isikhathi. Futhi kuphela bakhethiwe futhi bambalwa abaye bazama ukwenza "bheka" ekuqaleni kwazo umphuphi, ukuxhumanisa wesakhiwo ezihlukahlukene amaphupho nemicabango imfihlo futhi izifiso ezifihliwe. Akumangalisi cazelo of phupha uyakuthanda ngakho abelaphi, abanamadlozi abefundisi. Lezi ubuchwepheshe efana akekho othanda ukuba bafune incazelo imfihlo.

dream ukuhlaziywa

Ngokwezibalo, oyedwa ezakhamuzini amabili e-United States uhlushwa amaphupho lokho kwakumkhathaza. Ngokwezinga elikhulu lokhu kuncike izingane nentsha, izigcawu olubi lwango-okuyizinto cyclical ngokwemvelo futhi aphindaphindwe kaningi enviable. Futhi nakuba ngihlaselwe iphupho elibi lapho ingane axoshwe abangabazi, ayikwazi yachazwa njengetshe elincane okwakwenzeka, kusenzima kancane ezimnandi. Njalo ingane iyolala, yinto yokugcina afuna lokukhumbula indaba ngalesi senzakalo. Futhi abadala, nge eziningi amaphupho okuphazamisayo izimpawu imfihlo akuzona emnandi ikakhulukazi. Incazelo yokuqala obumnandi wazama ukuthola psychoanalyst abadumile Austrian Freud sasho. Encwadini yakhe ethi "The Ukuhunyushwa Amaphupho," ephendula imibuzo eminingi ejulile mayelana ubuhlobo enganakile womuntu.

"Izimbobo Spy"

UDkt Freud babekholelwa ukuthi amaphupho kukhona uhlobo hlola uhamba, esinganikela ngawo angathola ukufinyeleleka izifiso zingagcwaliseki. I Kungashiwo okufanayo mayelana amathuba ezinganeni nemizwelo kufihlwe ekujuleni enganakile. Uyise ekusungulweni psychoanalysis yesimanje yayiqiniseka ukuthi amaphupho ukuvikela iphupho wobuntu nokungena izici zangaphandle: ukushisa noma amakhaza, umsindo, ubuhlungu noma uthinte abanye abantu.

Izimbangela ubuthongo ompofu

Ukususa obumnandi akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuthi avelaphi. Nightmares, efana nakho konke okunye ezimpilweni zethu, musa kuphakama angaqondi ukuthi kungani. Ungase uzibuze ukutolika zabo, kodwa awukwazi ahluleke ukuqaphela lezi izizathu ezisobala. izigcawu abuhlungu ebusuku amaphupho kungase kubangele ukwesaba zokwesaba ukuthi abantu babe empilweni yangempela. Esinye isizathu osobala kakhulu okwakwenzeka yokucindezeleka ukucindezeleka kwangemva kwenhlekelele syndrome, kanye entukuthelweni noma ekufuthekeni ukuthi uye wabhekana nani ngaphambi kokuyolala. Futhi phakathi izimbangela ubuthongo ompofu kungenziwa ngokuthi amahloni ozijabulele akunjalo kudala, isimo ecindezelekile engqondo, izinkinga zempilo, kabi utshwala noma izidakamizwa. Futhi ngisho enyanya eqinile umuntu noma into kungabangela iphupho edabukisayo.

Yiziphi amaphupho?

Kodwa kungani iphupho incazelo yalo akuyona kucaca? Ngenxa otolika ezahlukene amaphupho abe ukuqondwa ezahlukene noma iyiphi indaba oyinikeziwe. Futhi uma iningi labo ivumelana, inguqulo is ngokushesha kuyanda. Ngokwesibonelo, kukholelwa ukuthi amaphupho bokuwa usuka endaweni ephakeme kakhulu abonisa ukukhathazeka ecashile ophuphayo. Futhi, le ndaba ongabikezela aphule ubungane noma nothile. Izicupho noma abashushisi libonise izinkinga zokuphila futhi kwacaca ukuthi umuntu ubhekane ngokuphumelelayo nalesi simo empeleni. Amaphupho, egcwele ubudlova nokuchithwa kwegazi, ziqondakala abantu njengoba isixwayiso zezinkinga esizohlasela, ikhambi zazo ngeke ngokushesha. Uma ubona igazi, kodwa ungayiboni yokuthi udlame-ke indaba akusho wawusho inhlekelele. Ubhekisela umhlangano ezisheshayo eziseduze.

Hike ukuze owelapha ungakwazi yini ukuphendula imibuzo

Yingakho ngenxa yokuthi wayenesifiso ukuchaza amaphupho, njengoba umthetho, siphendukela emithonjeni eminingi. Ngeke sazi ukuthi iyiphi inguqulo Kufanele kuthathwe iqiniso eliphelele. iphupho nencazo ingafaniswa art yobuciko okuyinto akunakwenzeka ukucabanga ngaphandle ukuqagela kuphela. Kuleso simo, uma une njalo amaphupho amabi, sikucebisa ukuya reception kuze psychoanalyst abaqhuba. Abantu lokhu umsebenzi ukudlula noma iyiphi enye bangaxhumana ingqondo enganakile. Zama ukuthola othile onolwazi kule ndawo.

Izimpawu zibalulekile

Iningi ekuzibandakanyeni psychotherapists okwakwenzeka ukuhlaziya enemininingwane ngifuna izimpawu ezivamile, okungase isiphepho, isakhiwo esikoleni abalahliwe, engozini yemoto noma ucingo. Zonke lezi zimpawu okulumba adlulisele isifiso obungazi ukuthi unazo. Ngokwesibonelo, iphupho lapho ubuhlanga endaweni ethile beshayela imoto, okubonisa isifiso ukubaleka izinkinga zokuphila kwangempela. ISiphepho noma tornado ziwuphawu ukufika (akajabuli njalo) ushintsho. Nokho, isihloko njalo iningi obumnandi ngukufa. Abantu abaningi ungathandi khona nesidingo sokukhuluma ngayo, ekubambeni endaweni isignali oqondile ukudalelwa. Kodwa eqinisweni iziza ukufa akusho wawusho ukuphela kuseduze iqhawe. Lesi sibonakaliso okuningi anyakaza, kuphela kubonisa ukuphela elilandelayo ukuphila esiteji. Ngokwesibonelo, uma iphupho lakho, amashwa kwamehlela umngani wakho omkhulu, bese ubungane uzoya ezingeni elilandelayo (isilinganiso a ngcono kakhulu noma ziwohloka kakhulu).

Ingqondo enganakile uzama ukuxhumana ngokoqobo

Njengoba ephusheni engqondweni yethu enganakile ixhumana ne ukwazi ngamaphupho sivamile ukubona ukuthi sasijwayele ukubona empilweni yangempela. Yingakho abantu kaningi kufanele amaphupho ngocansi. Lezi zindaba Ungakwazi futhi ukubamba umcabango futhi isabise ngisho nokusabisa, ngoba ngezinye izikhathi ophuphayo ubona ebusuku, lokho ayengasoze azenza ekuphileni kwangempela. Ngesikhathi enhliziyweni la amaphupho zobulili eziyinqaba futhi okwesabisayo izizathu ngokwengqondo ezijulile. Yingakho amaphupho zingcono ngokuhunyushwa umuntu ngamunye. Nakuba wena edilini lomshado ngesikhathi zengqondo, onguchwepheshe ujwayelene wena ucele uqedela uhlu lwemibuzo ukubuza kuye imibuzo. Ngemva kwalokho, njengoba beye bazijwayeze izifundo impumuzo kwaphela ukuphupha kabi yakho, angasenza esiphethweni esinembile.

Ingabe kungenzeka ukuqeda obumnandi?

Uma ekuseni uzizwa ukhathele nokukhathazeka, imbangela yesimo zakho zibe ngihlaselwe iphupho elibi. Ngokuvamile ngamaphupho wena izenzakalo zansuku zonke isimiso. Kodwa uma kusihlwa ingqondo nomzimba kubophekile, zonke lezi zenzakalo huddling ndawonye, esikhulu nomunye futhi ubelethe maphupho kube yinto esabisayo. Zama ukusula ingqondo yakho ngemicabango ephazamisayo, okwenza lo mkhosi artless. Kusihlwa, uthole endlini esithekile indawo ikhandlela futhi Hlala khona emva kwamaminithi ambalwa. Vumela imicabango yakho indaba yokuzikhethela. Cabanga ngosuku, mayelana nezinkinga nakho konke ikukhathaza. Ungazami ukulawula ukugeleza. Uma unike imicabango phandle, uyozwa impumuzo. Futhi, ngaphambi sokulala, ugweme ukusetshenziswa utshwala, ikhofi kanye movie ne izigcawu ezinobudlova. Futhi ekugcineni, ukukunika ucezu esibalulekile seluleko: musa zama ukuqonda izimpawu enganakile yakho ngokoqobo.