Ngifuna ukushada, noma kanjani ukuze umfana ahlinzekwa ukuhlangabezana

ukuxhumana bakho ngokububula kuncike sihamba efudumele kakhulu futhi ezimnandi, osebenzisa ngayo isikhathi sakho khulula ndawonye, wabelane impumelelo, amathemba, amaphupho, kodwa namanje shayela nomunye abangane. Othile ukuthatha isinyathelo kuqala, futhi yena ukholelwa ukuthi lena indoda. Kodwa-ke kumelwe nakanjani abanekhono ingamsiza kulo msebenzi, futhi ukuqonda indlela yokwenza guy ahlinzekwa ukuhlangana.

Isinyathelo sokuqala ukuba athathe isinyathelo ezandleni zabo. Akunjalo ngempela zonke ngokwemvelo ukukhombisa ukuthi Akahlosile ukulinda isikhathi eside futhi ufuna ubudlelwane ngokushesha. Lo mkhankaso kumele beze akuyona isinyathelo sokuqala, futhi nakwezinye izici zokuxhumana, ukuze isinqumo esibaluleke kunazo zonke futhi sina wawusemahlombe indoda.

Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi umuzwa womuntu wesifazane into enamandla kakhulu futhi kuyiqiniso, ngakho ungesabi ukuyisebenzisa. Qonda ukuthi ukwenza guy ahlinzekwa ukuhlangabezana, ukusiza la mathiphu: Lalela inhliziyo yakho, landela amehlo akhe, ukushukuma komzimba, ukunyakaza futhi amazwi. Yilokho it uzokutshela indlela engcono kakhulu ukuqhubeka. Uma lona wesifazane unethemba ukuthi ngempela uthanda le nsizwa, kulula kakhulu ukuba bakwazi push it isinqumo.

Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi owesilisa ngamunye simdumise yokudumisa izincomo, futhi kungcono uma kancane ngeveli. Ungakhohlwa simdumise, kumelwe abe ngawe iqhawe emehlweni akhe. Kodwa kufanele sikhumbule futhi mayelana ukulinganisela: wonke ngokumthanda ngomzuzu kuzoholela yokuthi indoda bazothini idealization, akafuni ukuba ubuhlobo obunjalo.

Esikhathini sethu, ukuhlangabezana insizwa kungaba ukwazi ukuzwa intombazane kunzima kakhulu. Kodwa uma indoda yakho yile, futhi usukulungele ukuba abe nobuhlobo naye, funda ukukulalela. Kufanele uqaphele ukuthi has a ezingemuva okuthembekile nokusekelwa njalo. Empathy ne ukulalela kudingeka ngobuqotho, olungenabuzenzisi, nokuzenzisa. Ngaleli zinga, singayazi yokuthi ayakuvuleka bathembeke komunye nomunye, bakwazi uzizwe elilandelayo kuphephile owesifazane. Yini enye udinga ukwenza futhi indlela yokwenza guy ahlinzekwa ukuhlangana?

Ingcindezi le nsizwa, futhi, akuyona neze into engenakwenzeka, ngakho udinga ukukhulisa ukunakwa kwakho yokuthi for amagama emlonyeni wenu futhi yini izenzo uyenze. Akekho umuntu ofuna ukuba "ngaphansi isithende", ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuba iphendukele namaqhinga zabesifazane, kodwa ungakhohlwa ngesikhathi esifanayo bawunakekele, ukuthathe kuyini.

Abesifazane abaningi ngephutha sikholelwe ukuthi amaphupho ncamashi ukukhuluma mayelana nendawo yangempela izindaba. Futhi abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi bayazi yini ongaziwa iphupho guy - inoveli entsha. Ngokwencwadi ethi iphupho zocansi, umbono kusho ngempela ushintsho okusheshayo isikhundla ubuhlobo zamanje ukuba sisondelane into yothando lwakhe. Ungajabula uma dream kuyinto: Ngicabanga indoda yakho ephaketheni lakho!

Uma emva zonke namasu yakho umfana namanje abazange baqonde ukuthi - enye ingxenye yakhe, kufanele cabangela isimo esaba khona lapho wayezokwazi ekubonile ukubaluleka amagugu, engaphansi ekhaleni lakhe. Ungakwazi kalula ukuxhumana namanye amadoda kwenye inkampani, kodwa hhayi ukuba yedwa nabo. Uma umfana wakho unamandla futhi ufuna ukufeza oyifunayo yonke indawo futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi, njalo unake ukuziphatha kwakho. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ukwenza guy ahlinzekwa ukuhlangabezana uma kuba namahloni, ukukhalipha kakhulu akudingekile: nje ubekezele bese ukhetha elinye isu.

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