Indlela yokutshela umfana ekude

Ngezinye izikhathi konke okukhona ekuphileni akuyona into esiyothandayo futhi ngeke sivumelanise nje ne-okuthiwa i-destiny. Kungenzeka yini ukuthonya ngandlela-thile izenzakalo ekuphileni?

Ngaso sonke isikhathi kwakukhona abantu abanamakhono angaphezu kwemvelo futhi bathatha inkululeko yokuxazulula izimo eziningi zokuphila ngendlela engeyona yendabuko. Zonke izinhlobo zokubuna, izimpisi, abathakathi, kanye nabantu abavamile - nje "ugogo," basebenzise amasiko nemikhuba engavamile, bapheka imbongo futhi batshele ukuthi benzeni ukwenza uhlelo lufezeke.

Izinkinga eziyinhloko "lezo zengcweti" ezihambayo ziyizinkinga empilweni nempilo yomuntu siqu. Abesifazane abaningi bazama ngendlela elula yokuqeda umphikisi wabo, abanye - ukusindisa umndeni, kanti abanye-nje bawuthathe umfana kude.

Ukwazi izindlela ezilula, ungazama ukuqhuba umkhosi ofanayo ekhaya, ngaphandle kokuguqula ochwepheshe abangenangqondo.

Kuhlale kubonakala kumantombazane amancane ukuthi adinga ukwazi ukuthi hlobo luni lomuntu abafuna ukukubona. Futhi uma inhliziyo isivele ibetha ngokushesha lapho ibona umfana oyifunayo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi okuthile kungamisa owesifazane omncane othandweni. Ngakho-ke, abantu abaningi bafuna indlela yokutshela umfana osuka kude.

Ukuze unqobe inhliziyo yendoda ethandekayo, ungancoma umkhosi olula wothando lokupela, okungenziwa ekhaya. Ukuthola umphumela osheshayo udinga ikhandlela elibomvu, inaliti kanye nocezu ushukela. Khanyisa ikhandlela futhi, ubheka ilangabi, ucabange ukuthi wena nento yakho yothando uthinte kanjani izandla, wamukele, ujabule kanjani. Khona-ke kufanele uthinte ngakwesokunene umcamelo omncane womunwe ongaziwa futhi uphonsa ushukela ihlazi legazi. Uma ubheka ushukela ngeminwe yegazi lakho, kufanele uthi: "Igazi lami liyithandekayo kimi, futhi ligeleza kimi, ngakho inceku kaNkulunkulu (igama) kuyoba khona isigqila sikaNkulunkulu (igama). Amen. " Ikhandlela kufanele ishise ngokuphelele, futhi kufanele uqhubeke ucabanga ngomuntu konke lokhu.

Ngokuqinisekile abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi bangayifaka kanjani umfana osuka kude. Ukungabi nesithombe sakhe nezinto zakhe zomuntu siqu. Eqinisweni, ukuthwebula izithombe akuyona into ebaluleke kakhulu kulolu hlobo lwemikhuba, kubaluleke kakhulu ukumelela ngokucacile isithombe somuntu othandekayo, ngoba lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuba uchithe lesi sipelingi ngempumelelo ngangokunokwenzeka.

Kukhona iziqephu emanzini, ngezinwele, kodwa kulokhu udinga ukuxhumana okusheshayo nento yakho. Phela, kulokhu, amanzi anikezwa ukuphuza, futhi izinwele ezivela ekhanda zixhunywe kumuntu futhi zishiswe elangeni lamakhandlela. Kodwa uma ufuna indlela yokutshela umfana ekude, khona-ke kudingeke usebenzise i-privor elandelayo.

Ukufeza lesi siko, amakhandlela amabili esonto elikhuni adingekayo . Ngenaliti encane, bhala igama lakho kwelinye, futhi okwesibili, igama lomkhethiweyo wakho. Futhi, imitha eyodwa ye-tape ebomvu iyadingeka (ububanzi abukhathazi). I-pre-tape kufanele ifakwe emanzini angcwele futhi uvumele ukuba omile, bese ubopha amakhandlela amabili ndawonye. Uma uxhuma amakhandlela amabili ndawonye, kufanele ugweme amagama athi: "Yeka ukuthi lezi zikhandlela zizoshisa kanjani eduze, sizosondela kangaka, sibhekane nehlombe, futhi sibelane ngazo zonke izinjabulo nezinsizi ndawonye. Ngakho makube njalo. Amen »Amakhandlela kufanele afakwe endaweni lapho uzolala khona, futhi ukhanyise usuku ngalunye imizuzu engu-15, ngoba izoshisa isikhathi eside.

Le ndlela isiza ukuhlanganisa amasimu enamandla nendoda, futhi kungekudala uzozwa ukufudumala ekukhulumisaneni, ukunamathela kwakhe kanye nesithakazelo esikhulu.

Manje uyazi ukuthi ungamthinta kanjani umfana wedwa kude.

Ngingathanda ukukukhumbuza ukuthi ukupaka ngothando kuyintando yokuthanda komunye, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kungabangela ukungabi namacala kangakanani, ngokubona kwethu, umkhuba mhlawumbe awuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokunqoba umuntu. Cabanga izikhathi eziyikhulu ngaphambi kokuba uphendule impendulo yombuzo - indlela yokutshela umfana osuka kude.