Ukuzijwayeza kokuqala kwabazali nabazali bomfana

Imihlangano emisha yenza njalo umuntu akhathazeke futhi akhathazeke, ngoba ufuna ukuzitholela ngokukhanya okuhle, njenge-interlocutor, inzalo futhi ushiye ngemuva kokuxhumana okuhlangene okubonakalayo nemibono emihle kuphela. Okuhle kakhulu kuzokwenza ukuthi bajwayele abazali nabazali balo mfana. Emva kwakho konke, ukuthi inkhulumomphendvulwano phakathi kwabo bonke abahlanganyeli bomhlangano iyodlula kuncike ekutheni ubuhlobo obuseduze buzobe bunjani. Mhlawumbe esikhathini esizayo, intombazane nomfana bayokwakha umndeni. Bese ugwema imihlangano ejwayelekile phakathi kwezihlobo ngeke isebenze.

Ukuzijwayeza okuphelele

Umhlangano onjalo uyenzeka kuphela emva kokuzijwayeza kokuqala kwabazali bomfana, futhi intombazane iyazijwayele izihlobo zabo abathandekayo, iyazi ukuthi zingabantu bani, zenzani, zithandani nokuthi ziyithandani . Ngakho tshela umama wakho nobaba ngokuphathelene nabo ukuze kube nomqondo ofanele. Kufanele baqaphele amaphuzu amakhulu. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo cabanga ndawonye, lapho kungcono ukuhamba, indlela yokuziphatha, ukuthi ukhuluma ngani. Ungesabi ukulalela imibono yabadala. Ngempela, bakufisela okuhle kuphela, bafuna ingane yabo ijabule, abazi izinhlungu.

Ingabe ukujwayelana kwabazali bomfana nabazali bentombazane kuhlelwe? Ungesabi, konke kuzohamba kahle, uma uhlela amaqhinga wokuziphatha kusengaphambili, cabanga ngokubukeka kwakho. Ngokuvamile, cabangela ngisho nama-nuances kancane.

Ukukhethwa kwesambatho kanye ne-makeup

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali baqala kuphi abazali babo , musa ukugqoka izinto ezincane: ingubo, ingubo. Yiba engokwemvelo, kungekho ukuzithiba. Isimo sokugunyazwa yisisindo semisipha.

Uma uya endaweni yokudlela noma i-cafe, esidlweni se-gala noma dinner, ubude bengubo bufinyelela emadolweni. Uma owaziwa ngabazali bomfana nentombazane kanye nezihlobo zakhe kwenzeka endaweni engakahleleki, ke ungawudluli, ube lula. Yebo, kufanele ube mnandi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umhlangano uwuphi.

Amacebo wokuziphatha

Gcina imithetho yokuziphatha. Ngesikhathi sesidlo sakusihlwa, hlala phansi lapho uhlala khona lapho uhlala khona. Shayela abazali balo mfana ngegama kanye ne-patronymic, ngaleyo ndlela babonise inhlonipho futhi banakekele. Awudingi lezi "u-Natasha" noma "Uncle uPetru." Ukwelashwa okunjalo akumukeleki. Futhi ungaxhumana ngokushesha: umama, ubaba. Akukaziwa ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho nomfana buzokhula kanjani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi buzofika emshadweni, ngokujwayelekile, akukho okujwayelekile. Ungaqambi amanga futhi ungadluliseli isithunzi sakho futhi ufanele, ungabi amanga futhi uthanda ngamabomu. Ukuziqhenya nokukhohliswa kuzovulwa ngokushesha futhi kuveze umbono ongalungile kuzihlobo zomuntu othandekayo.

Amathiphu

Zijabulise, zama ukungabonisi injabulo yakho. Uma ungakwazi ukukhathazeka, ngaphambi kokuya kubazali bakho, uphuze i-valerian.

Ngendlela, ukuze ungabahlazisi abazali bomfana, cela umama wakho ukuthi angathathi izithombe zezinsuku zobuntwana bakho obungakhathazeki. Isibonelo, uhlala kuphi, uhlezi ebhodweni, noma ulele unqunu embhedeni, njll Futhi, cela izihlobo zakho ukuthi zingene ezimangalisweni eziphathelene nokuhlanganyela kwakho.

Izihloko zengxoxo

Ngakho-ke, nakhu, ukujwayela okulindele isikhathi eside nabazali bendoda! Indlela yokuziphatha, ukuthi uthini, ukuze ingxoxo ingahle ibe yinto enhle futhi idlulele, kodwa ibanjwe ezingeni eliphakeme?

Izihloko eziyinhloko nemithetho yengxoxo:

• Ungabuzi imibuzo yokuqala; Uma ukhuluma nabathandekayo bakho, gwema imibuzo engadingekile ebeka kuwe esimweni esibucayi;
• Ungadumise izinto zangaphakathi kanye nomhlobiso wezindlu / indlu / indlu, ukuphambana ngokweqile akufanelekile (uma nje uqonda ukuhlobisa nokuhlelwa kwezindlu, ungacacisa okuthile, ukunikela);
• Ukuqaphelisisa nokuqapha ngokweqile nokunakekelwa kuyoba nomthelela omubi ekuboneni kwakho njengomuntu;
• Umama womfana uyamomotheka kuqala, amenzele ukuncoma, amomotheka ngenkathi kufanele abe oqotho futhi enhle;

Izihloko zokuxhumana zikhetha ukungathathi hlangothi, zama ukusungula uxhumano phakathi kwabazali bakho. Thola indawo evamile, ngisho noma izihlobo zakho zihluke kakhulu kokubili emibonweni yabo nasendleleni yabo yokuphila. Ake sithi ubaba nomama womfana - kusukela emzaneni, kubantu abavamile, namantombazane emdabu - "ukhilimu womphakathi", izakhamuzi, ngokusho, i-intelligentsia. Okuvamile phakathi kwabo kungukuthi zero zero amaphesenti angu-zero. Kodwa kudingekile ukuba bahlangane ngandlela-thile, ukuze babasondelane ndawonye. Yini ezosiza? Yiqiniso ukuthi ningabantwana babo! Mhlawumbe abazali bazokhumbula amacala amahle ahlekisayo ahlobene nokukhulisa noma ukukhula kwakho, bavumele bahlanganyele imicabango yabo mayelana nekusasa lakho elihlangene noma izinhlelo mayelana nabazukulu. Khona-ke awuboni ngisho nokuthi isikhathi siphenduka kanjani futhi asizizwa sinezinkinga nokungahleleki.

Dumisani umndeni wakho, ngitshele ukuthi ziyamangalisa kanjani, ukuthi uyabathanda futhi uzihloniphe. Bazojabula ngokubili ukuthi ingane ibaphatha njengaleyo futhi iyaziqhenya ngomama nobaba.

Lokhu akudingeki kwenziwe!

Lapha kufika usuku lapho owaziyo nabazali bomfana kuyokwenzeka. Amathiphu adingeka ukuthi anamathele ekuqedeni zonke izikhathi ezingathandeki ezethulwa ngezansi.

Okungafanele ukwenze lapho uhlangana nentsha:

• Ungaphikisani futhi ungatholi ubuhlobo;
• Ungabonisi uthando oludlulele komunye nomunye;
• Ungamangaleli noma umgxeka othandekayo wakho noma othandekayo wakho;
• Ungalokothi ukhombise ukwehluleka komunye nomunye;
• Awudingi ukumanga noma ukukhala ngokungapheli, abazali bayaqonda ukuthi uyathandwa futhi uyathandwa;
• Kunoma yikuphi ukuphuza umhlangano, kungcolile futhi kuzokufaka ekukhanyeni okungathandeki! Ukugcina isikhathi - okokuqala, zama ukuvela amaminithi angu-10 ngaphambi kwesikhathi esimisiwe.

Izipho

Izipho - isiqiniseko sokuthi abazali abajwayele abazali nabafana bazokwenzeka ngenothi elihle futhi elimnandi. Kodwa kunemithetho edinga ukulandelwa ngokuletha isipho:

• Izimbali - isipho somhlaba wonke kubo bobabili besilisa nabesifazane, gcina ukhumbula ukuthi izimbali zihlukile;
• Unganikeli izipho ezibizayo, ukuze abazali bangazizwa bengakhululekile;
• Qinisekisa ukuthi unikeza izipho kubo bobabili amaqembu (kanye naye, nomama wakhe nobaba), lesi simiso sisebenza ngokungenasici, njengoba zonke izihlobo ziyojabula ngokuthi azikhohliwe, ukuthi zihloniphe wonke umuntu.

Ngempela, okubaluleke kunayo yonke ukunakekelwa, okuyinto ebonakala ngisho nakwizintambo kanye nezicathulo. Ukujabulisa abazali bakho, imizwelo emihle emhlanganweni kuyoba nomoya wokumamukela. Thatha ibhodlela lewayini elihle, uma nje zonke izihlobo ziphuza utshwala. Uma ojwayelene kwenzeka endaweni engakahleleki, epikinikini, bese wenza i-shish kebab, uthenge ubhiya obunempilo, noma ungakwazi futhi into enamandla, khona-ke ukuxhumana kuyoba ngcono.

Isiphetho

Vumela abazali ukuba bazi kahle abazali bakho bomfana babe yisiqalo ebuhlotsheni bakho, esizokhula sibe ngumshado, bese singena emndenini ongenandaba nomdlandla! Ungesabi ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukwenza u-100% njengomama wakho nobaba oyithandayo. Ungaphelelwa yithemba, ngoba bonke abantu bahlukile, ngezimpawu zabo kanye "namaqhubu ekhanda lami." Into ebaluleke kunazo zonke indlela ophatha ngayo, imizwa yakho, uthando lomunye nokwethemba. Abazali, bobabili amantombazane nabesifazane, bazoqonda ukuthi umbhangqwana wenu uphelele, futhi yini enye edingekayo? Izingane zajabula. Noma mhlawumbe umhlangano wokuqala uzophawula ukudalwa komndeni onamandla, omkhulu futhi onobungane, lapho ukuhleka, isimo esihle, induduzo nenjabulo kuyobusa ngaso sonke isikhathi!