Sokukhulelwa Early: indlela ukushintsha ukuphila intombazane?

Kungani amantombazane ukhulelwe izingane zabo? Umama uncamela hhayi ukukhuluma ngale ndaba imfundo yocansi, bekholelwa ukuthi indodakazi yakhe namahloni ikude kakhulu esivela emihlatshelweni nabafana. Kodwa intsha bayamangala ukuze benza ubulili bebe bengathandani akanayo ukuba ingxenye yomgwaqo noma ingabe kube nzima, owakhuliswa ngaphandle uthando lwabazali.

Umlando Dzhin Kroto

Lapho eneminyaka engu-15 ubudala, ithi iseyingane, okokuqala ukuba alale naye, lokho kungase kubangele imizwa engqubuzanayo. Wayefisa sengathi ababengalazi ngaphambi, uyosho lokhu ilukuluku. Uma kuphela ayenakho umama, ngokuqinisekile, zokunqoba ihlazo, befika kwakhe bezoxoxa naye imibuzo. Kodwa Heroine yethu Dzhin Kroto ephakanyiswe ugogo zenkolo futhi zenzisa.

Manje, ngemva kweminyaka engu-23, wayesalokhu uyakhumbula emizweni lolo suku ill-fated, lapho efika ukuhlolwa sokukhulelwa ezandleni zakhe. Gene ikhathazekile, ngangesaba futhi ngikhungathekile. Wayengazi ukuthi ukuthi kwakuyokwenzekani ngalo ekuphileni kwakhe ekukhanyeni imicimbi yakamuva. Indlela abasabela ngayo lezi zindaba of ugogo wakhe siqu, futhi kanjani umfana umndeni wakhe naye wathandana? Akukho muntu oba wanikeza iseluleko sakhe mayelana ukusondelana. Okuwukuphela imfundo gogo lesi sifo nesifiso sokugwema singalokothi sithintane no-abafana. Futhi yena kugwenywe, ngoba ngaphambi Heroine yethu walahlekelwa ubuntombi bakhe, akazange ngisho iqabulane nomfana.

"I Still Waters ukusebenzisa ezijulile"

Ugogo Jean ezaphakama e uthando, nje ukukhuluma ngezocansi ababesendlini kube yinto enqatshelwe. Ithiphu ukuze zigweme ukuthintana guys ngezikhathi eyenziwa Heroine sethu "ezinhlanu-plus." Akunzima, lapho othile osemusha ukulayishwa izifundo nomsebenzi ezemidlalo sigaba. isikhathi sakhe sathunyelwa ngesineke yilo ngomzuzu, ngakho mayelana ngokuxhumana abafana, akazange acabange. The guy kuphela wabona, wayephile endaweni. Basuke ezivame ukubhekana nazo emasimini ngamaphasiji ehholo kwezemidlalo futhi banikana imishwana encane. Lapho umfana kamakhelwane ngiziqeqesha ne ibhola egcekeni, Jin ngokuvamile wabheka phansi ngefasitela ukubheka kuye.

kwenzeka kanjani

Lapho sebephindele ndawonye ekugubheni Independence Day. Abantu ukuvumela iziqhumane futhi kumnandi. Kwakubonakala sengathi omakhelwane batheleka mgwaqo. Le ntombazane ngokuvamile indiva izindaba ezinomsindo, kodwa wabona ngefasitela kumakhelwane wakhe. Yena wayengazi ukuthi ikhambi uphelelwa zibe osikhotheni ziyophela soshintsho wakhe. Intsha bengidlala eholidini ukuze kwehora, zonke izingubo zabo baba ezimanzi from umjuluko. Lapho bobabili wagijima yokugezela beyofuna amathawula, ugogo, njengoba zingenayo inhliziyo yacwila. Ubethula ngakho omethembayo nomzukulu wakhe ukuthi avunyelwe intsha ukuba zizikhiyele egumbini Jean ukulalela umculo. Yiqiniso, umbono akafikanga ocansini nentombazane ekhanda. Ugogo akazange alazi nokuthi yini ingase ikwazi abafana eholwa hormone. Jean ngashaqeka lapho umfana ngokuzumayo wamanga, wamqabula. Kodwa wayeshaye phansi yibhece uthando ayenalo ekuqaleni obusha, kungani zange ajamelane Man nokubekezela.

Yini abacabanga amantombazane lapho belahlekelwa zobuntombi babo?

Into yokugcina wacabanga Heroine yethu, kumayelana ukukhulelwa. Wayengumngane sikhathazeke kabanzi isimo ubudlelwane yavela sína kangakanani maqondana wakhe umfana. Wayengumngane ukuzikhohlisa ukuze izinguquko sobala emzimbeni wakho. Ngiphakathi ukungabi khona esikhathini, kungekho ekuseni ukugula it is hhayi udidekile. Okuningi umngane onolwazi lokuqala bahlabe umkhosi. Wabuza imibuzo embalwa futhi wathenga ukuhlolwa ikhaya sokukhulelwa. Imiphumela akudingeki silinde isikhathi eside. Ukuhlolwa wawumuhle, futhi wonke khona Gene kuvuliwe ekhanda layo. Kwaba kakade ngesonto 17 okukhulelwa.

Umhlangano nge ubaba wengane

Wayesaba isikhundla sakhe esisha, ukushushiswa futhi izinkolelo zabantu. Into yokuqala Jean waya bakhuluma kuya ubani uyise wengane yakhe. Yena akazange alindele ukuthi wayeyoba izindaba bajabula, kodwa umphumela inkhulumomphendvulwano isanda kucindezele ngendlela efanayo. Le nsizwa wakwenza kwacaca ukuthi ubudlelwane aziyona ingxenye izinhlelo zakhe. Kwabe sekuvela ukuthi, abazali bazo kanye guy nhlobo akakhohliswanga, ethi wayengakaze kwadingeka nale intombazane ukusondelana. Ngisho nabantu obajwayele zabo ezivamile waqala ezinhlangothini ezahlukene ngothango :. "Izwi lakho ilizwi layo" Abantu babengazi nokuthi ubani ukukukholelwa, kodwa Heroine yethu wasala yedwa ekhulelwe.

Izwe akuyona ngaphandle abantu abalungile

Ngenhlanhla, eseduze Ngahlala umbhangqwana osemusha washada nengane encane. Umama, nsuku zonke uhamba ngomgwaqo nge stroller, yena wayesanda kuphothula esikoleni esiphakeme. Umakhelwane ngokushesha wathatha Jin ngaphansi sephiko lalo futhi alisize kwaze kwazalwa umntwana.

Manje kukhona ezimbili

Uyise wengane ngokuthi Jin ngqo esibhedlela. Esikhathini eshaweni amantombazane ababazisa ithemba lokukhululwa sihlangane. Nokho, akazange ulinde siyakuhalalisela, kodwa kunalokho wezwa juqu nkulumo kanje: "Angiyi ukuba afihle lokho ayikho ingane. Futhi ngiyakuncenga hhayi ukutshela abangane bami ukuthi yimina. " Lapho Jean yabheka amancane ebusweni ukushwabana wentombazanyana kuzalwa, wakhala bokudabuka.

Abanye abangane bafulathela wakhe

Kwaba iminyaka engaphezu kwamakhulu amabili edlule, lapho amacala lokukhulelwa kwentsha nokubeletha zazibhekwa njengochwepheshe into eyihlazo. Ukuze amantombazane sibelethe izibulo, engayitholi idiploma esikoleni esiphakeme, eya esikoleni yavalwa. Ngakho, i-Jean bababelwe nomqeqeshi siqu ukuqeqesha ekhaya, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ngaphambi sokukhulelwa watshengisa imiphumela emihle kakhulu ezifundweni zabo. Lapho Heroine wethu wahlangana umhlengikazi esikoleni, konke kwaba sobala. Lona wesifazane wathi othisha nabazali ungafuni amanye amantombazane wathatha isibonelo esibi kuye.

Kobungane futhi ubuhlungu bokuhlukaniswa

Kwakuwusuku ongaziwa ukungasa ukuya esikoleni. Kodwa uyise indodakazi osanda kuzalwa waphila ukuphila okwanelisayo. Watadisha kwezemidlalo njengasekuqaleni, ngisho kwadingeka isikhathi ukuhlangabezana namanye amantombazane. Jean Ngaqala ukuqaphela ukuthi abanye abangane bakhe ubudala umiswe ngamaphoyisa izingcingo. Akekho kubo akuvakashelwe ingane. Thola ukuthi yini isizathu salokhu noshintsho olusheshayo, umama osemusha waqamba abangane. Yini abazali nentsha ingafaneleki waphendula sebekubeke ungafuni ukuxoxa nezingane zabo intombazane elonakele ezinjalo. Futhi ekupheleni ucingo ngamunye kwakulandelwa isicelo ukungalokothi ukuphazamisa lo mkhaya ehloniphekayo.

Kanjalo-ke, ngendlela efanele usaqala ezimpilweni zabo, Heroine wethu uye wafunda ngokubaluleka kobungane futhi ubuhlungu bokuhlukaniswa. Ngenhlanhla, babe abantu abaxhasa wakhe. Abangane beqiniso ephakanyiswe imali futhi wasiza ukuthenga okusemqoka mayelana izingane: uhlaka, kumatilasi, itafula futhi swaddling izingubo. Akumangalisi ukuthi ngisho namanje, eminyakeni engu-23 kamuva, laba bantu futhi ohlwini abangane bakhe engcono.

Ngisho nakubantu esingabazi sezigcwele lokwedelela

Heroine wethu uthi isisu lakhe zaqala ukuhluma kuphela yokuthathu yesithathu yokukhulelwa. Kodwa namanje uqaphele sikhonona emuva akhe dlulile ukukhumbula ubuhle abedlula ngendlela, egcwele ngokwedelela. Nakuba Jean singakuthandanga avele umphakathi, wazizwa inyumbazane emhlabeni "efanele". Ngolunye usuku, bokukhulelwa, Heroine sethu sasichitha ebhasini eligcwele nswi ku umgwaqo bumpy. izihlalo engenalutho kwakungafanele, kodwa akekho abagibeli ehlezi gumbi, ubuka esiswini enkulu intombazane wayengekho uyakulangazelela ukunikeza indlela.

Ekugcineni bathola umuntu onozwela wamnika isihlalo. Lapho owesifazane okhulelwe kukhona endaweni, lona wesifazane usulu sibangalasile: "Yena akufanele leli lungelo. Lapho ngineminyaka engu-wakhe, kufanele ufunde, ukungabi nabantwana. By endleleni, wena bengazange bafundiswe ukusebenzisa amakhondomu? "Kodwa Jean ayikwazanga ukusho lutho bamvikele. Lapho wahlala phansi, wabe esenginika izinto ewindini, ngakho akekho kulabo ekhona abantu salon akakwazanga ukubona izinyembezi.

isihawu kude

Nsuku zonke Jean ngizibuze ukuthi kungani konke lokhu kusehlele. Yena ngokuphindaphindiwe unrolling isikhathi edlule futhi imiqulu ngezenzakalo ezihlukene. Wakwenza benesifiso abanothando ukuze uthole ukwamukelwa abanye abantu. Okwesikhathi esithile, umama osemncane wayencika usizo lomphakathi, ukunikeza ingane enkulisa futhi ukuqhubeka nemfundo yabo. Wayazi ukuthi wayezothola ngeke kube lula ukudala indawo esihle indodakazi yakhe.

Kodwa Jin wenqaba ngilihawukele wena njalo bawaxosha imigomo emincane. Wasebenza ngokuzimisela khulu begodu ngenkuthalo. Ekugcineni wakuthola indlela aphumelele. Lesi sibonelo zingase zibe Indlela amaphesenti 98 lomama Ngubani owazala e intsha yabo. Ngeshwa, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukuthola amandla ukuze uthole imfundo ephakeme iminyaka engu-30.