Ngobani win sokulindela okuhle noma okubi njalo?

Impendulo yalo mbuzo othi: "Bobani abantu abanethemba lokuhle," kuyophumela ethubeni into enjengale - kuba labo, ngisho e-cross-ukubona izinzuzo. Igama elithi "isimo sokulindela okuhle" livela Latin "Optimus" - okungcono abese eqala omuhle nobunokwethembana emhlabeni.

Ukuba Nethemba Lokuhle kuthiwa wenziwa njengendlela sokuba abalandeli inkolo yobuKristu, lapho ukudangala ukuthi zingahlanganiswa yokungabaza, kubhekwa lesono sokufa. Futhi mhlawumbe nje kwenzeka, kusukela Muva nje kuye kwaba eyeza nezazi zezinkanyezi ezikhuluma yokuxhuma esaphila impumelelo ngisho impilo umuntu isimo linqoba. Ngokwesibonelo, abantu bajwayelane izifo zengqondo noma izimfanelo izimfundiso Luizy Hey, aqale ukuze uqonde kangcono ukuthi ibaphi abantu abanethemba lokuhle. Ngakho sikubiza abantu ungalahli, akusho umona, bamukele noma yimiphi umbono, akusho ukuthi abeke uqobo futhi uyawuthanda umzuzu nomzuzu wokuphila. sesimweni esinjalo kungaba kwezinye izimo balahle izifo ezibangwa ngokuyinhloko isimiso sezinzwa.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ucwaningo lwamuva luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukufakwa ukuthi ukwehluleka ibekezelelwe kangcono uma uzilungiselele okubi akuyona kuthethelelwe. Ucwaningo lwesayensi olwenziwa e-University of Seattle, wabonisa ukuthi engenathemba akusenzi imizwelo engakhi emva uchungechunge lwezenzakalo ezimbi. Ubani banethemba okwamanje? Namuhla, kunobufakazi bokuthi omuhle goal setting usetha umzimba wonke ukufeza umphumela oyifunayo. Ikesi lapho phakathi nempi ekamu lokuhlushwa ingenye iziboshwa, specialist kwengqondo, wasiza abanye ema ogwini ngaphansi kwelanga eqinile esikhundleni emabhalekisini, futhi lokho kwenza ukumelana eziphilayo amakhaza - futhi abanye, hhayi kwi freezer.

Kodwa lapha into esemqoka - musa zishe, ngoba kakhulu liphinyiselwe pessimist futhi ukuba nombono omuhle ngezinto - kungcono kakhulu. Ungazama eyayenziwe ukuthuthukisa "omuhle", okungukuthi udlame olubhekiswe yimvelo, kusukela ababonisa isithakazelo esihle ekuphileni kusikisela ukuthi abanye umcimbi kuletha injabulo yangempela. Kungcono ukuba umuntu okholelwa entweni ekhona okwangempela ukuthi ayemakhulu amathemba ababenawo, engeke sibheke izwe 'izibuko rose onjengomlilo.'

Bobani abantu abanethemba lokuhle? Mhlawumbe labo pessimists ngubani, ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene ukuze ufunde amakhono nethemba (ku Selingmanu). Ukuze wenze lokhu kancane. Okokuqala, wavela impumelelo ngokwabo, imizamo yabo ngeke, hhayi izimo kanye nabanye abantu ngeke. Okwesibili, ngikholwa ukuthi yini engenzeka nganoma iyiphi indawo futhi nganoma isiphi isikhathi, hhayi kuphela ngentando inhlanhla endaweni ethile nokuthi ngeke kwenzeke futhi. Okwesithathu, ukulondoloza indlela ethile yokuphila kwansuku zonke, kuhlanganise ukuba afeze izincomo ezilandelayo:

- Misa imigomo esiqondile ukuyifinyelela;

- ukubheka inkinga esuka timvo letehlukene;

- Ukulalela umculo, ukuhamba ngokwemvelo, eziphumulele imizuzu engu-20 ngosuku;

- bamangale futhi mangaza;

- ngezikhathi ukushintsha ngokuphelele isithombe;

- bazwe umhlaba ngokusebenzisa zonke izinzwa;

- ukuqala usuku nge umbono nezimnandi into, futhi imicabango emihle noma imithandazo;

- Ukuzivocavoca kanye nobuciko, ngisho noma engalethi noma iyiphi imali. Iningi yobuciko bamasiko izwe nje kubonisa isimo abaculi;

- ukufunda amahlaya futhi ukhumbule izikhathi ezimnandi ekuphileni.

Uma ungazi ukuthi ungubani - ukuba nombono omuhle ngezinto, pessimist, umuntu okholelwa entweni ekhona okwangempela - kungenzeka ukuthatha isivivinyo, ugcwele Inthanethi. Bazokusiza ukuba embule izici eziyinhloko uhlobo ukusiza ukuthola isiqondiso umsebenzi wedwa.