Izingane unqobe zinhlekelele ngidlala

Ngokushesha landizela ngekota yokuqala ka unyaka omusha esikoleni: izingane zikhule, shintsha, ethula kithi self entsha. Nokho, uma abazali zikhula futhi ohlakaniphe ngokungenamkhawulo kancane, ukwamukela lezi zinguquko futhi usize izingane zikhula.

Nokho, ngokuvamile kakhulu, olandelayo age izingane crisis Ubamba abazali lingaqaphile.

"Kwakumnandi nokunokuthula lapho kid ayikwazanga ukukhasa," - uthi umama polutoragodovalogo umntwana.

"Akazange ukuyidlulisa umama ngokwami sonke isikhathi endaweni ethile ukukhuphuka" - ekhononda encane ugogo oneminyaka engu-.

"Cool izinyane yaphenduka Tomboy edlubulundayo", - yena ekhononda ubaba nendodana eneminyaka emithathu.

"Impela kufanele abahloniphe ngeke bafune ukufunda, kufanele benze imisebenzi yesikole yasekhaya ndawonye" - inkinga eyinhloko kule ukunakekelwa isikhathi eside ushiye omama abaningi abasebasha abafundi.

"Lutho neze, izandla strayed" - lizwakele nxazonke intsha.

Futhi ukuthi kunzima kangakanani, lapho omunye crisis yingane kuvumelana lokuzalwa noma esinye isimo esibucayi!?

Futhi abazali baqale sinamathele umqondo wokuthi kuyoba kudingekile ukuba babuyele konke emuva, njengenjwayelo, uzama ukuthola indlela ukushayela ebhokisini, kanjani ukuze uthole ingane ukuba ntofontofo imfundo. Zama ungalilahli ithemba futhi musa uzibeka wecala ukuthi ingane yabo ayifani abebengakulindele. Lapho lapha ucabange indlela lesi simo kanzima nasengqondweni nengane.

Ngalo mqondo, thina, abazali kwekhulu lama-21, kuba lula kakhulu kunalokho elaliyikho abazali zezizukulwane ezedlule, ngenxa yokuthi sinefu ulwazi lutholakale lapho kuzosiza basinqoba futhi nezingane zethu ukuya ebhayisikobho nengwadla.

Kodwa ngisho abazali bethu futhi ikakhulukazi bacabange ukubuza ukuthi izingane kukhona umphefumulo, njengoba phambi kwabo Kwakuwumsebenzi ehluke ngokuphelele: ukuqinisekisa ukuphepha eziyisisekelo izingane ngokuya ukudla, indawo yokuhlala, yebo, ikusasa ucishe nkomoni.

Ngakolunye uhlangothi, thina ziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ngoba emphakathini wanamuhla kwenza abazali unzima kakhulu kunanoma kwaba iminyaka engu-50 edlule. Omunye ephezulu iphrofayela "ukuthuthuka komqondo" kuwufanele okuthile! Futhi akukho lutho mayelana "bahlale bamukelwa yonke indawo" izikhathi kwethu ezinkulukazi (kusuka elithi "isimangaliso") izingane ngokuqinisekile wezwa konke nganoma iyiphi indlela abazali abanekhono.

Singabasiza kanjani izingane zethu zikhule bengazange owehla nabo crazy?

Indlela elula yokwenza ingane ujabule nokuthuthukisa nengqondo yakhe - kuyinto ukudlala ke! Google lokho afuna ukudlala ngomdlandla, inkanuko, kanye enza imigilingwane enjengeye uyingane. Khumbula, ukuthi yini asetshenziswa ukudlala futhi bachithe okungenani imizuzu engama-15 umdlalo nge ingane yakho esakhula.

Ingabe kunzima kakhulu esikhathini esibucayi ngomntwana ukuthatha ngempela uyini, nazo zonke kwaneliswa nezifiso, ukwesaba kanye nezinye akuyona njalo imizwa ezimnandi kithi. Futhi thatha imizwa ingane kulula kuye yena ephikisana ukuveza eyakhe imizwa ngokucacile futhi ukubonakaliswa ngokomzwelo. Sebenza on ukuthuthukisa yabo imizwelo abese ungaba uthisha kangcono ingane yakho.

Kubalulekile kakhulu kuwo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu mdala, ukuba ne oyiqonda, ngeke ukuvikela zonke iziphepho nezinsizi zokuphila, sikholelwa, ukwesekwa, ulalele futhi ukutshela. Ngo Psychology, kukhona ngisho umuntu onjalo agodliwe igama elithi "esibukweni onothando."

Cabanga indlela okubaluleke ngayo ukuba ingane uyashintsha, ngifuna yena ukuvala obukade!

Ingane akazi lutho ngaye, ebona yena njengoba sibonakala eduze. Njalo kuyo - ngamanye amazwi, buviyoviyo, isenzo, ngisho ukuthula - sitshela yini ingane ngakho.

Bheka, kanjani ukuphatha ukuthatha ingane yakho.

Kuze kube yimanje, ezako dney̆ ezintathu zama ukubala ukuthi zingaki izikhathi uke waya kuye ephethe sengqondo esiqondile ngokomzwelo kangakanani omubi (ukhuze, ukukhala, phawula kritikoy̆).

Ukuze omuhle kwegazi zemali otdelnyy̆ isikhwama nesibaya, ngoba omubi - okufanayo. Vele uzame hhayi ukwenza lokhu engqondweni yakho, futhi empeleni alo zemali nokufana endaweni ehlukile. Iqiniso ukuthi ingqondo enganakile ungadlala nawe ihlaya ezinonya: ungawunaki izenzo engadingeki, ingqondo yayo kuphela ukubeka zemali.

Uma likhuluma kaningana negative esilingana noma omuhle, bese wena alixhumani kulungile.

Manje vala amehlo akho kanye ngeso lengqondo ukuthi uyahlangabezana umngani wakho omkhulu (noma intombi). Ubonisa kanjani ukuthi wayethokozisa ukuthi uzokwenza imigwaqo naseduze?

Futhi manje, sicela ukwamukela ingane yakho siqu: ekuseni, lapho wayesanda sengivuswa; usuku, lapho ebuyela ukuqeqeshwa; kusihlwa, lapho efika idina ... Ungesabi ukuba 'bonakalise "kuye ngesikhathi labo imizuzu, kuba ngokuphelele engenakwenzeka.

Kuphethe odlule imisebenzi emibili, benaka ukuphendula yengane, futhi begxila emizweni yabo siqu, futhi. Call wena le mizwa, chaza emizweni yabo emzimbeni (Ukugunda mhlawumbe endaweni ethile uzizwa, futhi mhlawumbe, kunalokho, zikhule "amaphiko"), noma yikuphi imicabango wena khona ukuba lezi zinkinga.

Siza ingane yakho ihlale, mtshele ukuthi umthanda kangakanani kuye, you kholwa him, wena ziyathokoza ukuthi ube khona. Izithakazelo ekuphileni kwengane, imizwelo yakhe, abangane bakhe. Abazithobayo ulalele smile ngobuqotho, ukusiza umbhekisise ngeso elihle emhlabeni, ukusiza ukubona izinkinga inkinga, ukusiza uhlaziye namaphutha lesifanele. Bheka kanye indlela yokuphuma ezimweni ezinzima.

Funda asebenzayo ukulalela izingane zakho (mayelana ukulalelisisa, ungafunda encwadini Yu Gippenreiter "Khuluma nengane yakho. Kanjani?" Futhi ukulalela khulula izinto inthanethi bokusungula ezokungcebeleka club).

Futhi khumbula ibinzana emangalisayo: "Umntwana liziphatha kwafana kungaba."

Ngezinye izikhathi (kodwa empeleni njalo) esikhundleni sokubeluleka eyisicefe, udinga agqashule ekusebenzelaneni izindaba zabo ezibalulekile futhi Corny ukuze ninikele isikhathi ingane. Play futhi xoxani nezingane zenu.