Isigaba esiyinhloko ekuthuthukiseni yomuntu njengoba umuntu, noma Kuyini usakhula

Ukukhuluma ulimi owomileyo ube yiziphethu isayensi, kulula ukuphendula lo mbuzo usakhula. Lona yobudala esiphakathi kobuntwana esakhula umuntu. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ukuphila kunzima kakhulu ukudweba umugqa ecacile endaweni lapho sekuyisikhathi ukuqeda onodoli nezimoto futhi uqala ukuphila omdala ezimele. Mhlawumbe umama nobaba lalowonyaka Kasayikubuyela.

Indlela ukuyidlulisa ingane?

imikhuba yamanje nezindlela abantu bangayithola imfundo enjalo ukuthi kubhekwa evamile uma ingane ihlala emndenini, ngisho phakathi ukuqeqeshwa sikhungo, nakuba emashumini ambalwa eminyaka edlule, intsha bathunyelwa ezikoleni empeleni izingane ezineminyaka eyi-11-12. ERussia tsarist, futhi owasungula igama elithi "umfana" eyayikhuluma ikakhulukazi abafana, ukunakekela umkhaya wakhe ukuze ngiqeqeshwe ukuba izingcweti ahlukahlukene, abapristi, izicukuthwane.

Kodwa amadodana ozithandayo namadodakazi abazali babo magange ukubonisa ukuzimela, ukuzimela, ekuboniseni konke ukuziphatha kwakhe, okungukuthi usakhula. Ubunzima sokushintshela yobudala - ke kuyimfuneko ofuna ukuphila futhi banqobe wonke umuntu. Ngalesi ubudala, kunezinguquko cardinal ku-psychology kanye izitho zomzimba. Kwesinye isikhathi usana izolo kunzima kakhulu ngokuzimela bona futhi baqonde yonke lezi zinguquko.

Kungaphansi kwaziphi umkhawulo yobudala uwela ngaphakathi kwesikhathi yobusha?

Kuyini usakhula, abantu besikhathi nzima ukuqonda. Esikhathini kwekhulu lamashumi amabili nanye, bathi "ingane" noma ukuphila kwaseNtshonalanga kokuthanda - "ingane". Ukuhumusha kusuka IsiZulu ngokoqobo kungenziwa waqonda njengoba engu-13 kuya ku-19 iminyaka (teen - yobudala muntu kule nkathi nohlaka, ubudala - yobudala). Leli gama liye bagxilile futhi sisetshenziswa kabanzi e nezincwadi zesayensi kanye ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Yena ngembaba ephawula usakhula, ubudala, okuphakathi esingokwemvelo. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, odokotela bengqondo aseNtshonalanga baye lasuka esigabeni ecacile nokulumbaniswa zonke izingane shayela efanayo. Isikhathi emva ebuntwaneni, othile angase aqale lapho eseneminyaka engu-11 futhi waphelela 19, kodwa umuntu uzoqala ukuba asondele nakakhulu eminyakeni 13-14, futhi engu sezimiso ngokwako akukwazi isikhathi eside ukwedlula iminyaka 15-16. Zonke ikakhulukazi ngamunye. Ngaphandle kwalokho, amantombazane, lezi zinqubo iyokwenzeka ngaphambi futhi kancane alula kakhulu kunomoya abafana.

Ubunzima sokushintshela yobudala

Psyche amantombazane kuyinto more uzinze, mancane amathuba okuthi acele umaluju kwemizwelo edlubulundayo, mhlawumbe ngenxa ukuxhumana unina, ukuthi kokubuka ngempela ku izinkinga zabo futhi nakho. Abafana baqala wokuthi ushintsho emzimbeni, yazi ukuthi ngenxa yokuthi sesibadala, kodwa ukuncika intando izihlobo ukucindezela futhi ngikhungathekile. Konke lokhu kungaholela ngabodwa, eyedwa, izingxabano kokubili ekhaya esikoleni, emgwaqweni.

Ngokuvamile, izingxabano inikezwe ngqo ukuqonda ukuthi usakhula is, embule zonke izinkinga zako, ukungapheleli zezemfundo, lizinga nokusimama a psyche yobusha. Ukuze ugweme izinkinga emkhayeni okuthukelayo ehluleka kule nkathi. Abazali nzima ukuba uqaphele ukuthi lowo ingane intandokazi eyeka ukuba ingane, kubalulekile ukuba afunde ukulalela, ukunciphisa izinga lokulawula kancane kancane let go. Indima umphathi ngokugcwele futhi onegunya - lena bug ukuthi nakanjani kuyoholela izingxabano nokungezwani phakathi abathandekayo.

Izici yokuxhumana kuthomba kanye nontanga, abafundisi, abazali

Futhi usakhula umehluko kusuka ebuntwaneni kuba umndeni kanye esikoleni usukela ngokucacile kakhulu, ontanga, abangane nezitha. Lona yobudala zobuntu futhi isimo sokulindela ukuphelela, okuyinto esivela idealization futhi polarity ekucabangeni. Uma izingane thatha konke injalo, e izingane zabo uqale Imizamo yokuqala ukuba benze nenengqondo amakhono okucabanga. Intsha ozama ukuwina endaweni phansi kwelanga, kwenzeka izinyathelo kuqala ukuhlanganisa isimo salo emphakathini, umzabalazo ubuholi, igunya.

It siyashintsha nge obhekwe sobusha, futhi sibheke esikoleni nothisha. Nakuba ngaphambili uthisha namazwi akhe ungazange bafakwa imibuzo, manje uqala oyinselele sivikele umbono wakhe siqu.

Phakathi abazali usakhula kudingeka sinake kakhulu enganeni yakho ufunde nje kuphela ukulalela kuye, kodwa futhi ukulalela, ukuba uthintane. Ukuba isithulu bamukele imibono ukukhula abasha kungaholela nemiphumela ungalungiseki ezizothinta impilo yonke ikusasa kokubili ingane nomndeni wakhe.