Indlela yokuthola uthando, kweqiniso?

Iphupho a weqiniso, uthando olujulile uqeda ngandlela-thile kuziwa umuntu ngamunye. Abanye kungenzeka ukuthi imicabango enjalo uvakashele eminyakeni 16, abanye bacabanga ngokujulile ngakho kuphela kusukela eminyakeni kuya ku-40, futhi kuphela lwesithathu futhi benza kuphela baguge kakhulu aqale ukuzibheka njengongcono alungele lokhu umuzwa. Indlela yokuthola uthando, ukuba khona?

Okokuqala, i-theory kancane. Izinhlobo uthando echazwe kangaka, kulula uthole bedidekile lapho ufunda imithombo sina ngale ndaba. Ngokuvamile waqhathanisa izinhlobo ezimbili imizwa ephakeme - Eros futhi Agape. Kodwa eqinisweni imithombo yesimanje ihlaba umkhosi okungenani 8 izinhlobo uthando. We uzokutshela mayelana amabili okukhulunywa. Ake uqale nge Agape, okuyinto kubhekwa uhlobo kakhulu "enhle" uthando. Lolu hlobo kudinga umhlatshelo omkhulu, ukuzinikela, uthando ukucabanga njalo mayelana nendlela yokujabulisa kothandekayo. imithombo Christian ubheke lolu hlobo lothando uphakeme. Ngo practice, Agape net ekuphileni kwebantfu cishe ingekho, ngoba ezahlukene nabugovu ngokuphelele. Kukholakala ukuthi lo muntu ongakwazi ukumthanda kuphela uNkulunkulu. Eros - uthando emhlabeni, libhekene Luhambo evusa inkanuko nokunakwa kakhulu ngokomzimba elikhangayo lover. Kuyinto lokhu hlobo luni lothando ngokujulile ukunyusele isiko mass. Yiqiniso, ngokwalo uthando Eros akuyona into embi. Kodwa nansi ukugxila njengethuba ekahle akufanele uma ukuzibizela umsebenzi "Indlela yokuthola uthando lweqiniso." Better ukuthatha isampula uthando-agape.

Ngokuvamile, umbuzo "Bangaki ukuthola uthando?" Ingabe awufikanga kahle. Phela, umuzwa bengasibhekile kweqiniso, dala ke. Ngakho umbuzo kumele reformulated ngokuhlukile kancane, "kanjani ukuthola umlingani nobani ungakwazi ukwakha ukwethembana okujulile futhi ubuhlobo obufudumele?" Kodwa okuningi kuxhomeke kuwe uqobo, amakhono akho futhi uzimisele ukwakha ubudlelwano. Bese umbuzo kuyoba: "? Yini okudingeka ngikwenze ukwakha ubudlelwano, ukubizwa ngokuthi uthando lweqiniso do". Impendulo yayo yomibili le mibuzo.

Indlela ukuthola uzakwethu uma izindlela ezivamile ezifana nokusesha kungasizi ozakwabo nabangane? Bheka kwi-Inthanethi. A option enhle - ukujola amasayithi, kuhlanganise ngamazwe. Iqiniso lokuthi kukhethwa abantu abanentshisekelo ezizindeni ngamazwe kabanzi. Ngesinye "kazwelonke" obengenele ukhetho ezithakazelisayo (female ikhandidethi) ngeke alandise eziyishumi ukuze amabili aphesheya. Umhlaba wonke akadingi ukuba kukhawulwe guys abakhuluma isiRashiya futhi amantombazane. Yiqiniso, akubona bonke bafunde ulimi kalula. Kodwa ulimi olusha, noma kunjalo, kuyasiza kuwe, futhi kuyasiza i-career, kanye nentuthuko. Uthando lweqiniso kudinga investimenti isikhathi kanye nemizamo. Usukulungele for yokufuna yayo yini? Nokho, isebenzise amakhono olimi. Kodwa ungakhohliswa kungagcini ukuphola sites. Kusekhona isithakazelo amakilabhu ku-intanethi, izinkundla thematic. Ungathola umuntu othanda izincwadi efanayo ukhona, futhi izithakazelo ezifanayo cishe okuqinisekisiwe ukuthi ngeke ukhulume.

Yini okufanele uyenze ukuze ubuhlobo nomlingani ezinhle ukwakha? Okokuqala, sifunde ukuthethelela. Ngisho nasezimweni ezikhululekile kungenzeka ivumelane kakhulu ngazimbili kwenzeka ukungavumelani futhi ingxabano. Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle ikhono lokuthethelela bese ukhohlwa nobuhlobo obuhle ayikwazi eyakhelwe. Izincwajana zemininingwane e ubudlelwano nabantu obathandayo ukuthi usunayo. Nakuba ubudlelwano bakho abakhona ngeke ngcono, akunandaba mqondo ukuqala ezobambisana naye, futhi udinga bayakhohlwa umbuzo "Bangaki ukuthola uthando." Lapho ubudlelwane ngcono, singaya esinyathelweni esilandelayo: ukuqeqesha ngokwakho njalo ufune izindlela ukujabulisa abantu abasondelene nawe. Kungaba izipho ngobuqotho amazwi amnandi, amancane noma okungezona ukuzibopha noma izindaba ngendlela enhle kubantu wesithathu (inhlebo noHezekeli). Kusadingeka bafunde ukubheka izici ezinhle kubantu abaseduze, kuyokusiza ubone izwe ngendlela ehlukile futhi abantu ekhangayo, ngakho-ke ngeke kube lula ukuthola uthando. Hlala phansi ubhale ephepheni okungenani 10 izimfanelo engcono kothandekayo nawe ukuthola bani kube nzima. Kuyoba ukuqeqeshwa okukhulu kanye nokulungiselela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi oyithandile ngekusasa lakhe okhethiweyo noma othandekayo.

Indlela yokuthola uthando? Vele ukwandisa isimo sendawo bese uqale ukusebenza ngokwakho. Futhi maduze ngeke esaba khona owenzayo sengilinde kukho konke ukuphila kwami.