Early umshado - Izinzuzo Ububi

Uma lokumba umlando kanye namasiko ezizwe ezahlukene, singaqonda ukuthi abantu banemibono ehlukene kakhulu lapho ukungena emshadweni. Ngokwesibonelo, enovelini zakudala Nikolaya Leskova, echaza Ukuzula The Enchanted Wanderer, okukhulunywe kweminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ukuphila hero, okuyinto ayihlala ekamu ngesiTatar. Elapho, washada nentombazane eneminyaka engu nantathu ubudala ohlala iminyaka alethwe umyeni wakhe nezingane eziyisishiyagalolunye, ebeletha amawele izikhathi eziningana. Futhi kwakungekho lutho eziyinqaba, emthethweni noma kuhlanekezelwe. Lokhu kwakuyinto evamile.

Manje wonke umuntu evamile uyaqonda ukuthi ukudalwa umndeni kufanele basondele abantu abavuthiwe futhi ukulungele ukuba nobuhlobo obungathi sina. Umkhaya - enkulisa akuyona umdlalo ku "Omama Madodakazi". Kuyinto unesibopho izimpilo nenjabulo yabanye. I imishado eziqine - labo abantu abangabangcwele abaziyo ukuthi bafunani kusuka ekuphileni woza, ziyadalwa ngenxa yothando ukuze babe nezingane futhi ukusiza nomunye kukho konke. Ingabe ujabule ekuphileni komkhaya ka engu-abashadayo? umshado Early - i ngokumelene.

Ithi ngesikhathi esisodwa kunjalo lapho abantu ukushada ngoba wayekhulelwe. Uma phambi kwaba ubuhlobo eside nokuhlala njalo, umuzwa ukukhanya ithemba ke umshado kungenzeka kukhule lwesigameko omuhle. Kodwa lapho abantu abashadile baye kwake. Yini okumele uyenze uma isimo esinjalo uthole intsha? Lapha kuxhomeke kakhulu abazali. Uma ungeke ukwenze isisu bese umbuzo ukuthi ukuthi ingane namanje izonikelwa abazalwe kakade ukuxazululwa, luhlala ukucabanga mayelana abazali abasha. Ugogo, kakhulu, kungathatha sokubeletha bese uvumele indodana nendodakazi zakhe ezimkhanukelayo ukuyothola imfundo.

Ungakwazi ngisho hlola umshado ekuseni, enikeza umndeni abasha ihlale ngokwahlukana, ngoba sezikhulile manje futhi izakhamuzi agcwele. Uma unina ukubekezela intokazi umka nekhono lokungacasuli, can unobtrusively futhi ngaphandle amahlazo ukufundisa indodakazi yakhe ukuba sibhekane nazo zonke izibopho nabazali bomyeni wakhe ukusekela indodana yakhe zonke nakangaka, emshadweni ekuseni okunjalo kuyoba yimpumelelo. Ngokushesha kufanele licaciswe ukuthi into esemqoka lapha umbhangqwana uthanda ngempela komunye nomunye futhi ufuna nazo zonke lezi zinkinga.

Kodwa izinzuzo eziningi kanjani umndeni abanje! Ngaleso sikhathi, bonke baqala ukwenza ukukhetha phakathi umsebenzi nengane, yebo abasha okuqala phambili ngokuphepha, ngoba kakade unayo ingane, mhlawumbe ayisekho ngisho wesikole. Umama Young uyohlale enhle kakhulu, futhi kuyofinyelela izingane, ngoba umehluko yobudala akuyona omkhulu kangaka.

umshado Early muhle futhi yokuthi abaningi kangaka abasha ubungqabavu, izifiso, izinkanuko, imizwa kanye nomdlandla. izimpilo zabo zansuku zonke cishe kube grey banganamukeli usukhathele ngokushesha njalo ezinye izinkinga zasekhaya. By the way, odokotela bengqondo bathi lo mbhangqwana kuba lula ukujwayela nomunye nokwenza ezivuna, ngoba bengakabi kwakheka umkhuba, futhi ingahlali khumbulani, zingabantu plastic kakhudlwana futhi sikulungele ukuzivumelanisa nezimo.

Noma kunjalo, kukhona izinhlangothi ezimbi kulo magazini. Kulungile uma kukhona nokuxhaswa umndeni. Uma ugogo nomkhulu abazimisele ukudela emisebenzini yabo (futhi empeleni zisatholakala kude umhlalaphansi) nokusiza alo mbhangqwana omusha. Kodwa kuthiwani uma abazali bengakwazi noma ungafuni ukusiza lo mbhangqwana? ukuthi imishado ekuseni enjalo kokubhalelwa esasizobhujiswa?

Cishe, yebo, uma noma ubani abashadayo ingakahambisani abanalo imfundo, kungekho msebenzi. Ngoba ke uyise abasha kuzodingeka omningi, futhi intsha umama ukubukeka unseparated emva umntwana kanye nomnotho. Ngeke kwenzeke ukuba ukuhlela imikhankaso ngokuhlanganyela, kokushiya imvuthu kanye ogogo, ukuphila uphendulela grey, futhi omdala sina. Akuwona wonke umuntu uyakwazi ukuba lithwalwe ngenhlonipho futhi alondoloze umshado. Kodwa uma abasha basathandana, zonke lezi ubunzima besikhashana ngeke kuphela yokuqinisa ubuhlobo bayo.