Isitatimende sokuthandana: ngubani obaba womfazi kuyise womyeni?

Umshado usuku lokudalwa kweyunithi entsha yomphakathi - umndeni, kanye nokuhlanganiswa kwala maqembu amabili. Uke wafuna njalo izihlobo eziningi? Iphupho lakho ligcwalisile, ngoba kusukela ngesikhathi sokungena emshadweni inani labathandekayo liphindwe kabili. Zonke lezi zihlobo ezintsha zibizwa kanjani, ubaba womkakhe uthini kubazali bomyeni wakhe?

Abazali bomshado ngokuphathelene nezingane

Ngamunye wethu uyazi ukuthi umfana osemusha kufanele abize abazali bomyeni wakhe fresh. Ngakho-ke, unina womlingani uninazala, futhi uyise unguyisezala. Indoda ibiza unina kanina umkhwekazi, nobaba - umkhwekazi. Futhi ngubani uyise wowesifazane kumyeni kamyeni wakhe, ingabe ikhona isikhathi esihlukile sokunquma le degree of relationship? Namuhla, izincazelo eziyinkimbinkimbi zezihlobo "ngomshado" azivame ukusetshenziselwa ukuphila kwansuku zonke. Vumelana, hhayi njalo ukuzwa amagama "umkhwenyana" noma "umalokazana". Ngakho-ke, abantu bavame ukudideka, futhi abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi uyise womkakhe unguyise kayise kayise. Kodwa lena incazelo engalungile. Shayela leli gama ubaba wendoda kuphela umyeni wakhe, naye, ngokuqondene noyisezala noninazala ungumkhwenyana.

Incazelo eqondile yokuthandana

Eqinisweni, ubaba womkakhe unguyise womyeni. Kukhona inguqulo yesifazane yale ncazelo - "svya". Leli gama lisetshenziselwa ukunquma umamazala nomamazala ngokuphathelene nomunye nomunye. Iphi igama elithi "matchmaker" elivelaphi? Ayikho impendulo eqondile yalo mbuzo, izazi zithuthukisa izinguqulo ezahlukene. Kodwa-ke, ngandlela-thile kwakungekho, nakanjani, ukuthi igama ngokwalo lumnene futhi limnandi. Okudume kakhulu ezenzweni nemidvwebo kuyisimiso sokuthi "umzalwane womdlalo". Kodwa empeleni, ezinsukwini zakudala babekholelwa ukuthi ukushada nezingane kusho ukuhlobene nabazali babo.

Ubani uyise wendoda kuyise wowesifazane?

Izincazelo ze "matchmaker" ne "svya" ziyonke. Angasetshenziselwa ukubhekisela kubazali bomfazi nomyeni (ngokuqondene nomama noyise womlingani wesibili, ngokulandelana). Kuyiphutha ukucabanga ukuthi uyise womyeni unguyise womkakhe. "Kum" nethi "kuma" kuyisikhalo sabantwana bakaNkulunkulu bantombazane. Khumbula kanye nhlobo incazelo ecacile yabazali bomshado ngokuphathelene nomunye nomunye. Lona kanye "umdlali" futhi "svia". Kukhona okunye okukhethwa kukho ukuzimisela kukababa noma umama womyeni wendodakazi (noma umfazi wendodana). Uma ekhuluma ngomdlali womdlalo noma umuntu wesithathu kumuntu wesithathu, kufanelekile ukuthi: "Indodakazi kamamakazi wami" noma "umkhwekazi kababa" .... Kwezinye izimo, lolu khetho lokukhomba izihlobo engxoxweni luhle kakhulu, isibonelo, uma kunezingane eziningana futhi bonke bashadile. Kule ndaba, ngaphandle kokungena ekuchazeni ukuthi uhlolo luphikisana yini, ungasho ngokufushane ukuthi: "Lo ngumkhwezala / umkhwekazi (igama lomntwana)." Ungakwazi futhi ukukhuluma ngomamazala wakho noma umkhwekazi, wenqaba ukusebenzisa igama elithi "svya".

Swat and svjatja - izihlobo ezintsha zomndeni omusha

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwezihlobo zabashadisi abashadile bahluke kakhulu. Kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kudingekile ukuzama ukuzilungisa nokubenza basondele. Yimuphi umehluko okwenza ukuthi ubaba womkakho ubaba kayendoda nokuthi kanjani ngokufanele ukubiza lobu buhlobo? Ngemuva kwalokho, sikhuluma, njengombuso, ngamadoda amabili aneminyaka efanayo, abamele isizukulwane esifanayo. Futhi noma ngabe isimo sezenhlalakahle nesimo sengqondo sihluke, akulula ukuthola izithakazelo ezivamile kanye nezihloko zezingxoxo. Ukuvivinya kanye nomkhwezala kungaba mnandi ndawonye, kwanele ukuhlela uhambo olujwayelekile lokudoba noma ukuzingela, ipikinikini noma ukuthola umsebenzi ohlukile. Ngokushesha ngemva kokujwayele izihlobo, labo abasanda kushada kufanele basize abazali bazo zonke izindlela ukuze basungulwe ubudlelwane. Futhi uma uxhumano selungulwa, uzoba nomndeni omkhulu futhi onobungane ngempela. Ngokuvamile, izihlobo ezingezona ezihlobene negazi, zisondelene kakhulu kunomunye nomunye ngaphandle kwabazalwane nodade abakhule ndawonye. Futhi ngempela, kufanelekile ukuphendukela ekuhlakanipheni kwasekuqaleni futhi sikhumbule ukuthi umshado wezingane yisikhathi sokuthi sihlobene nabazali bawo.