Ukuvimbela isisu nasemiphumeleni yaso

Have a baby and ube umama - okubaluleke injabulo empilweni salowo nalowo muntu wesifazane. Noma umuntu ngamunye? Mhlawumbe yilokhu uchaza yokuthi ezandayo abesifazane izisu. Ngokokunye ukulinganisela, yilowo nalowo wesifazane wesithathu ekuphileni kwakhe okungenani kanye yakhetha le nqubo. Okwakushiwo leligama esabekayo wazi ngamunye wethu, kodwa lapho sibhekene ukukhulelwa okungafunwa, abaningi namanje manqikanqika ukubabulala ingane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuthatha. Kodwa kuthiwani imizwa likamama konke?

Sekuyisikhathi eside Ukukhipha isisu kwaba yingxenye yezimpilo zethu. Kuyinto lowo luyangenela uma udinga anqamule ukukhulelwa, ngamanye amazwi, ukubulala ingane. Nakuba inqubo enjalo engakaze ezaqedwa ngumthetho, besaba konke: labo babe ukuthambekela ukwandisa izinga lokuzalwa, lowo uya isisu, futhi lona wesifazane owayeke alinge ke. Ukukhipha isisu kanye nemiphumela yayo ngisho ukwazi emantombazaneni asemasha. Kodwa njengoba ingazange ukuchazela abesifazane undesirability of umphumela onjalo yokukhulelwa, isisu, lokhu akubi kancane.

Ngokwezibalo, kwezisu okungamashumi ngokuvamile eyayenziwa abesifazane nentsha abasha. Izizathu zalokhu zingase zishintshe kakhulu: waphonsa othandekayo, kodwa hhayi ukuhamba ekuseni kakhulu, njll Kodwa ingabe konke okwenzekayo empilweni kungavimbela ingane? Kuwubuwula ukuthatha izimpilo silwanyana kuphela ngoba sasingakafiki wathola imali eningi, ukuthi akudingeki zezindlu nokuthi omunye engenayise, ukukhulisa ingane kunzima kakhulu. Ngokwami, ngikholwa ukuthi kufanele babe Sokuzivikela kuya isisu kuphela icala uma kukhona ubufakazi bezokwelapha. Yebo, kuyenzeka ukuthi odokotela enqabela owesifazane abelethe, ngoba noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu. Kodwa ngisho lapha, konke kufanele kuhlaziywe ngokucophelela hhayi usike ehlombe. Futhi bonke abanye, ukuze singathwesi baphonsa osinike ukuphila, ngeke sibe isithiyo sokuzalwa sengane.

Nokho isisu wesifazane kodwa akekho ongaphika. Uma usalokhu wanquma ukuthatha isinyathelo yenza ngokuphelelwa yithemba, kumelwe kukhunjulwe ukuthi isisu njengefa nasemiphumeleni yaso - ke ngempela isimo sisibi. Lapho sokukhulelwa kwenzeka, umzimba ulungisa ngokwayo ukuze inqubo ethwele ingane. Kodwa lapho sonke nqubo iphazamisekile ngenxa yokukhishwa kwezisu, umzimba kuza nje ukushaqeka. Ukwehluleka emsebenzini wakhe - lokhu kungokwemvelo. Ngokwesibonelo, ngenyanga emva isisu wachezuka schedule, zingaba amathuluzi esindayo futhi kubuhlungu, kodwa futhi ngeke njalo. Wonke umuntu wesifazane kufanele wazi ukuthi ngemva kokukhipha izisu, angakwazi besakwazi izingane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingozi enkulu yokubamba yinoma iziphi izifo, ukuphazamisa amahomoni ibuye ngokuvamile ukulahlekelwa injongo yokuphila. Ukukhipha isisu kanye nemiphumela yayo kufanele lalicacisela zonke kowesifazane okhulelwe ngubani babenqume ukuqeda ingane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, udokotela kufanele azame ukwenza konke ukuze owesifazane okhulelweyo washintsha umqondo wakhe. Kodwa uma lona wesifazane waphikelela, futhi ngakhipha isisu, kufanele namanje kube okwesikhashana ngaphansi kokuqondisa odokotela. Uketshezi emva isisu igazi iyisiginali ukuthi kukhona okungahambanga kahle. Hhayi ukususwa, ngokushesha afune usizo lwezokwelapha.

Kukhona umbono ukuthi ngaphambili isisu, le kancane ke nemiphumela. Eqinisweni, isisu kanye nemiphumela yayo awekho yimuphi maqondana ngqo ukuze nomunye, ngakho-ke kunzima uxabana lapho ncamashi umphumela kuyoba ziba ngconywana. Yebo, kungcono ukwenza isisu ku esifushane, kodwa akukho muntu ongaqinisekisa ukuthi konke siyophumelela. Zonke izinhlobo akhona isisu (yezokwelapha, mini-isisu, yezokwelapha) banciphisa owesifazane, futhi akukho emthethweni, okuthiwa izisu ngokungemthetho, ezimweni eziningi ukuqeda kabi.

Ngakho ofuna owesifazane eke bafunda nokwazisa izici zokuphila, futhi hhayi kuphela yakhe, kodwa futhi wengane ethola wayephethe ngaphansi enhliziyweni yakhe. Akukho lutho kuleli zwe ngeke kuqhathaniswe nge umama, ngisho imali eningi, ngeshwa, ngeke ukwazi ukulishintsha. Yiqiniso, ukukhipha isisu, nokuthi kuyoba kuze, kodwa usafuna bakholelwa ukuthi kuyoba kakhulu ezincane.