Siphendula lo mbuzo mayelana nokuthi yiyiphi into engavamile

Isihloko sobulili emphakathini wanamuhla sekuphele isikhathi eside siphelile. Kuxoxwa ngenkuthalo ngabantu bobabili abanekhono kule ndaba nakubantu abajwayelekile. Ake sizame futhi sithinte lesi sihloko bese siphendula umbuzo mayelana nokuthi yi- hetero. Kwenzeke ukuthi lesi siqalo sivame ukusetshenziswa kakhulu ekuchazeni ubulili bomuntu. Kodwa kusukela olimini lwesiGreki lisho kuphela "okuhle kakhulu" noma "okuhlukile". Ngendlela, i-hetero iyisiqalo nje kuphela, ngoba ayisetshenziselwa igama elilodwa. Ngokuvamile kaningi kungase kuzwakale kanye negama elithi "ucansi". Ukuphendula umbuzo mayelana nokuthi yiyiphi i-hetero, ungaphendula: ukukhanga abantu abesilisa abahlukile.

Namuhla, ngokuqondene nokuthi ukukhanyiswa kocansi komphakathi sekuye kwajula, isidingo sokucacisa incazelo yalesi gama (isiqalo) sikhula futhi. Uma ngabe uhlobo olusha lwabantu abesilisa ocansini lwabantu abesilisa ocansini lwacatshangwa ukuthi iningi labantu lokuba yedwa kuphela, namuhla wonke umuntu uyaqonda ukuthi lokhu akunjalo. Noma ubani owaziwa noma ongaphansi owaziyo okungenani izinhlobo ezintathu zokuzibandakanya ngokocansi: ukuziphatha ngokobulili, abesilisa nabesifazane kanye nobungqingili. Le nto nayo idinga ukugcwaliswa lapho ibhalisa ngezinsizakalo eziningi zokuthandana.

Uhlobo lobulili lwamaqembu obulili obubonisa ukuthi umuntu angadonseka ngokomzimba kokubili ngokobulili. Kuye, bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bayalingana ngokobulili. Uhlobo lokuma ngobulili bobulili obuhlukile lusho ukuthi umuntu uthandwa ngabantu abesilisa abafanayo naye.

Iyini i- hetero-orientation? Lesi yisithakazelo socansi esibhekiswe kubantu bobulili obuhlukile. Ngenxa yamasiko ezenkolo, ezombusazwe namasiko kubantu abaningi emhlabeni, lokhu kuyindlela ebonakala iyinto evamile. Ngakho-ke, umuntu oyithandana naye ngokobulili nguye obangela isithakazelo esibucayi kubantu bobulili obuhlukile.

Ukuthola ukuthi yiyiphi i-hetero, abaningi bazama ukuthola ukuthi olunye uhlobo lwesifo sesifo yisifo. Ngaphambilini, impendulo yalo mbuzo yayinzima ngokungaqondile: ngu. Abantu ababonwa kwezinye izihlobo (kunokuba babambisane nabo) babephathwa ngokungafanele noma babulawe. Namuhla, akukho ukuhlukaniswa okuqinile kokujwayelekile noma ukungavamile komuntu. Kodwa ngokuqondene nokuthi abantu abasha baqala ukuzama ngobuciko kulokhu noma leyo ndima, ngaphandle kokuba benze izinto ezibalulekile ezingokomzimba noma ezingokwengqondo kulokhu, inkulumo-ze yobungqingili iqala ukutshutshiswa ngokufanele.

Ukuphendula umbuzo mayelana nokuthi i-hetero iyini, uzibeke ngokwawo kuleso sigaba, akufanele ukushayisana ngokushesha inzondo yangaphakathi nokuhlukumezeka kubantu abangezinye izinhlobo. Ukwakheka kobulili kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, konke kuncike ezintweni eziningi, isimo sengqondo sokubekezela kunoma yimuphi umuntu kufanele sibe yinto evamile emphakathini. I-orientation ehlukile akusho ukuthi lowo muntu uyisidumbu futhi i-scumbag. Ngeshwa, umlando wokuthuthukiswa komuntu unezibonelo lapho abantu abathandanayo bobulili obuhlukile babenza ukuziphatha okungathandeki, futhi ngokufanayo.