Ngingayithola kanjani lokubonisa uthando lwami umfana ... umbuzo noma umyalelo?

Othile, lapho ufunda isihloko sengathi umbuzo sibhekiswe intombazane, kahle, lapha ngifunda naye "uyindoda", ngakho-mhlawumbe othile oyodumazeka hhayi ukuze uthole iziyalezo ezinembile esibanzi, yini okufanele wenze intombazane ukufakazela wakhe Ngiyakuthanda guy. Ngafunda ngale ndlela, ngakho-ke ngiyaxolisa kulabo ilukuluku kabani kwansuku, ukoma izidingo nentuthuko ezesayensi noma professional ahlale unmet. Thatha indida kalula lowo mbuzo, okuyinto sizozama ukuqonda.

Noma kukhona okunye ukukhetha ... uyifunde yonke: kokubili abafana namantombazane, ngoba lokho, isimiso, uthando lwakhe izindlela ubufakazi umehluko othile, uyayibona ... Umbuzo akuyona ekhuluma.

Kulesi sihloko, ngacabanga, lokhu umbuzo othile kuze kube manje noma into nje lelandzisako, bokukhuluma, esetshenziselwa kuphela ubheke isihloko ingxoxo - indlela ukufakazela uthando ... Noma mhlawumbe othile efuna ukuthola isinyathelo ngesinyathelo imiyalelo ...

Ngakho sahlela ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi yemibuzo ebaluleke kunayo yonke bona bezama ukufihla ngemuva lutho futhi akusho zidonse ukunaka kwanoma iziqubulo kanye clichés trite. Kungani lokhu kwakwenzeka? Angicabangi ubani uzokwazi ukuphendula lo mbuzo, futhi akuyona nje yokuntuleka intelligence noma isipiliyoni. Ngokubona kwami, kunjalo inkinga ngokwayo, lingelikaJehova isigaba lezo kakhulu iqiniso ukuthola yayo noma ekwakhiweni nakanjani zisenza sibe inombolo enkulu nakakhulu imibuzo. Ngakho, indlela ubonisa uthando lwakho ... guy musa zifane khona okuthile kule nkulumo into enengqondo, ukuze zisebenze okuthile esenzakalweni esiyisimangaliso esenzeka ezinjengothando obuseduze njengoba into amahloni?

Nsuku zonke, phambi kwamehlo ami kunamakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi izinkulungwane zentsha - abafundi, ezahlukene kakhulu izinto ezibakhathazayo, imicabango, imizwa nezimo jikelele. Ngibona nabo ekilasini, lapho amehlo wabo elahleka nenqwaba, e workshop, lapho wonke umuntu angabona futhi siqonde ubuhlobo babo komunye nomunye, ubone ukuqabulana lapho ngihlezi sill iwindi futhi ngezinye amatafula ikhefi umfundi. Ngiyabona futhi uqonde ukuthi iqoqo ubudlelwane, wabiza uthando, kuyisici esihlupha kulaba bantu. Futhi senze konke babo ngesikhathi esithile ubudlelwane, sikhathalela kuphela ukuthi ubonisa uthando lwakho noma ukufuna izindlela ukufakazela lokhu? Ngicabanga ukuthi kungaba ngokuphindaphindiwe futhi ngenkuthalo bazame ukubonisa ukuthi theorems zezibalo, ungakwazi aziqinisekise ngobufakazi obuthile enkantolo ... kodwa ke, njengoba kukhona ngokuvamile isetshenziswa isayithi le nkulumo?

Kukhona omunye futhi umbuzo, kodwa ukuthi singakanani isikhathi kufanele ukufakazela? Othile kusuka omkhulu wathi kufanele ihlale nayo ukuphila konke, mhlawumbe, kodwa ke umbuzo luba lutho, ngoba phambi kwamabandla ubufakazi bothando iba nenjongo yokuphila. Futhi lapha ucele ofana impendulo: ukuthola ubufakazi bothando, wena nje uhlala kulo muntu omthandayo afakazela lokho.

Ngokwesibonelo, ukwazi ukuthi ukubonisa umfana uthando lwakhe, kumelwe kuqala kunazo zonke nokwalo. Mhlawumbe kuzwakala ayindida, kodwa akuyona isiphakamiso lula, esunguliwe kahle nokuqiniseka. Kungani ngisho kanjalo? Futhi ngenxa yokuthi ukucabanga ngalokho kumele aphambane noma unqobe lo ubufakazi? UMark Antony uKhesari, okufakazela uthando lwakhe Cleopatra, eminyakeni eminingi wathumela izinkulungwane zabantu ukuba sifele izimpi zisetshenziswa phakathi kweRoma ne-Egypt, okubi futhi Mercantile onesifumbu Talleyrand wafakazela ukuthi uyasithanda "ezihambayo" imingcele nezizwe e kaNapoleon Europe, ungakhohlwa ubuyise esikhwameni sakhe futhi kunezibonelo eziningi enjengalena "bonakaliso". Okufanele ukwenze kanjani ukufakazela umfana uthando lwakhe, yesimanje, umfana osemncane, ongakabi ifinyelele udumo nengcebo kaKhesari Talleyrand? Ngicabanga, okokuqala kunakho konke, musa noma ucabange ngakho. Wena nje kufanele bathande - amazwi, kumelwe azisole - ngempela, kubalulekile ukukhonza - ngaphandle self-ukuthotshiswa futhi servility, bese wenza kanjalo uyokuqonda ke - kholwa ngalesosikhathi - kufakazelwe!

Ngibuka abantu engibafundelayo - futhi uqiniseke ukuthi ezahlukene, kodwa can, futhi afakazele, nothando, futhi kangcono labo ngeke ufakazele ke-mbono eziyihlazo. Amehlo abo, amehlo ujabule futhi ukumomotheka, angiqabule ebaleka, abanye ukuthinta ngempela ezicashile ukunakwa ukhuluma ngakho.

Futhi ngokuvamile, ukuphendula lo mbuzo (uma umbuzo), kungcono ukusungula reverse bayo, abese ungathola esinembile futhi kuba impendulo esisebenzayo yombuzo kanjani lokubonisa uthando lwami umfana. Uma nazi ukuthi kufanele sokunizonda nina, aphendukela ibe Pariah, isithixo bi vice bese uthole impendulo kule nkinga ukuthi isihlokwana.

Uthando ukuqagulisana ... nothando okungenabufakazi nonke!