Kuyini isimo sokulindela ukuphelela, futhi ngabe ufuna ukulwa naye?

"Awu, lokho kuyoba okujabulisayo kuphela - ukwazi ukuthi mina ephelele, ngiyazi ukuthi nginguJehova ekahle" - khumbula? Kodwa uma unayo ngophethe omkhulu Mary Poppins kubangelwa injabulo, eziningi ukuthola umuzwa lokho ukuphelela kuwe ngokwakho, wayengazi ukuthi ukujabulele. Ngokuvamile, lokhu mkhuba singachazwa ngokuthi isifiso ukufinyelela engenangqondo, izimfuno eliphezulu ngokwedlulele ngokwabo, okuyinto uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka kungaholela ukwehla ukuzethemba. Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, Luzama ukuphendula umbuzo yini isimo sokulindela ukuphelela, ngokuvamile sikubheka njengempahla ukhiye impumelelo factor, Nokho, okuyinto evame, kubangela ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo futhi iloli sezinzwa.

Nezici ezithile linendima ebalulekile. Ukuphelela ngokuyinhloko izingane abazali efanayo abalwela ukungawenzi amaphutha. Ngaphezu kwalokho, labo awutholi uthando kubazali babo ngokungenamibandela, ukuze njalo ewufanele.

Isifiso okungcono kukho konke okwenzayo, kubangele Ukunganeliseki unomphela ngemiphumela. Ukuphelela zamukele kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuthi kulinganiselwa kuphela ngesisekelo lokho esesikwenzile. Le nkolelo kuholela njalo zifunana ukwamukelwa abanye esebenzisa imigomo okunzima ukuyifinyelela. Yabo ukuzethemba aluveli ngaphakathi. Kanjeyana they basengozini kakhulu ukuba zonke izinhlobo ukugxeka, ngoba bafuna, okokuqala kunakho konke, kufanele athandwe futhi wamukela.

Ngakho, liyini ukuphelela? Encwadini, ifomu elula bakudala livela, lokhu impahla has ingane umzamo wokuba "enhle kakhulu, entsha, eziyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu" izinto ofunda nomona. Futhi-ke ngeshwa, kaningi kakhulu, lezi zifiso inkanuko babelethi babo. Igxilile ejulile, mhlaba yomuntu esiholela isifiso kuqala konke, the best.

Kamuva, impendulo yombuzo othi ngalokho isimo sokulindela ukuphelela, kuyinto ekufuneni ukuba siqonde ubukhulu, isibonelo, ube "Umama ephelele", eye ngempumelelo okwenza umsebenzi kanye ngesikhathi esifanayo enakekela izingane umyeni, ukudansela isiginci sakhe kwi yonke indlu. Amafomu ukuphishekela kwezifiso kungaba zahlukahlukene kakhulu: kusukela isifiso ukugibela phezu emibi imoto yakwelinye izwe empini ngokungakhathali sesihloko "umphathi engcono" nokunye okunjalo.

Ukuphelela bafuna kakhulu futhi izingane zabo kanye nabalingani. Lezi zici ngibenze uhlamvu nzima kudalwa ebuhlotsheni. Indlela ayibulale? Mhlawumbe umuntu engenaso ukuqaphela okwanele yenkinga kuyodingeka baphendukele ngosizo owelapha. Ukuze sithole kahle ukungathí sina kwaleso simo, ngokusebenzisa ukuhlolwa ezithile, njengabaphostoli "esikalini multi-ntathu ngokungenzi amaphutha." Ngokusho le ndlela ikhomba amazinga yokukhathazeka, ukukhathazeka sengqondo ukugxekwa, lapho senza izinqumo ukungabaza.

Ihlahlubo: ukuphelela. Indlela ukuqeda lokhu?

Okokuqala, zama ukubeka imigomo ngokuvumelana nezidingo zakho, cabanga okufunayo, cha landela lokho abanye balindele kini.

Okwesibili, ukubeka target elilandelayo kuphela ngemva kwalowo odlule. Indlela izinyathelo ezincane uma kunengozi yomlilo.

Okwesithathu, zama ukuba wehlise izindinganiso zabo: esikhundleni kokuba benze lo msebenzi nganoma 100%, zama ukwenza okuthile 80 noma ngisho 70%. Lokhu kuzobeka usizo uyaqonda ukuthi yini nakakhulu ababulawa umsebenzi akusho ukuphela kwezwe futhi akuphazamisi isimo sakho emehlweni abanye. Gxila "lapha futhi manje", ungatholi kuqala kunathi.