Kanjani ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho?

Engaphephile abantu kuphila ecinisweni elinganiselwe, akakwazi ukuyohlola kahle, Ukuthuka yena ngoba kwecala elinye wabuyisana umqondo wokuthi kuyinto engingafanele ukuthiwa oyifunayo. Umbuzo uwukuthi ukuthi ukukhulisa ukuzethemba, ngezinye izikhathi evakashela lo muntu ukuba bakungabaze mina bo khe ngokwawo ubangela umcabango Edumele we impermanence wempilo:. "Awangifanelekele injabulo, imisebenzi emihle, amaholo aphezulu, njll hhayi; ngokwazi konke Ngakho, Anginayo kwesokudla ukucabanga nge-career noma ukuphila okujabulisayo, kodwa ngicabanga - futhi ngenxa yalokho, kumele bajeziswe ".

Into efana umcabango bokulahlekelwa endoda ngokwayo, ngoba ukuntula ukholo amakhono abo uhamba eduze ukuzenyeza. Iningi izikhungo zethu iqala ebuntwaneni, njengoba kunjalo nokuntula ukholo ngokwabo kanye namandla abo. Ngokusho ososayensi ucwaningo, ukuzethemba / ukungalethembi - lena akuyona izinga kokuzalwa, ngakhoke siyakwazi nomthelela ezingeni ukubaluleka self.

Uma ungazange obekucatshangwa mayelana umbuzo kanjani ukuzethemba, bese sikwazi ukukhuluma ekuqaleni indlela eya "Ukuphulukisa": njengoba odokotela bengqondo bathi, ukuqaphela ukuthi kunenkinga, bese uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala ukuqedwa yayo.
Ochwepheshe ukweluleka ukuthi ezimweni ezinjalo? Abazincomayo ukunqoba ukwesaba kwabo nokungabaza? Yini ukweluleka wenze ukuba ukuzethemba kwakho?

• Okokuqala, kumelwe ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze bazivikele ukuxhumana njalo nabantu ezibangela wacabanga ukulinganiselwa kwakho futhi ngingafaneleki. Uma uzizwa ungakhululekile, ihlazo ofuna ukuphumela obala, ukudideka, nje ukuqeda isidingo ukuxhumana nabo (Yiqiniso, uma kunokwenzeka) emphakathini othile Mr N;
• isinyathelo esilandelayo - ukuqapha abantu uyazethemba futhi ukopishe ukuziphatha kwabo. Khetha umuntu uyakwazisa yena. Bheka kuye ngokucophelela, ngokuqinisekile uzophawula ukuthi akusiyo ephelele, njengo iningi lethu, kukhona nemiphumela ethile engathandeki, kodwa ukuba khona kwabo akusiphuci umuntu wokholo ngamandla abo. Akazange afikelwe kwesaba ubuthakathaka bayo, akuyona namahloni ngazo, futhi ngenxa yalokho indiva oluzungezile yabo. Kufana postulate owaziwa: uma ufuna ukufihla okuthile abanye, wasibeka endaweni sigqamile kunabo;
• ukucabanga nendlela ukuzethemba, cishe ucabanga ukuthi udinga ukugxila nokuqedwa ngamaphutha abo. Futhi likhona iqiniso, kodwa kuthiwani uma gxila ukuqina kwamandla akho? Bhala uyibhala engenalutho iphepha kokufaneleka yabo, cela umbono izihlobo. Funda ngokuzwakalayo, ngokuzayo lapho uza wamthethisa ngokwami ngoba into encane elandelayo;
• Misa ukugxeka wena ngayinye "lokucasula ', ukugxekwa kufanele kusize ukucacisa izimbangela sigameko, futhi musa ukukhiqiza abalazi ngokwaso njengoba uyisehluleki;
• Cabanga ngekusasa lakho, lokho ofuna ukuba sifinyelele, lokho kuyiphupho nje? Thuthukisa uhlelo ukufeza oyifunayo. Qala ngezinto ezincane, ukuhalalisela ngokwakho noma nini uma kungenzeka ukwenza okuthile okubalulekile. Lapho uqaphela ukuthi ungakwazi ukufezekisa imiphumela emihle, impumelelo engafulatheli yayo futhi icala elikhulu. Ungalahli ithemba uma into ehluleka. In amazwi uThomas Edison, indlela engcono impumelelo - ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuze uzame futhi;
• kanjani ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho? ... sifunde ukuthethelela wena yamaphutha esikhathi esedlule ngokuvamile ungavumeli ukuba phambili, ukwesaba ukunyathela i-hala efanayo paralyzes kithi. Ngezikhathi ezithile abese ecabanga ngesikhathi esidlule, kodwa ungavumi iyona ekulawulayo. Isazela, ihlazo, futhi ngeke uvumele ukuthi aphumelele. Lahla kubo. Shintsha esidlule, singeke, kodwa ukususa iphutha kusukela izifundo zokuphila (futhi lokhu nakho kwethu, esidlule yethu), sinekhono lokwenza;
• ungabeki ukwehluleka kwabo kwabanye abantu, ngakho-ke wayencisha bazikhipha ithuba lokuba inkosi empilweni yakho. Abantu abaphumelelayo umelele futhi ushintshe ngokwabo obanika ithuba ukulinganisela kwakhe lapho ukuphila kwethu iwela isiphepho;
• zama ukuhlola isimo ngelinye ihlo. Buka kusukela ngaphandle inhloso okuningi futhi kunengqondo. Ngakho funda ukubekezelela abanye futhi ukuhlolwa nizithibe ngaphezulu izenzo zabo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo uyafunda ukwamukela nokugxeka okwakhayo futhi ulisebenzise ukuze kuzuze bona;
• ukujabulela ukuphila kwakho, smile ukuze imisebe yelanga, sicathulo ngokusebenzisa amaxhaphozi, ahambe ngezinyawo nezingane - ukuziqambela uqobo achaza "wangempela" kuphila kuphela, singabokudatshukelwa iphutha futhi ukuthuthela kude ngokoqobo. Yenza isikhathi ngokwakho, ulalele umculo owuthandayo, ukwenza izinto ozithandayo - thina Unethuba nje ukuba siphile, kungakhathaliseki ukuchitha kulesi sikhathi sokucindezeleka futhi melancholy?

Umbuzo ka kanjani ukuzethemba, akukho impendulo eyodwa lesifanele. Sonke ezahlukene, ngamunye wethu ekuphileni simo sakhe, ukwesaba kwakho kanye ukungabaza. Kodwa ngisho nalokhu ayibalulekile. I iphuzu elibaluleke kakhulu: Ingabe ngempela ufuna ukushintsha, kungakhathaliseki sikulungele avule umnyango injabulo? Ezimweni eziningi, ukuphila aminzisa ezandleni zabo siqu ...