Izicelo Eziya Kuziphathimandla "wena" phezu nemithetho yokuziphatha inkulumo

Izici nobuntu umuntu enkulumweni yakhe futhi isitatimende esibhaliwe abanye ngezindlela eziningi njani isiko jikelele umuntu. Ziyakwazi sisondelene isithombe ukuthi kudala emehlweni abanye, futhi ngaleyo ndlela kuthinte isimo sawo sengqondo kuye. Ngakho-ke, enye yezinkinga ezibaluleke kakhulu yikhono ukusebenzisa kahle esithi "wena," futhi "" e ingxoxo interlocutors ahlukahlukene, futhi ku kulungiselelwa izincwadi kanye nezinye imibhalo.

Eyokuqala "Bhalisa" amazwi esinenhlonipho nemishwana

Kuyaziwa ukuthi eyaziwa eRussia okokuqala amafomu esinenhlonipho yekheli ziye ebekwe uhlobo ebhukwinitifundvo esavela 1717. Le ncwadi, iyiqoqo okwenzeka iqhaza siqu UPetru mina, wabizwa ngokuthi "Youth esibukweni ngikhuluma iqiniso, noma izinkomba for imikhuba yezwe engenza" futhi ehlose ikakhulukazi abasha baseRussia.

Emhlabeni nenkathi efanayo, enforcers engumbusi ifomu European zokuziphatha, kuqalwe kusetshenziswe ama-isikhalo "wena" waziboleka kusuka eziningi izilimi zakwamanye amazwe. Ezinsukwini ubudala, laba sebuningini afinyelelwe kuphela uma umuntu, uma befuna ukunika amagama anencazelo ekhethekile. Ngu "wena," njengoba bekuyosho ukuthi umuntu wedwa kuwufanele eziningi. Ukuphathwa kanjalo isiphethe ngezilokotho ekhethekile.

Ngo-1722 Peter Ngangiyingane "Uhlu Amazinga» idokhumenti ─ ngokuchaza afanayo lempi, empini enkantolo lifaka, okuyinto wabahlukanisa ngezigaba njengamadodana amakilasi 14. Kuyo, phakathi kwezinye izinto, wachaza indlela ukusingatha inhloko esicongweni. Amafomu zazihlukile futhi zithembele osizweni isikhundla sayo esiphakeme emsebenzini, kodwa kuzo zonke izimo edingekayo ukwelashwa lisebuningini, ezifana "Mhlonishwa" noma "Umusa wakho."

"Inhlonipho Twisted"

Kuyathakazelisa ukuphawula ukuthi ajwayeleke kakhulu kithi namuhla isikhalo "wena" singagxila isiRashiya, zokunqoba ukumelana, ngezinye izikhathi lovela abameleli imibuthano okuqhubekayo iningi nezazi kazwelonke. Ukuze ubone lokhu, vele uvule isichazamazwi ochazayo V I. Dalya, esihlelwe ngomumo phakathi kwekhulu XIX. Kuyo umlobeli oluvelele Russian futhi wesichazamazwi ephawula yezikhalazo "wena" njengoba ifomu osontekile nangesizotha.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kwenye yezingxoxo zikaCharles azwakalisa ukugxekwa yilabo bafundisi kufaneleka futhi empeleni kuyadingeka ukuze bathi kubafundi bakhe, "wena" kunokuba ukubaphoqa ukuba uvule "wena ngokuzitholela 'ngokwakhe abacabanga. Manje isikhundla esinjalo singamane kubangele ukumamatheka, kodwa eminyakeni engamashumi ayisihlanu edlule, yena bathola abasekeli abaningi.

Ezombusazwe, ehlasela silulumagama kwansuku

Ngemva nje Februwari Revolution, Isinqumo we Yesikhashana Uhulumeni abangu uyekwa futhi ikilasi kwababusi. Gone amafomu ngaphambilini osungulwe yokwelashwa ukuze nabameli babo. Bekanye nabo abaye bawela lingasetshenziswa kanye izwi zangaphambili "Mnumzane" futhi "ma'am", ngobuhlungu emva Okthoba Revolution endaweni yamukelwe kwamaSoviet, "isakhamuzi", "isakhamuzi" noma sexless ─ "umngane", aqondiswa ku kokubili amadoda nabesifazane. Nokho, lapho kunxuswa ukuba 'wena "yasinda, eba ngomunye imithetho eyisisekelo yokuziphatha enkulumweni yanamuhla.

Kwezinye izimo-ke bamukela, ebhekisela interlocutor, ethi "wena"?

Ngokusho kwezinkambiso olwamukelwa yokuziphatha, lokhu kwenziwa ngokuyinhloko ezimweni esisemthethweni: emsebenzini, izikhungo kanye nezindawo zomphakathi. Ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuthi "wena" saqhubeka sisebenza ezimweni ezilandelayo:

1. Uma inkhulumomphedvulwano siqhutshwa angajwayelekile noma yebo umuntu ongaziwa.
2. Uma izinhlangothi bajwayelene, kodwa aqukethe ebuhlotsheni olusemthethweni, ezifana emsebenzini, abafundi kanye nothisha, abangaphansi futhi abaziphethe.
3. Ezimweni lapho kufanele uvule nobuso engu amadala noma ukucabanga tebuholi.
4. Ekugcineni, izikhulu nokusekelwa abasebenzi ezitolo, izindawo zokudlela, amahhotela kanye nezinye izikhungo yalolu hlobo.

Kulokhu, kufanele ukhumbule njalo ukuthi izinga yezikhalazo "wena" umuntu ongamazi kuyinto evamile eyasungulwa imithetho ethize yokuziphatha kahle.

Kwezinye izimo, isikhalazo kungenzeka ku "wena"?

Ngo ethile, izimo ikakhulukazi ngokwethukela, nemithetho yokuziphatha inkulumo uvumele isikhalo "wena." Kuyafaneleka emsebenzini uma uxhumana nozakwethu ngaphandle kwenkululeko ukusebenza, futhi ekhaya noma eholidini. ifomu okunjalo ukwelashwa kungase kubonise kobungane nobudlelwane phakathi interlocutors, futhi ukugcizelela isimo angakahleleki ingxoxo. Nokho, ukuze sigweme ukuphindaphinda isimo ungakhululekile, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukusho "wena" Kuvumeleke kuphela:

1. nengangibajwayele Vala lomuntu okwadingeka abhekane nazo ngaphambili, futhi ubudlelwano okukuvumela ukuba sidebeselele izidingo ezibophayo kakhulu esisemthethweni ukusingatha.
2. Abadala ukukhuluma nezingane noma nabantu abasha.
3. Ngokwethukela kwencane noma belingana sabaphathi.
4. Ezingxoxweni phakathi kwezingane nabazali isiko yesimanje ivumela ukusetshenziswa "wena" njengoba omunye futhi enye inhlangano.
5. Intsha nokuxhumana zezingane phakathi ontanga, ngisho noma akuzona ujwayelene nomunye.

Ngokusho imithetho olwamukelwa yokuziphatha inkulumo, kubhekwe ngokuphelele engamukeleki ukwelashwa "wena" abantu abasha (kokubili ubudala futhi isikhundla emphakathini noma olusemthethweni) wesikhulu esiphakeme. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uphawu lokuziphatha okubi futhi ukunambitheka embi iyindlela ethi "wena" abasebenzi kusukela phakathi kwabasebenzi kwezikhungo.

Ezicashile abaphathi bezokuxhumana ukuze abasebenzi babo

Ingxenye ebalulekile yokuphikelela imithetho yokuziphatha emphakathini ukulawula ukusetshenziswa "wena," futhi "" ku yokusingatha aphakeme kucabangela. Ngaphandle eqele ngalé yawo ngokulinganisela, umphathi angakwazi ukukhuluma umsebenzi "wena" kuphela uma unethuba ayasabela ngendlela efanayo. ngokuvamile Lokhu kwenzeka uma efakwe ubudlelwano ngokwethukela phakathi kwazo. Kungenjalo, ebhekisela ilawulwe "wena" kungaba ukwephula esobala yokuziphatha inkulumo.

Ukusungulwa amafomu angakahleleki ikheli

Emacophelo ukufaneleka olwamukelwa ukuhlinzekela inguquko phakathi kwesibambisene nabo nge "wena" ukuze "wena." Nokho, kungenzeka kuphela lokhu ikakhulukazi ezimweni lapho phakathi kwabo ukumisa uhlobo ezifanele nobuhlobo evumela ukuthi esikhundleni engxoxweni isikhalazo esisemthethweni ku-ngemfudumalo nangobungane. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi nga pre-existing kokungathathi hlangothi sengqondo agodliwe komunye nomunye akuniké yokuzakhela Kuhlangana ezithile.

Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi izinkambiso owamukelwa ukuziphatha unikeze isikhathi esithile edingekayo ukuze ukuphola kwezomculo ngesikhathi isikhalo "wena" isinikeze indlela evulekile ngaphezulu futhi enobungane "wena". ubude bayo lithembela ngokuphelele izimfanelo siqu interlocutors futhi yizimo zangaphandle.

Kubalulekile kungabonakali uthwebule isikhathi kuba lapho kungenzeka ukunikeza umlingani engxoxweni niqhubeke "wena", njengoba kwaba njalo endabeni ka-nephutha futhi ukuhluleka kwawo nakanjani kuphakama isimo esiyinkinga. Ngakho-ke, ukushintsha indlela yokwelapha edingekayo ukuze babe nesifiso womngane wakhe. Sohlangothi olulodwa ushintsho olufanayo engxoxweni phezu "kwakho" nakanjani akwamukelekile neze, ngoba nakanjani ngeke libhekwe njengelingcwele ukuntula inhlonipho kuya umlingani wawo, futhi enwetshiwe begodu ulise ke.

Lapho lolungakahleleki "wena" usuthathelwa a akanhlanhlatsi ngaphezulu "wena"

Inkulumo etiquette of isiRashiya futhi inikeza ushintsho kusuka friendly "wena" lulandela kakhulu imithetho "wena", kodwa ekuphileni kwansuku zonke-ke kwenzeka njalo. Noma kunjalo, kungenzeka ezimweni lapho ubudlelwano phakathi interlocutors zibe zimbi kakhulu futhi kuthathwe bemvelo luyingxenye esisemthethweni. Lokhu kungenzeka ngenxa ukuxabana noma yimuphi umehluko omkhulu.

Ngezinye izikhathi isikhalo "wena" kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi ingxoxo esisemthethweni endalweni bese kwenzeka khona abantu okungagunyaziwe lapho izinhlangothi ngokuvamile ukhuluma nomunye "wena" kufanele athobele ukuhlonipha jikelele. Kulokhu, ababexoxa ngokuthi "wena" ukufakaza hhayi mayelana nokushintsha ubudlelwane obufanele, kodwa kuphela izici ezithile simo. Ngokwesibonelo, othisha abasezingeni khona abafundi bavame ukuxhumana nomunye "wena" Nokho, wasala yedwa, ngaphansi kwezimo ezifanele, angaba namandla okuwunikela an informal "wena".

lokubhalwa Ngokuvamile yokwelashwa

Konke imithetho ngenhla yokuziphatha kufanele kuqashelwe ezimweni lapho ukuxhumana akuyona lwamazwi ngokubhala. Kulokhu, esebenzisa isabizwana esithi, ezakho wena ngohlamvu capital kuwuhlobo Inhlonipho eyodwa kuphela endaweni ethile. Uma incwadi noma omunye umbhalo is kuguquka kwenani labantu, esebenzisa isabizwana esithi, ubuningi kufanele kubhalwe nge letincane (ezincane) izincwadi. Bhala "wena" ngohlamvu capital, ebhekisela abangaphezu koyedwa kuyiphutha.