Indlela yokwenza intombazane ukusebenzisa emva kwenu, noma Ukufunda ukukhuluma futhi ukuziqhakambisa

Okusanda wezwa ingxoxo ephakathi ezimbili tineyzhderov. Umngane uyabuza: "Indlela yokwenza intombazane ukusebenzisa ngemuva kokuthi? Ngithathe nje hhayi ukwenza lokho, lokho akusho ngisho bheka isiqondiso sami. " Futhi ngithola isikhathi sokucabanga ngomuntu omubi indlela intsha kanye nabantu abadala abakhuluma lolo limi. Running abasubathi enkundleni, izingane ukusebenzisa egcekeni, inja siphela emva enkosini yayo. Uma ufuna yokugcina ke, ngaphezu isifiso ukuze zidonse ukunaka abangani usezakhele igama njengomqambi "owesilisa", omunye izinzwa ungazizwa. Kodwa iSilekeleli Sokwazisa ngezithukuthuku ukunakekela intombazane ngandlela-thile ekutheni indoda ayikhali. Kungakhathaliseki ukusebenzisa le ntombazane yena? Wena ezithi azifane ukuze inja? Mhlawumbe kungcono nje ukumnakekela. Indodakazi yami sezwa lezi ukuphikisana, wathukuthela: "Uma umfana unesithakazelo kangakanani ukwenza intombazane ukusebenzisa ngemva kwakho, nje unquma ukuyisingatha uyinakekele noma cha. Vele namuhla, ngakho musa ukukhuluma. " Mina ngazi ukuthi namuhla, abantu abaningi uzama ukufihla imizwa Ukumemeza, ukunganaki, ukweyiswa kweqiniso. Ephendula umbuzo othi "yini okufanele uyenze, le intombazana yagijima," futhi ngifuna ukuphendula, umlethe eyayiseduze kwale nkundla. Kodwa ukuqaphela ukuthi abantu abaningi abasha manqikanqika isithakazelo, kodwa zama ukunikeza amathiphu ambalwa ku kanjani zidonse ukunaka kwanoma amantombazane. Noma, ngolimi intsha, "indlela yokwenza intombazane ukuba isebenze ngemva kwakho."

UMkhandlu wokuqala. Qala nge ngokwakho

Okokuqala, uzibuka esibukweni. ihembe Rumpled, izinwele ezingahlanjiwe, jeans namabala. Ungathanda ukuhlangabezana nentombazane? Ukuvimba leli khukhi kuzovikela ngokwami, futhi kuphela ke ukwakha isenzo esifanele.

Ithiphu ababili. ungadikibali

Zama ukufunda ukuqonda subtext. Phela, le ntombazane wayekhuluma "cha" angase abe namanani okungenani ezinhlanu. Uthi imatasa namuhla. Smile, ngokunqekuzisa ikhanda wase uphendvula utsi, "Awu, sobabili uyazi ukuthi ibhizinisi lakho -. Nje izaba" Ngisho uthole kuchithwa, ungayeki, ningabi Limp. Qiniseka nokuphikelelayo (kodwa hhayi awayiphazamisi). Girls sithande lezi.

Ithiphu ezintathu. Kungakhathaliseki kuyathakazelisa

Ukuze uqale ukuwakhipha kusuka inkulumo yakhe isisho ngawo saqala. Ngisho yedwa abangane abangcono kakhulu ungaphindaphindi imishwana enjengethi, "indlela yokwenza intombazane ukuba isebenze ngemva kwakho." Believe me, ukuzwa le nkulumo, yena ngokushesha uqala ukuthola ukuthi umgwaqo lwesikhombisa. Kungcono ukuba abe nesithakazelo kulokho abakulindele, i igunya indilinga labangane, babe nekhono lokuqonda. Yini ezithakazelisayo ngokwako kuka inhlonipho uma usebenzisa, ngokushesha ukufinyelela umgomo. Qina, musa ugazi futhi musa bangahloniphi. Ethakazelisayo. Ngizokuyisa ingxoxo ngendlela waqaphela ukuthi manje ubuza imkhiphe. Futhi ukumamatheka esikhundleni ebukekayo, futhi nomuntu obuka iwashi, vakashela sekuyisikhathi ukubaleka kunjalo.

Ithiphu ezine. Funda ukulalela nokuzwa

Ngisho usebenzisa imisho efanayo, amantombazane kungaba ukuveza imicabango ehluke ngokuphelele. Omunye umyalezo wokuthi naye wamenywa ngosuku, kungaba ucingo (mangingabe!), Ukuzama ukuhlola ubuvele (Nokho, ungenzani?) Noma ngenhloso ukuthola ukuthi wena ungumuntu olukhuni. Ngakho-ke, enye intombazane kuyinto ngempela aneliseke impendulo: "Khumbula, nginani, mina ngeke lusebenze" Enye kungcono ukucela ukuhambisa ngosuku ukuya nawe amabhayisikobho. A sesithathu sithi yini akudingekile, ukuvela ekhaya lakhe phambi lowo okumemile (empeleni noma kuphela amaphupho) imkhiphe. Futhi ke nje uhambe.

Ithiphu Five. ikhanda

Owesifazane "ukusebenzisa" musa ukuphoqa. Fall othandweni naye, yena-ke qiniseka ukuthi ukuthandana nawe.