Ukuzethemba: Indlela Gwema Ungesabi ithandiwe

Ngifuna ukuxoxa indaba eyodwa. Ngathola incwadi.

R. uyabhala: "Namuhla kwadingeka usuku. Okokuqala. Muhle igeza. Emzimbeni yakhiwe kahle. Yena usebenza njengomvikeli welungu. Ngiyithandile impela.

Bese wonke okungahambanga kahle. Ngazizwa silingo eqinile. Uma ukubukeka emehlweni akhe, bese ngilahlekelwa intambo ingxoxo, ikhanda lakhe ukudonselwa emahlombe akhe, emahlombe esishubile, umlomo wakhe ogcwele amathe. Futhi amehlo akhe dephula nangapha. Siza ke ngeke benze lutho. Ngangethukile umzimba wonke. Ukwesaba ngoba akathandi. Angikwazi ngisho ukutshela ukuthi livelaphi. Ngifike zonke! Okokuqala, ngesimo emizweni, bese sebenzi it jikisa nga ulwazi, e ithemba! Njengoba uma umuntu waba enkulu kakhulu futhi lihlakaniphile wangenza niqonde ukuthi ngisenguYe sibi kwezinga le nsizwa. Njalo ijaha kakhulu lingawazi. Futhi lolu lwazi, Ngingumfana sibi kakhulu kunalokho okuboniswa kuye ukuza kimi, hhayi ngamazwi, kodwa njengoba okunye. Kodwa Ngiyaqonda kahle kuye. Ngisho Akungabazeki kwakukhona. Ngase 'etshela "ukuthi angifaneleki ngakho. Engikubongayo ongangeneki kuye. Muhle kangcono kunami.

Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, angikwazi ukwenza lutho. Njengoba uma Hypnotized. Uyazi, hypnotist uthi: "Wena log." Futhi uqamba amanga ezihlalweni ezimbili, eyodwa ngemuva ekhanda, izithende - ngakolunye. Wena - ilogi yangempela! Hhayi kumnandi, kodwa ngempela! Futhi kwakungekho lutho awukwazi. Ngaphambi razgipnotiziruet owelapha ngokulutha ingqondo wena ...

Ngokuvamile, angizange interview ... Akazange shayela, hhayi siye sahlangana ...

Ngafika ekhaya ulusizi ngokomzwelo futhi bephelelwe ithemba. Baqala ukucabanga ... Angisona nakakhulu! Lutho neze! I am a young (I am 25) futhi emuhle. Wayemude emncane ngomzimba futhi ukwenzela ukungena okuncane kakhulu. With ukubhuqa izinwele abomvu abacaphuni. Diploma ye eMoscow Pedagogical Institute. Dance rock 'n' roll. Ngihlezi phezu Twine esiphambanweni! kungekho awusebenzi akwesabe abangane bami ... Ngingumfana azizimbi !!!! Ubani kimi goodbye lapho ngithe kwakukubi? Futhi kungani Ngiyavumelana lokhu?

Cinderella zikhunjulwe. Lapho yafika ibhola esigodlweni, bathokoza kanye Prince, akazange esabe noma ukuphoxeka. Kube umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwakhe isikhulu kwezemfundo, isikhundla emphakathini. Nokho, naye wacala emanga ku-Prince, uhlelo hhayi bazichaya lokho empeleni. Kodwa lapha it is hhayi goodbye kuhlulekile, kodwa ngempela Kunalokho ... "

Kuyini lokhu kwenzeka? Mayelana ukuzethemba.

Isakhiwo jikelele self-eziyinkimbinkimbi luyinhlanganisela nemingcele eziningi kuhlanganisa nalokho okwakufuneka ukuze abantu ukuzethemba. High ukuzethemba - Ukuqaphela nokuzinyeza futhi ukubaluleka. Kuyinto - zamakhono siqu, ukuzethemba kanye ukuzimela.

Endabeni engenhla, ukuhlonipha self esikhathini kwalolusuku yena ngiyizwe. Self, e umbono walo, ayibalulekile yethulwa futhi ke kahle. Yena wayengazi ukuthi mina, sincike umbono wale nsizwa. Umqondo ukuthi akakuthandanga lokho, baholela ithemba. Ukuzethemba uphansi impela.

Nokho, lapho Robert esefike ekhaya, ukuzethemba saqala ukwanda. Kungenzeka kanjani lokhu?

Iqiniso liwukuthi ukuzethemba akuyona njalo. Isakhiwo jikelele wokwehlayo self-echaziwe yangasese self-ukuhlolwa.

Kutihlola nekuhlolana kuyinto imfundo ezimbili-level. Olunye ungqimba siqukethe sebuningini ukhonkolo-nesimo sokuzihlola komfundi, futhi kwakhiwa ezingeni lwesibili ezinzile, generalized, global sokuzihlola komfundi. Lapho bekunomhlangano, ukhonkolo nesimo ukuzethemba iye kakhulu phansi. Lapho esebuyela ekhaya, ezingeni ukuzethemba liye lenyuka. Lokhu kuyabonakala uma sibheka akhawunti yakhe.

Kungani lapho ukujola, ukuzethemba wehla ngqo. Kungenzeka, ngoba le nsizwa kwabanye imingcele emkhumbuza ebuntwaneni, umuntu abalulekile kuye. (Lokhu kuboniswa lokujabulela komzimba ezichazwe ngenhla). Ukwesaba akayithandi, ngamanye amazwi, kodwa ngukwesaba ka inyumbazane. Ungesabi uthole uthando. Lokhu kuza kwasebusheni bami. Lapho abazali musa ukufeza izithembiso zabo ingane indiva isicelo sakhe, ningathuli ngaye uthando, njll, ingane ukukhathazeka, uzizwa sinqatshiwe kanye neziteleka, unomuzwa wokuthi is not love. Ingane ikhula, iba umuntu omdala, futhi ukwesaba ukungamukelwa kanye abakutholanga uthando izinsalela ...

Lapho esebuyela ekhaya, umfanekiso umuntu okuphawulekayo phambi kwamehlo akhe esehambile, ngakho wayengakwazi ubuyele "lapha futhi manje" futhi ngizindle ngalokho okwenzekile. Wakhe ukuzethemba liye lenyuka.

Indlela ukugcina ukuzethemba ezingeni efanele?

1. Bheka value abo nokuthi ibaluleke ngani. Ngokwesibonelo, ukwenza uhlu izimfanelo zabo ezinhle yenziwa kahle, R., wabuyela ekhaya.
2. Okuvuma kuwe ukuthi benze yena ezidinga ukunakekelwa, ukunakekela nothando.
3. Khumbula izigameko kusukela eseyingane, okwaholela besaba izimo ezinjalo. Cishe, abazali waba nezinkinga ezithile siqu, ukuhlolwa kususwa lezo zikhathi ingane kubo. Bese abazali bami nje ikhohlwe phindela izicelo zingafezeki indiva izifiso kanye kwamaphupho. Noma mhlawumbe nje ukukhuluma nengane, Ngiyaxolisa, ngizobuya anisuthi. Psychology akazange ukufunda! Kodwa bona zisencane. Babethandana ngezinga ababengenza ngalo.

Futhi ngifuna ukugxila yokuthi okuhlangenwe nakho ezitholakala kulo mhlangano intombazane, eziwusizo kakhulu. I zengqondo abaziwa umhlaba wonke Viktor Frankl ukhuluma amagugu nesimo futhi okuphakade. Isimo - la amagugu lawa zahlulelwa nezimo ezithile futhi zihlala esiyingqayizivele. Kwenzeka ngesinye isikhathi kuphela ekuphileni kwakhe. Futhi ukubaluleka nesimo ngakho umuntu ungathola isikhathi 1 kuphela empilweni. Uma walahlekelwa, kulahleka phakade. Okuningi it is hhayi kudlalwa emuva.

Ngokwesibonelo, le ntombazane yayingakaze izinhlelo kusihlwa: massage, okuyinto yena ubhaliselwe ngeviki eledlule. Futhi kungazelelwe! Insizwa yase-iqembu lakhe sikhungo ukumema vakashela. Lapha kuba value nesimo. Okwenzekile! Uma intombazane ukuhlehlisa mashi kuya masseur futhi wamukele isimemo somhlangano, ke maphepha kungasho ukuthi bayisebenzisa kahle le simo, okuzoba ukubaluleka kwayo isimo. Futhi uma engawuboni wamukela isimemo, ukubaluleka kulahleka. PHAKADE. Lesi simo ekuphileni kwakhe akusoze!

Yingakho empilweni yami kufanele nokuqalisa zonke izici oyoletha value eliyingqayizivele futhi okungavamile.