Uyintombazane: yekubona yokuphunyuka

Sekuyisikhathi eside abesifazane akuyona ukumangala ubufakazi bokuba khona kwalesi uhlobo amadoda njengoba "uyintombazane." Futhi muva nje wobulili namandla abantu angena ngaphansi kwalo ngezigaba lokho, kuba more. Kungani lokhu, chaza ngokukhanyayo akekho, kodwa lokho infantilism e iphutha yendodana yakhe unina - ke kuyiqiniso obungenakuphikwa. Ikakhulukazi "izimo" mnene sonnies inakekelwe ezidunjini ezomisiwe, abangenalo indoda. Base "shift" zonke uthando lwami ukunakekelwa ngokweqile ingane.

Laba besifazane sezigugile ngenzalo yabo, like inkukhu neqanda: okuphakelayo, amanzi, isilwane ihembe, izingubo zangaphansi futhi amasokisi ukugeza, elaliswa bacule lullaby. Futhi konke azihlanganisa syusyukanem, naphezu kweqiniso lokuthi ingane eside kusukela iphuma ngineminyaka emihlanu futhi ngikhuthele baba ngokugcwele ovuthiwe ngokobulili, nendoda ayilutho. Kodwa kunjalo azimele ngempela uma umama yonke indawo elawula ke? "Ningayi lapho, ukuze enze abangane, ungakwenzi lokhu ..." futhi ngokuvamile ephuzwini kanjani yilokhu ukuba unina enquma lapho indodana yakhe encane ukuba bafunde futhi umuntu azoshada naye. Futhi kungaba ukushada ...

Ngisho noma uyintombazane futhi uthole ecabanga umkhaya wakhe, unina ukuphumula namanje ngeke. Ikakhulukazi uma kuphambene izimfundiso zalo, ngeke ishade intombazane, ayesikhethile kuye. Phela, kungenzeka kanjani lokho? Wabuza ukuthi umfana wakhe, ephakanyiswe, inakekelwe futhi holila, nobusuku akozeli, futhi lapha woza abanye "coquette" wasisusa yengcebo. Kodwa kuthiwani ingilazi yamanzi ekugugeni kwakhe? Futhi ukuqala kufihlwe (futhi ngezinye izikhathi evulekile) impi ngokumelene indodakazi, ubani ageze izitsha akuyona kunjalo, ihembe akuyona njengoba unhlangothi futhi, ngokuvamile, ongamthandi indodana yakhe. Ngoba umama ngempela kuphela ongakwazi ukumthanda. Futhi yena kancane kancane uqala ulungise ngimdala izinyane umkakhe Ngokuphambene.

Le ndoda, yebo, ekuqaleni inkani, kodwa ngokushesha uthola belunjani kwesokudla nomama, futhi ukuqhathanisa nge unina nowakhe umfazi Akuthathanga sikhathi ukulinda. Owesifazane onomyeni - a uyintombazane, kufanele yokwehlisa isibhakela futhi kuyoba ngcono umalokazana (okuwukuthi, isimiso, akunakwenzeka kusukela umbono umngane womshado) noma ukufaka isicelo sesehlukaniso.

Okwesibili, ngeshwa, kwenzeka kaningi ngenxa yokwenziwa yinoma imuphi owesifazane Sane ungathanda ukuba zinakekele impilo yakhe yonke ukufukamela indoda omdala, abangakwazi ngisho ukuthola ukudla esiqandisini, ingasaphathwa usizo ngemisebenzi yasekhaya?

Ngakho-ke, uma ungafuni ukuba ngibophe abanhliziyo ukuphila kwabo indoda ngabo ukuba umama izwi - iqiniso eliphelele, kubalulekile ukufunda ukuhlonza yawo ngisho nangaphambi ubuhlobo zavyazhutsya sina. Ungenza lokhu ngezinye izikhathi ngqo, ngezinye izikhathi - emva kwesikhashana, ngoba manje amadoda kwezinsana kungabonakali bona njengoba okunokwethenjelwa futhi beqiniseka. Ngakho uma umngane wakho entsha - uyintombazane, izimpawu kuzoba okulandelayo:

• Wayevame kakhulu futhi ngesisa esikhulu ngawe ukuba wakhe umama (umama, mamulenku, umama, njll) kanye bangase bacasulwe ngisho othukuthelela umbuzo wakho abangenacala ngokuphathelene nobudlelwane bayo ne unina.
• Njalo ubiza nonina ekutshela ukuthi ikuphi, nobani nokuthi yini isikhathi ukuza ekhaya.
• Ifuna "bonisa" unyoko ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuze, esimweni bokungamukeleki, ungachithi okwengeziwe wena sinye.
• Egqoke futhi ayesebenza kunganambitheki nje ngoba umama wakhe kangaka.
• Ayinakekele ngesisa abanye amasokisi, scarves kanye sweaters ne reindeer (futhi egqoke kubo, ngisho noma alondolozwe kusukela ezinsukwini esikoleni), ngoba umama wathungela noma uthenge.
• It uyakwazi ukuletha ugwayi katiki ukuba intombazane ukuthi wayengeke ukumshada kuphela uma emva komshado bazocula umsebenzi ofanayo ngendlela efanayo ukuthi lomzali yakhe ethandekayo.
• Akukona ukwenza cishe akukho mzamo ukunqoba kwakho, ngoba kuyinto priori ezithile ewufanele kuphela intombazane ozoyenza ngayo umoya wokushisekela efanayo unina. Uma ungaphenduki, kuyobe sekuba i-umfazi omubi ngakhoke akufanele uhambo yokudlela (abafana ezinhle isidlo santambama ekhaya), izimbali (zinikelwe umama kuphela ngoMashi 8) nezipho (izipho zabo umama kuphela ngesimo sweaters ne reindeer ).