Kanjani ukuba ihlukane nomkayo

Isehlukaniso manje - ke cishe nsuku zonke futhi ajwayelekile. Phula imikhaya abancane nemindeni ngomuzwa. I iphutha abesifazane, kanye iphutha amadoda. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubani owayebaluleke ibangelwa yokuwohloka kwemikhaya, inqubo yesehlukaniso kubuhlungu ngokwanele kokubili.

Lesi sihloko senzelwe kwabesilisa kunikeza amanye amathiphu nezincomo, kanjani ukuba afuna isehlukaniso kumkakhe.

Ngakho, siye Ngishoné ehlobo lothando futhi romance. Asebenza, okucasula futhi aversions abe nokuphila-abalingani. Ubuhlobo ukuphula, futhi umndeni - on the esengozini wokugoqa. Ngo ikhanda lami bephikelela eshaya wacabanga ukuba ihlukane nomkayo. Kodwa indlela yokukwenza, ngoba nakanjani kulandele usinga futhi izinyembezi zesifazane, inhlamba icala? Ngisho nokucabanga ngakho kuyethusa. Kodwa ungacabangi kakhulu akunakwenzeka. Ukuphila okunjalo akuyilethi injabulo, lutho kodwa usizi nokucindezeleka.

Kanjani ukuba ihlukane nomkayo ukuze le nqubo akubi buhlungu zombili? Okokuqala, uma unquma ukuthatha lesi sinyathelo, kufanele siyisebenzele ngokwethembeka futhi ngokungagwegwesi ngomkakhe. Ukushesha lokhu kwenzeka, isikhathi esingaphansi kuyoba iconsi. By endleleni, uma ungazimiseli, futhi ungazi indlela engcono yokwenza lokhu, ukukhuluma kanjani ukuba ihlukane nomkayo, futhi kungaba uchwepheshe. Isazi kulesi simo kungaba wusizo kakhulu. Okungcono kakhulu, yebo, ngabe ufisa kangakanani ukuthola imvume owakwakhe futhi ukuthola bayekelele zonke izindaba ezivela inkambo amacala ezehlukaniso. Nokho, akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukwenza. Lapho bangadlala indima "endabeni isimiso". Umfazi Ezingalapheki uyokwenza noma yini ukuze casula. A option enhle kuleli cala, hhayi kuphela izoshintsha indawo yokuhlala, ukuhambisa liphuma esidlekeni umndeni, ukuze singathwesi senze isimo sishube.

Iphuzu elibalulekile kwabaningi bekuyoba kubuhlungu umyalezo izindaba ezingase uguqule yonke yokuphila kwezingane (uma ikhona). Kulokhu, uzodinga isibindi sakho, isineke nesisa. Izingane noma kunjalo waphinda akufanele ahlupheke. Isehlukaniso kanye nokwahlukana indlela yabo ajwayelekile zokuphila ne nonina noyise ngibanike ukucindezeleka ngempela futhi uhlobo ukulahlekelwa. Ochwepheshe ezindabeni ezinjalo kuyosisiza ukuba ngithole amazwi afanele futhi bushelelezi amaphuzu abukhali.

Ngemva isinyathelo sokuqala kakhulu sina (umyalezo nomkakhe nezingane zabo ukuba izindaba ezishaqisayo) akudingekile yokwelula inqubo: imibhalo lokufaka isehlukaniso kufanele ukuqoqa futhi zizithobe emagunyeni afanele ngaphandle kokulibala. tape red akekho uye wazuza.

Nakuba elinde isikhathi esibalulekile kumelwe sikhumbule umthetho osemqoka: ungakhohlwa ukuthi lapho usuxhumene lona wesifazane uthando nezibopho zomkhaya. Ayikwazi uthukuthele lokunyathela konke lokhu kwelinye Shintshela ngokuwa. Isehlukaniso umkakhe akufanele avuse isimo ngale sisonqenqemeni okuvunyelwa. Inhlonipho ukuphila cishe engumngane wangaphambili kumelwe sihlale ngiqhubeke kuyo yonke inqubo yesehlukaniso futhi ngemva kwaso. Indlela engcono kakhulu kulesi simo kuyoba ukulondolozwa kobungane nobudlelwane nge obeshade. Yiqiniso, ningenzi lula, kodwa kungenzeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kumelwe sikhumbule izingane nakanjani ukuba sizigcine. Kule nkathi lapho futhi kulula ngakho, ngakho kufanele sizame ngempela hhayi kuze limele them ngokungazi nakakhulu.

Elinye iphuzu elibalulekile ekuqhubeni isehlukaniso kuyoba umbuzo ukuhlukaniswa kwempahla. Inkinga abaningi bomshado kuyinto isikhubekiso. Futhi lapha lokho akusho ubuhlungu ukupha nokubonisa ukuza isinqumo sayo ngokuqonda, kucatshangelwa izithakazelo esiyisibopho izingane. Kulokhu, kungase kube iseluleko ezidingekayo futhi zomthetho, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ummeli. Nokho, njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, kungcono ukuthola isisombululo ebucayini.

Isinyathelo sokugcina kungaba isivumelwano owayeyintombi yakhe unkosikazi emihlanganweni yakho nezingane Yiqiniso, uma ungenawo banqume ukuthi izingane (noma izingane) uzobe ukuhlala nawe. Ngisho ngaphansi kwaziphi izimo kufanele isehlukaniso akufanele kube isithiyo ubuhlobo bakho krovinochku nomndeni wakho.

Manje ngoba sewuyazi ukuthi kanjani ukuba ihlukane nomkayo futhi ukukwenza ngendlela ophucuzekile.