Indlela uyasinda ekufeni kothandekayo

Ngamunye wethu ngokushesha noma kamuva, kwenzekani ngokusebenzisa nosizi elihlobene ne-ukulahlekelwa umuntu oseduze nawe futhi obakhonzile. Ukuze kabusha ukuzwa ukuphila okugcwele futhi uzizwe ibhalansi, kudingeka Adalberto isikhathi eside nokusebenza ngokuzikhandla ngakuyena wena. Indlela uyasinda ekufeni kothandekayo? Lo mbuzo abakwazi ukunikeza impendulo esiqondile njengoba sosizi nokulahlekelwa - kuyinqubo eziyinkimbinkimbi, okuhlanganisa inombolo okuthiwa Izinkathi zesikhashana futhi esibucayi, okuyinto ongathanda ukukhuluma ngokuningiliziwe.

Eyokuqala amahora angama-48 umuntu kubhekene ukushaqeka omkhulu we ukulahlekelwa sife-phambili, yena enqaba ukuba bakholwe ukuthi kwenzekani. Ezalandela ngesonto ikhanda ukuphotha ukucabanga nendlela sokuqhuba imingcwabo futhi babhekane ngokuphumelelayo zonke izinkinga, ngakho okwamanje, nokuba nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa njengoba idluliselwe ngemuva lubonakaliswa umqondo yokukhathala ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo, ukulahlekelwa amandla. Kulesi sigaba, umbuzo kanjani ukuba ibhekane nokufa kothandekayo, udla kakhulu.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi nenkathi esukela amasonto amabili kuya kwamahlanu, lapho umuntu ibuyisela ekuphileni kwakhe kwansuku zonke, iqala ukuba nebhizinisi njengenjwayelo, uya emsebenzini, azizwa umuzwa wokuba nesizungu nokuba uzoshiywa, kokubili abangane nomndeni. ingqondo yakhe njalo ukuphotha imicabango sendlela uyasinda ekufeni uyise, noma kanjani uyasinda ekufeni umama, anakho cha fanele bono kanjani ukwenza evamile izinto ajwayelekile ngaphandle kwabo, ngaphandle amathiphu zabo, izincingo, sokudla nomndeni. Phakathi nale nkathi, imizwa ka ubuhlungu, ukulahlekelwa, namanje enamandla kakhulu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi lushelele wacabanga umuntu ukuthi akusiwona ezimbi kakhulu, kodwa ukuphila kuyaqhubeka.

Ngo isikhathi esingamasonto 6 izinyanga 3, ukucabanga nendlela uyasinda ekufeni kothandekayo, ungashiyi, ngoba kulesi sigaba ngendlela abafundi abaphumelela ngayo ukushaqeka, futhi omunye iqaphela ekulahlekelweni ngokoqobo. Phakathi nale nkathi, omunye oye ukulahlekelwa abangane nezihlobo, kubhekene ububanzi sasivumela ebanzi imizwa, ngezinye izikhathi ngisho kahle wazibamba. Ngaso nje kulesi sigaba woza nakho ezifana nokushintshashintsha kwemizwelo, ubuthongo ompofu, ekuhlaseleni simbe okhalayo, ubuthakathaka, ukukhathala, uhlanyiswa, imisipha Isakhiwo sazamazama, ushintsho, umsebenzi wocansi, umuntu kunzima kakhulu ukugxila into ethize, yisisusa esibaluleke ongaphakeme, efana ubumfihlo kanye njalo ukukhuluma ngomufi.

Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, endaweni ethile phakathi 3 kanye 4 izinyanga, umuntu uqala umjikelezo okuthiwa izinsuku ezinhle nezimbi. Phakathi nale nkathi, anda acasulwe ubala, futhi kwehle umqondo ukubekezelelana mayelana sigameko. Ngoba isimo ecindezelekile kwandisa ukukhula imikhuhlane nezifo ezithathelwanayo. Kodwa ngemva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha, umuntu ahlangabezane imizwa yokucindezeleka. Lesikhatsi lesi ngempela nzima kakhulu, ngenxa nemigubho, zokuzalwa, amaholide, okuyinto sisabalalise imizwelo.

Ngemva konyaka, lapho sidlula weminyaka engu lokuqala ukufa, lesi sinyathelo kungaba senguquko, noma esibuhlungu, kuye ngokuthi imiphumela sabhekana nalo kulezi ngonyaka. Esikhathini kusuka izinyanga ezingu-18 kuya ku-24 ngemva yesehlakalo esibuhlungu uqala "zisakaza". Umuzwa wokulahlekelwa iba abantu ukubekezela isithwathwa isiqala ukubuyela ekuphileni kwabo kwansuku zonke, kukhona okuthiwa yokuvalelisa oshonile ngezinga ngokomzwelo.

Ngizothanda futhi ukunikeza ezinye iziqondiso zendlela uyasinda ekufeni kothandekayo. Ukuze uqale, kudingeka bakwemukele isimo, ngilande yonke imiphumela yokufa. Akunakusetshenziswa musa ubambe wonke imizwa, ngifuna ukumemeza - ngikhale, ukuhleka - hleka. Xoxa nabantu obathandayo ngemizwa yakho ngokumelene nabo, kancane ukuba yedwa ngokwakho. Ungakhohlwa unakekela impilo yakho, ukudla ngendlela efanele, ukudlula lapho ngihlolwa. Yiba nesineke sakhe, zinike isikhathi sakho wenze nomzamo lokulungisa ukulahlekelwa othandekayo. Zibandakanye, njengenjwayelo, ukukhathazeka encane yasekhaya, kuyokusiza waphinda azethembe kakhudlwana.