Indlela ukusinda ukukhashelwa othandekayo futhi uqale impilo entsha

Isikhathi esining impela ezimpilweni zethu kuyenzeka ukuthi abantu ababili ukuba abhekane ke uzizwe uzwela nomunye, lazama ukujabulisa, ukumangala nokwethusa ukuthandana, futhi ubonise futhi ubonise bonke izimfanelo zakho ezinhle kakhulu uhlamvu. Isikhathi sihamba futhi ufunde ukuthi omunye wakho othandekayo uye washintsha futhi athembeke kuwe? Yiqiniso, okwamanje, kubonakala sengathi ukuphila sesiphelile, noma abangahambisani udinga akusenjalo akanandaba lutho, uzizwa nokunganaki okugcwele konke kulokho angase abe ngaphambili injabulo, injabulo nokwaneliseka. Kulesi simo, iningi lethu, wesifazane othandekayo, ngisho akakwazi ucabange ukuthi uyobhekana kanjani ukukhashelwa othandekayo futhi eyoqala ukuphila okusha.

Yiqiniso, anakekele othandekayo kunzima kakhulu ukusinda, Nokho, kungenzeka. Kodwa kanjani ukusinda ukukhashelwa othandekayo, futhi kanjani ukushintsha, ukuba bathuthukise ukuphila kwabo ngaphandle kwalo, incike kuwe kuphela. Abanye besifazane abangamaRom babesizakala sokudiliza ngengqondo, futhi kuze kube phakade, futhi abanye ukuthatha yena esandleni futhi safinyelela entsha yemisindvo. izintokazi othandekayo, khumbula: konke lokho kwenzeka kithi noma kusenza namandla, namandla ephakeme Awukwazi ukuthumela izilingo esibhekana abakwazi ukubhekana.

Indlela ukusinda ukukhashelwa othandekayo umuntu? Okokuqala, kufanele ubhekane ne zabo imizwa, intukuthelo, ukucasuka, ukudabuka, inzondo. Ukuze wenze lokhu, ujoyine i-ejimini, izintaba ukukusiza unciphise ukucindezeleka futhi ukuqeda yokuthonywa imizwelo engakhi. Kufanele sikhulume futhi, ungalokothi ukugcina elimazayo nemizwa nemizwelo, kuyodingeka ngikushiye. Khuluma nabangane bakho umhlabeleli noma amalungu omndeni uma ukuthola kunzima ukuxoxa nothile, bese uthatha ephepheni bese ubhala konke ukucabanga futhi uhlangabezana. Khalani, ngoba akuyona into exakile, eziwusizo kakhulu, amemeze uthatha ibhodlela angenalutho futhi abashaya komqamelo, ukwenza lutho, yebo, ngaphakathi isizathu, kodwa kuphela khulula ngokwakho kusuka mizwelo.

Libuye yithuluzi elibalulekile ucinge impendulo yombuzo kanjani ukuze usinde ukukhashelwa umyeni wakhe, kuba ukucacisa izizathu inhloso ngoba isenzo sakhe. Lokhu kungenziwa ngokuzimela, ukuhlaziya zonke kwenzeka, noma ngosizo abathandekayo, futhi mhlawumbe ngosizo wezengqondo afanelekayo ukusebenzisana nawe ukusiza lungisa isimo iphutha. Kulokhu, noma kunjalo, musa icala ngalokho okwenzekile, njengoba kuzo zonke izimo zokungezwani icala njalo abantu ababili abafunga ukuthi asikwazanga ukuthola ebucayini, sifunde ukuthanda, ithemba, ziyahlonishwa futhi ziboniswe sakufanelekela pair of nomunye.

Cabanga nje abesifazane abaningi kanjani ngokucabanga ngendlela ukuze usinde ukukhashelwa othandekayo, futhi abaningi babo ake abayeni babo, inhlanhla futhi uqale ezimpilweni zabo phezu ipilo etja. Bheka wena esibukweni and smile wena, ngoba ukuphila akumvimbi. Khumbula kutsi kukangaki we jeza beseseGibithe besendlini isikole, kusukela iqiniso lokuthi umakhelwane ayisekho Misha ukudansela isiginci sakhe kithi pigtails. Isikhathi sidlulile, futhi ungazange ngisho ukukhumbula. Ngakho-ke kuyakuba naye, wena nje kudingeka donsa ngokwami ndawonye bashintshe ukuphila kwabo.

Qala ngokuthenga izinto ezintsha, bese wenza kwekhanda esicindezelayo. Akunakusetshenziswa musa ukuhlala ekhaya ngokwayo, aye kubangane ukuvakashela, ukuya abazali bakhe. Invent ngokwakho wokuzilibazisa omusha, wokuzilibazisa, kuba kokuthikamezeka ezinhle kakhulu zonke izinhlobo zezinkinga, kusukela imicabango emibi futhi lokhu kuletha ukuthula nenjabulo zokuziphatha. Qala ukuvakashela yeshashalazi, zokubukela amabhayisikobho, hamba nabangani bakho e izindawo eziminyene, ngoba kukhona ungabona amadoda amaningi kangaka amahle, Cabangisisa nokunenhloso ubani, sengathi, ufuna ukuqala umndeni ashintshe ukuphila kwakhe.

Kuzothatha isikhathi esincane, futhi umbuzo kanjani ukusinda ukukhashelwa othandekayo, ngeke zibangele noma iyiphi ukuphendula, ngoba ukuphila kwakho entsha kuyoba ukukhathazeka okuhluke kakhulu, izinhlelo, imigomo, nothando izithakazelo!